For not sharing my food or giving my kid at 7 year old a taste of my food at restaurant?

[melindarra]

To say it clearly i let her choose from the menu what she wants. My kid is a very hungry kid😆 and eats faster than me and i need to sometimes buy her adult menu bcs kid menus here are literally portions for a tiny mouse😆 but me my self i dont like the tough Of others spit in my food or fork and yea.. including my own kid, pluss i think its nice to learn her that not everyone wants to share their food and that u should eat from your own plate because if she likes it then she wants another bite and start looking at your plate like she hasn’t been feed even if she has food on her plate, because its not nice to ask for someone else's plate. Especially since i let her choose whatever she wants from menu’s besides from very expensive dishes 😆

Personally for me if one of my children wants to eat / try something off my plate then I will 100% let them. I think you’re being really harsh actually. It is a non issue surely.

Hmm as a parent I feel it’s fairly normal to share your plate of food with your kid without complaining.

I'm 57 & my Mum would still give me her last Rolo 🥰

No she 'sounds like' English isn't her first language & perhaphs her culture re food is different, though must other cultures are more sharing around food than us Brits are.

I don’t read it as ESL. It reads as strong regional to me, somewhere like Birmingham where that kind of usage is common.

borrow me, learn her for example. Normal speech pattern in some areas.

i had it beaten out of me, but it does make it easier to spot the conversational grammar I learned from friends vs written from school and books.

So English is your first language?

There's no charge here for text, so you can use whole words. You don't need to use text speak.

Yes, seems like it's not a 'second language ' thing.

yeah I have family who use borrow/loan, teach/learn 'colloquially'

but that doesn't explain all of the more 'interesting' bits of it. 💁🏻‍♀️

I thought the OP was drunk too. The OP is barely intelligible but it was 04:12 hrs.

There are dickheads on this thread but OP ain't one of them.

It looks like English is not their first language tbf.

I have OCD so I've never ever let my kids touch my food/plate/cutlery even when they were tiny, however, I don't object to cutting them a bit of my food and putting it on their plate for them to try. We all have boundaries and they should be respected, but I feel like sharing food with your family is a very reasonable and normal thing to do.

Yanbu to not want to share cutlery or plate with your child and I agree getting another person's spit onto something I am eating or drinking from is horrible even if it's my own child.

But you are still being unreasonable because despite giving your child choices, they are still hungry, and it's entirely appropriate to give them some of what's on your plate - it's easy enough to ask the restaurant for a spare plate and put some on so that you aren't sharing plates or cutlery, and if that leaves you at risk of being still hungry at the end of the meal order something else. Restaurants exist at many different price levels, do not go to any restaurant where you can't afford to order enough food for both of you to feel adequately fed. It's good parenting to share a little of what you order in a restaurant if the child is "playing safe" and ordering only familiar food but you are eating something less familiar. You don't have to share plates or cutlery to do so.

@Imalittleelf Maybe teach urself some manners before commenting u sound so judgy. Pluss i live in norway so i dont use english here u dumbtruck

@melindarra , there is no need for that.

@BleedinglyObvious so for me not but all nasty other comments theres need for that? I think thats kinda doubble standard but Ok.

Be the better person, @melindarra .

I did think you were drunk or extremely tired in the OP but I got the gist of what you meant.
Your child appetite doesn't sound normal. You are the parent - you decide what is shared. Teach her how to behave around food or avoid restaurants until she can behave appropriately.

I’m surprised it’s taken so long. OP has been personally attacked repeatedly on this thread.

I would like to add offering someone to try your dish is different to a child at the age of 7 or older (even adults) just expecting to have some of another’s plate or helping themselves. Regardless whether I am their mum or not. Would I expect my children to help themselves and expect to have some of my dish no I wouldn’t, would I offer them to try a bit? on occasion yes I have done.

Same here.

OP - children need someone to
learn them manners and to try new things. That’s you.

Also - ordinarily I’m very much of the “Joey doesn’t share food” train of thought but I would absolutely share with any of my children. You’re mean.

You seem to view your daughter as if she is suspiciously eyeing up food on your plate. Which is not a good thing. You buy her adult meals sometimes. Perhaps she should have them all the time now? You don’t say how old she is. Ask your Gp? Don’t think your child is being manipulative. She is being hungry.

@Monty36 , You don’t say how old she is. Did you not read the thread title?