AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

[princesspicker]

Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

So you'll be totally down to help your SIL have a lovely, peaceful wedding she's happy to look back on by abiding by her request not to wear anything white then yes? And you'll be absolutely willing to help with childcare if they have children right?

That's not a very nice thing to say.
I have noted earlier that 3 women with strong personalities have clashed - not just over a dress. Shoes. Destination. Payment of wedding event. Child care. Lots of things.

This is not a white dress. 🤷‍♀️ But if bride isn’t keen wear something else. She’s going to be in your life a long time.

So I can’t speak my mind unless I pander to the OP? OP doesn’t have a strong personality, she has main character syndrome. But yeah you pander to the OP because it’s the OP and I forget that MN states you can’t say anything negative about them.

also it’s not a nasty or hash thing to say. It’s blatantly obvious OP can’t cope with her and her daughter not being treated like princess.

Why does your mum have to be the one to ask him for his availability when you need help with childcare? Why don’t you ask him?

OP what is your mother wearing?
Do you know what in-laws will be wearing? Have your family had any communication with them?
We all want more details. We have another 13 pages to go.
Plus we want an update after the wedding

No, I’m giving you some idea of what is normal in our family. Since some people are saying it’s white despite the link to the dress saying cream. I would call it floral. She is marrying into our family and this is how we do it in our family.

She does seem utterly obsessed with looking and feeling special. There must be a lot more going on behind the scenes. 🤔

He’s also marrying into her family, do you expect him to accept all the ways they do things too?

Ffs, just choose another dress and stop being a cunt.

What does that even mean this is how we do it in our family? You only wear cream to weddings in your family?

You’ll find your brother is marrying into SIL’s family.
Bye bye brother!
You’ll no doubt be happy that your high principles have caused all of this, if you’re not happy you can blame your daughter 🤣

I bet she wishes she could have him without the family!

Eh, the bride sounds like a nightmare but given it’s your new SIL, just get a new dress to keep the peace.

I genuinely can’t tell if the OP is a troll or a lunatic (which is the sign of a good troll TBH so if you are trolling then bravo!) but it’s quite fun trying to figure it out.

"some people are saying it’s white despite the link to the dress saying cream."

This thread HAS TO BE A WIND-UP!!!

Did mummy pay for your dress too @princesspicker?

And do we have to wait until Thread 3 to see the totally not a flower girl dress you’re putting your daughter in?

The more of your posts I read the more I am convinced this isn’t real, or if so, you’re an absolute fucking nightmare

Just came on to say this. PLEASE post a link to what your daughter is wearing 😂😂😂

Cream or white 🙄

What an absolutely bonkers thread.

I work with 4 year olds. They absolutely would understand explaining you have chosen to change dress because you shouldn’t wear anything too white to a wedding. That’s not hard to understand. The bit about the child at least has to be made up.

buys Mini Me dress from Flower Girl Boutique
I WON’T BE POLICED

100%! I would love to see her little girls dress.

The bride sounds like a nightmare?

Have you read all of the OP's posts on both threads? The only thing the bride has done is
request a dress type not be worn and that isn't an unusual request.

When I say family I mean by blood.