AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

You are being a drama queen making this all about you. Everyone knows not to wear white to a wedding ( or cream!). What if the bride's dress is like the one Beardy Schnauzer posted on page 2? She is right you are wrong no matter how pretty the dress you chose is.

I assume the similar dress they saw is a white/cream dress with floral accents too. If OP is so convinced they won't care about hers she wouldn't have created this thread, and she could always send them a picture to confirm either way.

We don't know what the invitations said, and we don't know what dress the bride is wearing. But we do know the bride and groom aren't happy at the moment. If OPs dress is so fine then she should send them a picture to put their minds at ease.

It's sad that OP thinks wearing cream to her brother's wedding (because her's didn't go ahead) is more important than how her brother and his bride feel on their wedding day.

You seem determined to piss off your future SIL and brother and cause drama and a potential family rift. Its their day, not yours. Just buy another dress.

I think the dress is fine BUT I wouldn’t wear it if it’s going to cause an issue, it’s not worth it. Could you wear the pink option? It’s really pretty.

It’s not, mum told me what it looks like I just can’t tell you because she made mum promise not to tell anyone and this thread has gone crazy so if she ever comes across it she’ll know mum didn’t keep her secret

Is it a traditional wedding dress?

She'll know your mum didn't keep her secret as you've just said she didn't.

Yes very OTT traditional

Look Ms Haversham - it's not your wedding, pipe down and don't die on this particular hill...

She won’t because loads of people buy this dress as guests so it could be about any wedding, as has been said by many people in this thread and the reviews

Swap it for the pink one if you are set on the dress.

This.

The no guests wearing white rule just means don’t wear a dress that looks like a wedding dress. Presumably so no-one mistakes a guest for the bride. It doesn’t mean that a dress/outfit can’t have any white on it at all.

There’s no way OP is going to be mistaken for the bride in the dress she has bought.

Why do you feel the need to say its OTT? Your attitude towards her is very dismissive.

😆😅😆😅 you're mum has paid for things so in some ways it is her wedding. Crying tears of mirth here.

You are a SILzilla of the highest order 😆😅😆😅

Why not send this picture to your brother and his fiancée, @princesspicker and ask them directly if it is OK - and if they are still not happy, even if you offer to wear a jacket or shawl in red or green over it, then it would be polite of you to accept this, and get a different dress.

Personally, I think that dress is entirely suitable for a wedding, but I’m not the bride or groom here, and I assume you don’t want to cause a big falling out on their special day.

🤣🤣🤣

White/cream/off white are not for weddings.

Even blush pink or pale yellow can be considered too close to white.

Your dress is predominantly cream, and you know the bride doesnt agree with white (aka cream/off white etc) so I definitely would not wear it.

Yes you should have something special, but i would not wear that dress.

I voted yanbu as assumed more floral now seeing the pic I have changed.

Oh - and the fact your mum has paid for some of the wedding does NOT make it in any way her wedding, @princesspicker! That is a ridiculous thing to say.

We helped fund ds1’s wedding and are helping fund ds2’s wedding this autumn, and we know that gives us exactly zero say!

Oh these tantrums with guest’s outfits is nuts. All white isn’t right - but anything else, wear what you like. 🙄

Fucking hell love, buy another dress.

Very OTT traditional

Jeeeez I'm surprised they even invited you

There would be no wedding if she hadn’t helped them so I think it’s fair to give her a bit of say on things. Instead they’ve completely kept her out of the loop

This is the most insane thing I’ve ever read.

Hang on so now we're saying that a female guest can't even wear other pale pastel shades?!!!

This thread is truly insane now 😂

This.

I can guarantee that if OP's wedding had gone ahead, and his brother's fiancée had worn this dress, OP would be kicking up a stink about how disrespectful she was to wear white.

What a drama llama.