AIBU to think neighbours should not be naked in their garden?

[babypickles]

For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

"No thank you, I'm not joining in your sex festival!"

I’d hate that OP, people are so selfish and disgusting. I hope a bird swoops down and pecks their bits off.

He or she would probably avoid staring out the window, but OPs 11 year old thinks it’s funny anyway.

A massive merkin? That was my suggestion for a solution

I used to live next to swingers so I know how you feel but at the end of the day live and let live. I will say tho, they were actually great other than that. Always willing to lend us stuff even if occasionally a bit overfamiliar.

Do tell him the neighbours are nudist - doesn’t have to be a bug deal

@Pinkchickenwinemy dc do not avoid windows either

Breaking news: child discovers adults have bodies.

Each time they come out in the buff I’d pop my head over the fence for a wee chat about why the recycling bin didn’t get collected this week. Or can I come over and borrow two eggs for a cake. Or chuck over a ball and ask to get it back. Or comment how nice they are having a party and is that John from church? Neighbours are part of a community after all.

Shouldn't be doing this if children are able to see

They wouldn't care. It wouldn't embarrass them.

😆😆😆😆 yes I’m sure he had no idea that bodies existed before this, we are all just floating heads!

YANBU @babypickles This is deeply odd. Who does that FFS?!

Not gonna lie, I'd be telling them to stop, and if they don't, I will call the police (101.) I'm not joking. I would if they didn't cease and desist.

Ignore people saying they're not doing anything wrong. They ARE if it's bothering/offending neighbours.

In England and Wales, it is not an offence to be naked in public, but there are caveats attached as you cannot be nude with the intention of causing "distress or alarm" - as this is an offence under Section 66 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003.

The Crown Prosecution Service says: "In the case of naturism a balance needs to be struck between the naturist's right to freedom of expression and the right of the wider public to be protected from harassment, alarm and distress."

While you might be on your own property while in your garden, most people living in terraced houses and semi detached (and even detached in some cases,) will know that it's often fairly easy to catch a glimpse of your neighbour's garden, even if you're not intending on snooping.

This means that even though you're not necessarily naked in public, you could still cause "distress or alarm" to your neighbours - although you're only breaking the law if you "intended" to do so.

So yeah, tell them to stop, or put screens up if they are so desperate to be bloody naked.

I don’t mind naturists, I would just avoid those areas

what areas? I mean some might be well known like swannage but some less so.

There is a fairly famous forest near me, popular with families and kids. I was cycling on my own there once and came across three naked men. Well they had shoes on and rucksacks. It’s a bit disconcerting to come across naked men when you’re on your own miles from anywhere. It’s put me off going back. I googled when I got home and apparently there’s been a few complaints about them before but the police say they can’t do anything! It’s certainly not an official or even well known (to non naturists) naturist area.

Wow - I couldn’t even put washing out in my pjs and dressing gown as our neighbour always stuck his head over the fence to see what I was doing! I put the fake ivy bush stuff above the fence now so he can’t but it drove me mad!

So I guess I’m of the opinion of people should be able to be left alone in their gardens away from nosey neighbours.

What a thoroughly ridiculous post. 🙄 Are you saying you would be OK with your small children seeing the man next door's penis, or his hairy arse, if they happen to glance out of a window into the garden next door? (Or the woman's breasts?) Do me a favour! I don't believe ANYONE who says they would be OK with this.

You don’t know ;)

Normally British summers only last a couple of weeks, so it shouldn't be a massive problem. I'd honestly be more distressed if they were having loud drunken parties, that would be impossible to ignore.

Although i'm sure MN crazies would tell me if i don't like loud music i shouldn't be evesdropping 🤣

Noooo you play yours louder that is always better classical.

🤣

Then tell him not to look and don’t look yourselves !!

I know you’ll get lots of ‘stop looking’ responses, but I agree op. It’s not acceptable for grown adults to be completely naked on their garden when they have immediate neighbours. Swimming costume, yes. Completely starkers, no. There’s no need dor
it for a start. It’s just odd.

Funny isn't it that not so long ago there was public outcry and outrage because of the Police Forces known record of not taking flashing seriously. And that flashing was seen as a joke, even though many sexual offenders began as flashers before going on to commit much more serious offences.

Yet here have posters on this thread deriding and laughing at OP because she is perturbed by people cavorting about naked in full view of their neighbours .

So nothing has changed has it? Women were laughed at for being upset by flashers. And a woman on this thread is being ridiculed for being upset by her neighbours public nakedness. Women are destined not to be taken seriously aren't they?

AI response

In the UK, being naked in your private garden is not automatically a criminal offense. However, because your garden is overlooked, you could be charged with "indecent exposure" or causing "harassment, alarm, or distress" if a neighbor reports you and police determine your actions were intentional.

The Legal Threshold
Intent is Key: Under UK law, a person commits an exposure offense only if they intentionally expose their genitals with the aim of being seen and causing someone alarm or distress. Simply being a naturist or sunbathing without clothes is not a crime if you have no intent to upset anyone.

No Expectation of Zero Visibility: While you have a right to enjoy your property, the law requires you to strike a balance between personal freedom and the right of the public to be protected from distress.

Practical Precautions
Screening: If your garden is completely overlooked, you may want to take reasonable steps to prevent views, such as using privacy screens, strategically placed parasols, or high garden fencing.

Communication: Police often advise that letting your neighbors know you practice naturism can resolve awkward situations before the authorities get involved.

Naturist Resources: If you are a naturist and face issues, you can seek formal guidance from organizations like British Naturism.

If a neighbor repeatedly goes out of their way to peer into your private space to watch you, they may be committing an offense, but to protect yourself, ensuring you are screened from plain view is the best approach.

Nah that’s not on. They know they can be seen and get a kick out of it.

I have had a hot tub for 6 years. At no point I we ever been naked in it
Also live on a new estate
The next thing you know there will be shagging in the garden at these parties. I’d be calling it out

My neighbours sponsored me for World Garden Naked Day

It's surprising how much money they were willing to give to charity in exchange for a binding promise that I would not take part