AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

I would avoid it personally. There are so many other beautiful dresses to choose from, and white/cream will draw the eye in photos in a way that’s a bit distracting. That said, you clearly don’t care what others think and are going to wear it come what may, so knock yourself out.

Ok this thread is mental and probably a wind up… but in what world is this a casual summer dress?

But it most definitely isn’t your mum’s wedding no matter how much cash she’s stumping up.

So if they haven't asked you not to wear the dress they haven't seen why does your brother keep asking you if you have a new dress?

Why does your brother think you are wearing white if your mum didn't say anything and they haven't seen your dress, do you have form for this sort of thing?

The dress is very light cream with flower/floral placements. The cream colour still stands out as the predominant colour. I wouldn't wear that to a wedding (except my own), especially if I knew the couple getting married would have an issue with it.

Well I don’t think you’re coming across brilliantly here OP, but the dress is not remotely bride-ish and seems absolutely fine for a wedding guest. 🤷‍♀️

I am too old and grumpy to give much of a shit about weddings though.

That’s not something that worries me tbh, the family is important to him

This is the most batshit thread I have read in a while.

Don't wear that dress. Not worth it.

But you're willing to upset your new sister in law? Do you not like her?

It's her wedding day, over something so small I wouldn't want to risk upsetting her, that's just mean.

Personally I don't see anything wrong with it. Send your SIL that and ask if it's ok. When she says no, but the other one, the Lilac one, which is a lot nicer.

I had a look at the last society wedding, Peter Phillips. Catherine was in a full cream outfit and so was Camilla !

The dress is very pretty @princesspicker but you can't possibly think it's OK to wear as a guest for a wedding. You KNOW it's too white. 'Cream' indeed?!
You KNOW it's inappropriate, or you wouldn't have started this thread!

As I said, why do sisters, sister in laws, and mother in laws (of the bride) pull this shit?!

This has to be one of the most pointless threads ever. The OP has absolutely no interest in whether they're actually being unreasonable or not, just in an argumentative bunfight because they believe they are 100% right.
So we've got page after page of nonsense that increasingly shows that there's a whole lot going on in this family other than whether a dress is too white. Either that, or it's a wind up.

Why should you having had to call off your wedding mean that you get to wear something that they don’t like at theirs? You need to be careful spouting that one - you come across as someone who wants to make their day, and this argument, all about you.

It’s not worth it, OP - just wear a different dress. I’m afraid it being their day trumps whatever has caused you to dig your heels in over this.

IMO the OP is more desperate to wear this dress than she is for the bride to be happy on her wedding day.

Not good. 😕

Honestly, op you sound like a bit of a nightmare sil. Some of us may think the dress is fine for a wedding. Others will say it is not suitable. It does not matter. The Bride and Groom do not want you to wear it. Change it to something that does not have white in it. Don't cause unnecessary stress or drama.

I am sorry that you had to call off your wedding but that is not a matter for this situation.

100% this. I'm out. The OP clearly thinks she's right and has every intention of wearing the dress, despite her (future) sister in law being unhappy and angry that she intends on wearing it, and asking her to NOT wear it!

I'm embarrassed for the OP. Imagine being THIS desperate to be The Main Character on someone else's wedding day!

Enjoy the future with your new in-laws @princesspicker Good luck. (You'll need it!)

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Agree with the last couple of posts, it's beginning to look spiteful.

She needs to run then

Why wouldn’t you just change your dress to be respectful for someone else’s wedding? Especially as the bride and your brother has communicated this?

The dress you posted is pretty and personally don’t think it is too white/bride like.

BUT the point is the bride has expressed this matters to her and your brother.

Remember you will be on their wedding pics forever - it’s their day be graceful and grant them their request

Oh. Hang on?
What is the bride wearing??
Is she wearing a white wedding dress?
Or is she wearing a floral dress?

I had automatically assumed white wedding dress.
Now it's something 'bigger' than OPs dress.

The hobbs dress is marketed as a wedding guest dress. The carly style has been popular for years. I know at least 2 people who have worn it to Royal Ascot. It often pops up at garden parties etc.

i know someone who automaticallygoes to phase eight for an important occasion. Weddings, social events, awards ceremonies. She always looks lovely. I bet if she posted her dresses on here, the critics would say they look vile.

It's too hot to do any gardening, so I am reading this thread.

It’ll be fine if you wear it with a pink or green hat/jacket/shoes/bag. On its own it’s a bit bridesmaidy.

Nothing wrong with that dress.

It is not the dress that I imagined. I thought it would be white with a tiny floral pattern. The dress you choose is lovely for a wedding and not bride like at all. I doubt she’d see that as a white dress.

It’s not about upstaging. 🙄

The dress is fine IMO

BUT the bride and groom have specifically said they are not comfortable with it and would prefer OP to wear something else.

In your shoes OP I can understand being a bit grumpy about having to find another dress- but I would not dream of wearing something the B&G had said they don’t think is appropriate.

It’s really not relevant what we all think of the dress. It’s their day.