AIBU to think neighbours should not be naked in their garden?

[babypickles]

For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

This is why we need the laugh back 🤣🤣🤣👏👏

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Is this the same country where we have ten years of argument about the 'rights' of random men to get naked around girls and women? What if OP had a daughter of 11? The mind boggles; either we have laws and protections against indecent exposure or we don't. They know their garden is overlooked by other neighbours including children. YANBU.

The replies on this are baffling. I really think a lot of users hang round AIBU to play devil's advocate, taunt other users or are a particular type of nuisance man contributor.

I think it’s quite funny and would have a good look and a laugh myself. Not sure I’d want my pre teen staring at bush and cocks but I’d probably just tell them to avert their eyes.

Op looking isn't the problem is it - it's her son looking from his bedroom.

We have laws about public nudity for a reason - to protect minors

Assuming it’s the back garden I think you have to let it go - it’s not something I would do but it’s not illegal

Isn’t this the same line the TRAs use about women’s changing rooms?

they are entitled to be naked in their garden

Umm, no they're not. We have laws about public nudity, precisely to protect minors

@babypickles should report it to the police. No of course they won't come round with the blues and twos going, but it IS an offence and they will have to act on it.

This also reminded me of that.
They know they can be seen, it's part of the thrill.

I wouldn't want to see my neighbours naked, no way! However, in defence of OP's neighbours, if the only way you can see them is from an upstairs window, then I don't think there's much you can do about it. I'm assuming if you went into your own garden, you couldn't see them? That would be awkward.

You lost me at ‘playing the balloon game naked with their friends”
is this the game where you pass a balloon along a line of fully clothed people without using your hands? (The ball is tucked under your chin) The participants’ bodies are touching from neck to knee. With clothes on, it’s awkward but ok-ish. (That’s the whole point of the game. )
But played naked — ‘not sexual’ my arse! And also, I suspect, the whole point of the game.

Surely you have more than one window.

Personally I wouldn’t like it either. But they are in their own private space. It’s nothing to do with you.

Stop looking,

I think u should let them be and just do ur own thing.

Any pampas grass out the front of the house?? 😉

I agree. My neighbours do this and he is a much older man with a young girlfriend. He allows the girlfriend and her mates (who are also young) to do sex work in his house. He also has teenage daughters living in the house.

Being naked in your own garden isn’t automatically illegal, but it does depend on intent and whether you’re making any effort not to be seen.

On a new estate where everyone overlooks each other and the neighbours’ child can see straight into the garden, it’s not really reasonable for a group of adults to be wandering around fully naked. Once they’ve been made aware that they’re visible, they’re expected to take steps to avoid causing alarm or distress.

If they carry on regardless, the police can (and usually do) have a quiet word. It’s normally dealt with as a ‘please be considerate of your neighbours’ chat rather than anything heavy‑handed.

No one’s saying they can’t enjoy their garden, but basic courtesy applies when you’re in full view of other people’s homes, especially children

Yanbu and I’m rather surprised at how many people on here think it’s normal to wander round their overlooked garden with sack and crack on display

The amount of posters normalising this is shocking.

I don't believe for one SECOND that they would be all right with this in real life, if it was their neighbour who was in the garden with cock and balls and arse and fanny and boobs on show.

Nope, not one single micro second.

I can see at least 5 gardens from my upstairs windows, which I actually look out of frequently. For no other reason than its quite nice to look at the outside world. I wouldn't want to see neighbours playing naked games . It doesnt sit right. I cant believe so many people think its ok.

I am a naked or half naked neighbour. Not one of my neighbours has complained.

Maybe it’s because I’m female though so it’s seen as less offensive.

I can see straight into my neighbours garden, just standing in the garden. I would hate it, I would feel uncomfortable. They should at least make sure the fence is 6 ft and some sort of screening.
I don’t care if people think I’m a prude.
Plus the teenagers around me, would be looking out of window taking pictures.

Can’t believe they have no shame. They’re embarrassing.

Saw a post on here about the naked bike ride being unacceptable. Is that because its in public rather than a private garden?

Are you jealous? You know there is nothing wrong with you being naked in your garden!

It's not a crime. I wouldn't like it either but I know someone people who are naturists (not my neighbours) and they were reported to the police by a neighbour and nothing could be done about it.