AIBU to say no to my teenage daughter?

[NoTeaForMe]

My 15 year old DD wants to go to the beach tomorrow with a few friends (school is closed due to the heatwave). It’s around 1hr 15mins away by train and they want to stay all day. Trying to give bare minimum facts, what would you say?

Hell no. Unless you go and stay nearby.

No

I don’t understand people saying no… why on earth not? They’re 15 not 11!

I would say yes

No way. No issue with the distance or her age (I think a trip to the beach would be fine if it wasn't a heatwave), it's just A) We're meant to only be using the trains for essential purposes and B) it'll be scorching at the beach, I don't think it's sensible to be outside all day

Safety in numbers. I don’t think I’d have a problem with this as long as it was clear they all stayed together the whole day.

Of course they should go!

I cant think of a reason to say no

Is she meant to be doing work set? Can they go on Saturday? In some places advice has been essential travel only especially by train.

My main concern really is the heat….and the sea. It’s set to be 37 degrees here.

For me it would depend on who she's going with and whether you know them to be sensible and will they stick together ? Also worth checking the trains in your area as a lot of services have been negatively affected by the heat with a lot of cancellations, are they confident travellers?
With temperatures set to hit 35 degrees on the coast, are they sensible enough to go in the shade at midday or will they allow themselves to get burnt? All those sort of questions. My son spent a lot of time on the beach at 15, but we live 10 minutes walk away and he knows to respect the sea and do as he's told by lifeguards

I would. Nice to get a bit of independence. I’d quiz her on how they’ll get home if the trains go wrong though.

As long as they're sensible and can be trusted not to do stupid stuff like leave their phones unattended on the beach or swim out of their depth on inflatables. Just hammer it into them, sunscreen, shade, water.

I would say yes

No. The whole point of the school being closed is that's it's too hot in the classrooms and there is a danger to life. So they should be safely at home where they can't overheat!

Id say yes. I was going off places like the center of Bristol city with mates from about 12. If you believe her and the mates are sensible then say yes. Ensure she has money (cash) for emergencies, sun cream, and advice about the sun and let them go. She's 15. Next year she could be travelling much further for work/college and for longer.

God no. It's far too hot for the beach (depending on where you are of course)

The distance and travel wouldn't bother me if it wasn't for the weather warnings.

No. Because the trains are so unreliable at the moment. My 2 DC have cancelled plans for this week/weekend, because of the intense heat and the unreliable trains. There will be other times. It's only June. The temperature is due to be in the 30s again tomorrow. So no.

Also, as has been said, we've been WARNED to only travel if necessary, so to travel for a jolly at the beach is ridiculous.

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School day?

I was allowed to do this at this age but I never let my daughters as I don't like the thought of them in the sea without me being there and especially with friends who they will be showing of infront off. If it was an 1hr 15 to a city for shopping id have no issue its purely the beach that scares me

My DD14 was down the beach 45 mins away all day yesterday with her mates she had a blast

I would say yes but on the condition her life 369 remains active and she checks in regularly and answers her phone if we call her. If she’s not happy about this then she does t go

Absolutely not.
Its a health and safety thing.

Can they hang out at yours?
Is there a nearby park with good shade for a picnic?
It's too hot.

I live by the sea…

look how many kids lost their lives during the last hot spell? Even seasoned sea swimmers!

sea swimming when it’s incredibly hot is extremely dangerous as the body quickly goes into shock.

please make sure that if she goes into the water that she is aware of this and goes no further than waist height especially if alcohol and tomfoolery is involved?

You mention her age - I'd say she's absolutely old enough to go and am a firm believer that withholding independence does a lot more harm than good.

So, question to you, if she was 21, how would you feel about it? Or if your partner wanted to go? The answer to those questions should eek out your true concern. If it's a genuine heat / safety thing, her age is irrelevant, and make that clear to her.