For not sharing my food or giving my kid at 7 year old a taste of my food at restaurant?

[melindarra]

To say it clearly i let her choose from the menu what she wants. My kid is a very hungry kid😆 and eats faster than me and i need to sometimes buy her adult menu bcs kid menus here are literally portions for a tiny mouse😆 but me my self i dont like the tough Of others spit in my food or fork and yea.. including my own kid, pluss i think its nice to learn her that not everyone wants to share their food and that u should eat from your own plate because if she likes it then she wants another bite and start looking at your plate like she hasn’t been feed even if she has food on her plate, because its not nice to ask for someone else's plate. Especially since i let her choose whatever she wants from menu’s besides from very expensive dishes 😆

That's a weird and mean thing to do to your child.
Why can't you let them have a small taste? Their fork doesn't need to touch your plate.

On her plate (not in).

Tbh I don’t think OP is doing anything wrong. It sounds like her child is greedy and doesn’t have an issue with trying new foods so I think it’s fair to say no. She’s not being a dickhead by teaching manners

I share with my children when we eat out as there unlikely to order seafood dishes ect they’ll stay with what they know and I like them to try new things.

as for the spit on the fork comment, my children have coughed in my mouth or been sick on me as babies atleast a handful of times! It is what it is

When a toddler rings on the play phone, you answer. When a 4 year old says "hold hands mummy" you hold hands, even if you are cooking and need both hands. If a 7 year old wants to try your dinner, you share. This is being a mother. I cannot fathom your opinions.

And she needs to learn her whatever that means

I think you’re right to encourage them to order and actually eat what they ordered.

Maybe as a compromise dc can finish their meal and you can save them a bit from your own dish for them to try at the end?

I think it’s very clear what OP means.

At least she doesn't want to share your wine, which you seem to be getting through heroically on your own.

I don't disagree with OP. I don't like sharing my food either. I never ask to taste others food. I think it's very rude especially if you are sitting with a plate of your own food.

I think you need to address why she is wanting to eat more than she is given. Is she particularly active? Are you concerned about her weight? Does she drink enough?

Personally giving a taste of your food is fine in my view and as others say is a way to give her a chance to try food she might not normally have.

She's 7!

This. My 6yo still has a bit of a limited repertoire for food so I’ll happily let him try anything he shows an interest in.

Try working on eating more slowly, sipping water etc rather than bolting food down. DS often asks for more food immediately after clearing his plate but if he waits it out for 10-15 mins, his stomach catches up with his brain.

I think you will find its teach her not learn her

She is being a dickhead by being weird about her food and sharing it with her OWN CHILD. Imagine not being able to ask your own mum to try a bit of the food.... The person who loves you the most on the entire planet being a twat about a fucking spoonful of pasta.

So weird.

I think by 7, it is perfectly fine to start teaching that not everyone always wants to share their food as well as working on manners such as not eating so fast etc.

You have a lot of contempt for a 7 year old. I always let my dh and dc taste my food and vice versa. It’s a way for them to taste different dishes. The always say mine is the nicest!

Jollyhockeysticks You said ‘whatever learn her means’ suggesting you didn’t understand but clearly you did know and were just making a critical comment about the OP’s use of language which nomas pointed out. Where I live ‘learn her’ is local dialect used by lots of people. There is no need for anyone on here to feel superior in pointing out the OP’s use of language, we all understood what she was asking.

If I have a different food to my son, I always have offered to cut a piece off for him to try. I wouldn't allow someone else to take food from my plate themselves/eat off my plate, regardless of who they are.

I don't think you're unreasonable to not allow your daughter to eat off your plate or take food off your plate. You could cut a small amount off for her to try. If she wants more then you say 'No, you have your own food that you chose, next time you can order what I have'. My son stopped having food from the children's menu, from around aged 7. He started having food from the main adult menu.

7?!

Yeah I think this is weird.

Mine are much older and I’m still always offering them to taste what I have. I don’t expect them to share theirs if they like it as kids need food more than grown ups.

Sure I get annoyed if they don’t like what they have and ask to swap what I chose as they decide it looks better. Although that’s less frequent now.

sounds like you’re very judgemental of such a young child and potentially will give her a complex that she’s greedy etc which is no way to set up a girl for her life ahead.

That’s a you problem. Why are you trying to shame someone for being less educated as if that’s at all on OP herself? You could be a far better person but chose not to.

YABU. your child is 7. Stop being so mean.
it’s your job as a mother to help them experience new tastes. If they want some of your meal give them some ?
I feel sorry for your child.

I got the impression from OP's post that English is not her first language and that's why there are errors with grammar and spelling etc.

You sound drunk.

You teach your child to share by modelling it.

Wow, nasty responses. I’m not sure I’d be bothered as I already have a wife who wants to try my meal at a restaurant, but I think it’s absolutely fine to have that rule, I don’t think it makes you a ‘dickhead’, and you clearly don’t need to worry about expanding her palette as it sounds like she’d try new things anyway