AIBU to wear a floral dress my brother's girlfriend calls white to their wedding?

[princesspicker]

My brother is getting married in three weeks and I’ve bought a fairly expensive dress for his wedding. His gf saw my dress and said she thought it was inappropriate because she claims it’s white. The reality is that it’s not white, it has a red and green floral pattern. I don’t really have time to find a new dress but my brother keeps asking me if I’ve found something new, saying he and his gf are worried other guests will talk about me behind my back if I show up wearing something white (it’s not white!!). I think it’s so rude that they’re trying to police what I wear, especially when they know I had to call off my wedding last year and he’s my brother so I should get to wear something special to his wedding!

Ok OP your not 44 but your still in your 40s , after now seeing the dress , personally I think it perfectly fine for a wedding. However your SIL to be has a problem , so send her the link and ask her if it’s ok if not , you have 3 weeks to get a new one … it’s your brothers wedding look at the bigger picture.. it’s really not your day

This thread is just nuts.

You are obviously going to wear the dress anyway and your new sister in law either will or will not judge you for it anyway 🤷

There are nicer dresses in Hobbs for the same price. What about the Maddie?

If so, then the only person whose opinion matters on your dress is your mum's. Does your mum approve of you wearing the dress to her wedding?

Soo, your stb sil hasn't even seen this dress? She hasn't really objected to you wearing this dress too her wedding , because she's never seen it.
Sorry, but what is this thread about?

This post is 100% raigbate

If she has seen a similar dress and commented it was too white, I would really change the dress. You really risk causing ill feeling on the day and it could actually damage the relationship.

In terms of the dress itself, it does have quite a bit of white/cream - some find this ok and some an absolute no. It doesn’t really matter what anyone else thinks though because your future sister in law has the former opinion.

Can you return the dress? Or keep it for another summer occasion this year and find an alternative?

If the 0.0000000001% that this thread istrue

bow horrific is your behaviour. It’s her day. Like it or lump it

you won’t post the dress. Won’t keep the details straight. For the love of your brother if she doesn’t want you to wear the dress. NOR DOES HE!

the ln respect them or don’t go

However there is no way this post is true. You’d of posted the dress or something similar

It’s fine. Wear it. Look at what the royals were wearing to Peter Phillips’ wedding, eg Kate wearing cream. Imo it’s mainly lower classes who tend to care a lot about this sort of thing.

Personally I think that dress is lovely for a wedding and your soon to be SIL is being a bit precious and swallowing the influencer crap about what guests wear. But if there's a chance your outfit is going to cause upset it's best to change it as it's just not worth the stess on the day or the fallout afterwards. You have three weeks and there are hundreds of wedding guest dresses in the shops at this time of year.

Not white, my arse! This has to be a wind-up. Wear it, everyone WILL think you're nasty.

The answer is to ask your brother if this too white. The answer will be yes. Change the dress.

The 'cream not white' thing is irrelevant.

if you had a blue version of the hobbs dress that would be better.

Wow, imagine being so invested in a dress you’d front up in that and piss off the bride and groom, and have at least half the guests cringing every time they looked at you, embarassed for you. And arguing it’s cream not white like that makes a difference,

yes it’s too white /pale. You know this,

don’t be a dick op. The fact your wedding was called off doesn’t entitle you to be a dick. Alternatively don a veil, grab a bouquet and you will look the part as you walk up the aisle to your seat.

but yeah , don’t be a dick, get another dress.

Probably because the Royals get dressed up and doted upon and feel special/beautiful all the time. For a lot of normal brides this is the only day they get.

Kate was wearing beige, it certainly wasn’t cream nor could it be mistaken as cream, none of the guests did that,

Yeah... that's predominantly white as it has large swathes without floral pattern. This must be a fake post looking at replies now tbh, but I'll just say if its real, that is too white/off white/cream for a wedding.

If you have to ask, then it’s a no. @princesspicker

Princess Kate weighing in with sound advice yet again.

You and your mother sound like hard work.

good one @princesspicker

I don't get why everyone is saying it's too white for a wedding! It's not at all bride-like in my view.

In any case OP, just send a picture of it to the bridezilla and ask her what she thinks. It's not what you think that's relevant here.

Dress is perfect for a wedding. It’s not white! Wear it!

I think that the bride sounds like a twat. She saw a random dress at your mum's house and she had the cheek to tell your mum that she wasn't allowed to wear that dress at her wedding? That is so rude!

i think this is surely the answer, send a picture to the bride

the other hobbs one is more floral - so go with that perhaps?