AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding? Part 2.

[princesspicker]

Old thread nearly full. Some of you are saying if people had seen the dress straight away the votes would be 99% against me, let’s see about that. At least half the other thread say it’s fine to wear this dress.

From the old thread:

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding.

The dress: https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-floral-dress/0126-5675-9022L00-CREAM-MULTI.html

BD’s gf (bride) saw a dress that is similar to my dress. She saw it at my mum’s. It has a pattern but with short sleeves and some ruffle. It is one of my dresses and I had left it at my mums house. It is not the dress I’ll wear for the wedding.

She called that dress white even though it has a pattern. She told mum that it would be inappropriate to wear for the wedding day. Mum and I think she pretended to think it was one of my mum’s options, since it was clearly not something mum would wear anywhere.

This all happened because my mum was showing her all the dress options she had in mind for herself for the wedding.

When bride raised this with mum, mum told her not to worry because she (mum) won’t wear white.

Which is true regardless of if you say the dress is white or cream or whatever.

After this happened, my brother started asking everyone what they would be wearing.

Old thread: www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5546975-aibu-to-wear-a-floral-dress-my-brothers-girlfriend-calls-white-to-their-wedding

princesspicker · Today 12:29
Because now I’ve shown my DD and she loves it on me. She said I look like a princess. If I change it I would have to explain to her that mummy won’t wear the princess dress and it will upset her.

How old is your daughter? Tell her it’s not your day so you don’t want to look like a princess. Just for this day her aunt ( bride) is the princess.

Or classic navy and pink which you can’t go wrong with if navy suits you

https://www.hobbs.com/product/carly-dress/0226-5677-9045L01-MIDNIGHT-MULTI.html#lang=en&q=Carly&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0226-5677-9045L01-MIDNIGHT-MULTI&pos=1

your daughter will still see mummy in a pretty dress and learn about respect and that it’s her special aunts day.

If you’ve already bought accessories they can be swapped or might go with any of those.

The OP is really enjoying winding everyone up. Please don’t bite!

Goodness me but you really are a nasty piece of work. Why would you even go to the wedding as you clearly hate your brother’s fiancée so much.

And your mother paying for somethings is not your mother enabling a wedding. Nor is the wedding your mothers wedding just because she’s financially contributed as you stated on the other thread.

Can’t wait for part 3

I can't believe this is still going. And I can't believe I'm still reading!

Good Grief.
I hadn't considered that the 2 families may meet for the first time at the wedding. Now you really have set my head spinning.

Come on OP. Update us on the in laws. What will they be wearing??

I wonder if OP is from a traveller family, and her dress actually is a princess dress, not the she's shown us?
And her 20 year old daughter is also going to wear one?

🤔

There's also a pretty pale pink which others on here have suggested.
There's also other wedding guest dresses in different styles available.

And! Hey OP!
The last wedding that I went to, several guests changed into a different dress for the evening. Daytime was formal, evening reception less so.
I have changed into a different dress at previous weddings.

Go for it! 2 dresses.

I totally agree with you! Is she a troll?

It's Saturday today OP. Please put your daughter in the car and drive to your nearest branch of Hobbs or John Lewis.
Tell her you're going to look and see if there are any prettier dresses available. Or any colourful accessories to make your pretty dress look prettier. Or a second evening dress.

Please do this. Please get off mumsnet and do something proactive.

I'm going gardening. When I get back there will be another 5 pages to read

THE DRESS IS NOT WHITE ITS CREAM! And the bride has not seen the dress.

Wrong on all counts, I just think people are being really mean to the OP and people are making rules and etiquettes up. And just like you, I can voice my opinion as the OP asked for it, I just don't think you need to be so cruel.

I saw the dress on his first thread, I made comments that reflect my feelings, thoughts and experience. I said there is nothing wrong with the dress, it conforms to all wedding etiquette, dresses with white or cream backgrounds are one in every three wedding guest dresses in most major outlets. So I am clearly not alone.

I also said as the bride has not seen the dress, and the dress is cream not white, its up to the OP if its a hill she wants to die on. Personally I would coordinate with a pastel jacket or cardigan and matching shoes/bag to highlight the difference.

I happily stick by everything I have said.

That's really nasty

With a comment like this you definitely sound like the OP.

Cream is no better, it's basically just a shade of white and is very much a bridal colour. As a PP has posted above, there are about 30 different versions of this same dress that would be more appropriate, including lots of floral styles. She has literally chosen the one option that is predominantly cream/white.

This for example would be much more appropriate, and is nicer anyway IMO:

https://www.hobbs.com/product/petite-carly-floral-dress/0126-5540-3525L04-IVORY-MULTI.html#utm_campaign=skimlinks_phg&utm_medium=affiliates&utm_source=partnerize&app_clickref=1101lDvSGLwd&clickref=1101lDvSGLwd&q=Carly&lang=en&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0126-5540-3525L04-IVORY-MULTI&pos=5

what on earth are you talking about, “wedding guest dresses”, like retailers have a subsection for that in shops and you’ve done some form of statistical surgery, honestly how ridiculous. . Very few women wear white cream or ivory to anyone else’s wedding, it’s well known etiquette not to, and as said of the three I went tk this year not one woman was in white cream or ivory.

in fact I have a gorgeous dress I wished to wear to one and it is floral and has a white background, much much less than the ops, and my mid 20s daughter told me no way, it wasn’t worth it, she also showed her partner and friends who all said the same thing, this is a common thing.

think about what you’re doing, this poster thinks this isn’t even this couples wedding, it’s her mothers apparently, and it is her mothers celebration of the couple and only the mother counts, she has been asked not to wear this colour out of respect for the bride, and even knowing this, that this etiquette exists and at least every second woman attending if not more will think the ops is deeply inappropriately dressed, you’re still on here urging her to wear it posting made up stats to support your bizzare assertion.

this isn’t eastenders where you get to urge posters to do inappropriate things for your own amusement or enjoyment of drama.

there is no such stat as you are stating on wedding guest dresses, making shit up and posting it to support you doesn’t mean anyone believes it.

‘good grief,

Exactly!

What… it’s a cream dress with a pink floral pattern! Nothing wrong with wearing that to a wedding

I can tell you've just joined this thread and not read all of OP's updates (let alone Thread 1)...

I am not the OP and I stand by my comments. You do you and I'll do me!

At this point I just think your here to rage bait

its absolutely acceptable and perfectly fine that this bride doesn’t want people wearing certain things because it’s her wedding it doesn’t mean it has to be to your acceptance and im
finding it hard to believe with your attitude youd be thrilled if someone turned up wearing white to your wedding and in my opinion your ex had a lucky escape in not marrying you

"Good grief" indeed lady. I am allowed to have an opinion and as to "like retailers have a subsection for that in shops", that is exactly what many do as you can see below so maybe check what you are talking about before you slag me off. And interestingly enough the dress the OP has selected to wear is in Hobbs Wedding Guest section.

Next online -Women's Wedding Guest Clothing | Next Official Site
Hobbs - Wedding Guest Outfits |and its this section you will find the OPs dress
John Lewis & Partners - Wedding Guest Outfits | John Lewis & Partners
M&S - Wedding Guest Dresses at M&S

So all of the designers, manufacturers and retailers who sell wedding guest dresses are wrong because you say so? Are they in the habit of selling stuff that no-one wants or are they in it to make money??? Be Realistic.

So YOU stop making shit up and not acknowledging the truth. I am NOT the OP and am entitled to my informed opinion.

You are insufferable and an attention seeker. Respect the bride‘s wishes.