For not sharing my food or giving my kid at 7 year old a taste of my food at restaurant?

[melindarra]

To say it clearly i let her choose from the menu what she wants. My kid is a very hungry kid😆 and eats faster than me and i need to sometimes buy her adult menu bcs kid menus here are literally portions for a tiny mouse😆 but me my self i dont like the tough Of others spit in my food or fork and yea.. including my own kid, pluss i think its nice to learn her that not everyone wants to share their food and that u should eat from your own plate because if she likes it then she wants another bite and start looking at your plate like she hasn’t been feed even if she has food on her plate, because its not nice to ask for someone else's plate. Especially since i let her choose whatever she wants from menu’s besides from very expensive dishes 😆

I’m not a fan of sharing my food with other adults. However, I do offer my children some, especially if it’s something they haven’t tried
before.

Have you never heard of dyslexia? Not everyone has perfect spelling or grammar.

Always encourage your children to try new food. Yes that includes at a restaurant.

I'd judge someone miserable who didn't.

Yanbu, OP. I don’t like using the same cutlery as others either, doesn’t matter who it is. Germs are germs!

also all this talk of sharing food as if it’s some sort of essential thing of parenting…it’s not! Maybe you’re just really hungry and want to eat your full meal yourself, OP! And it’s not like you haven’t bought the child her own meal… if you hadn’t then you might be a bit unreasonable! Lol @melindarra

Sounds weird.

How should she know what she might like without tasting things?

You can easily cut a small piece and put it on her plate, that's hygienic enough.

I think in your circus I'd probably just wipe her fork on a napkin and use her fork to let her try. Tell her it's just one bite. But it is good to let kids try new food imo.

If she's staring at other people eating and begging more food because she needs more then I think that's something that needs tackling, but I couldn't get jet up over a, request to taste a food. Of course she can't order one of everything off the menu

Actually this. Use your knife and fork, pick up a small piece, and put it on her plate so she can use her knife and fork.

But it does come across more as "I don't want to share with her cos she's greedy and she always wants to eat more and it's mine and I don't wanna not gonna!"

Agree.

Two of my children have dyslexia and use strategies to communicate accurately. Spell checks and autocorrect are two very simple examples.

Jeez this thread has become a tedious read with all the pedantry!

I don't think a seven year old ever needs an adult portion

I would always share my food with my child if he asked, so I wouldn't see an issue. But if have a problem with other people's forks touching your plate, I can see why you approach things differently. (I disagree that it's wrong for family to ask for a taste of another's meal. If she asks politely, asking itself is not rude. If you don't want to share, just say so.)

It makes sense to try another poster's suggestion of cutting a little bit of your meal off and putting it on your daughter's plate. If she wants more, just say, I'm glad you liked it, you can order it next time. If she persists, just explain she's had her meal and she'll feel sick if she has any more.

Blame the parents.

That’s how kids widen their tastes and palate.
For heavens sake just use a clean spoon , knife + fork and give her a tiny bit of yours .
No need for anyone else’s cutlery or saliva to go in your own food on your plate .
Of course teach her that she can only have a little bit to try ,the rest of the food in that plate is yours but she can maybe order some the next time

Yeah you’re not unreasonable for not wanting a used fork in your food, not at all!

Just cut a bit off yourself for her and put it on her plate if you do want to let her try

This!!
and teach your child some table manners to eat nicely and not like a savage

Nope that’s just being a doormat. A mother might say “I can’t hold hands now darling I’m busy cooking” and you can say no to a child wanting your food, make up, money etc

A good mother will model boundaries and being able to say no. It’s a very important life skill, especially for females.

@SleepingStandingUp

i guess if that’s the case OP could always give the child her meal, and if OP is still hungry she could just have a sandwich or a bowl of cereal when they’re back at home

This! @faithfultoGeorgeMichael do you just hand everything of yours over to your kids?!

My bet would be she's American.

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Totally agree. I think adults dropping everything whenever a child wants is a very poor lesson to teach. I particularly dislike when adults are talking and a child interrupts and the person speaking stops and listens to them instead.

But I also think I'm in the MN minority about sharing food. I can't think of any adults I know, let alone children, who would offer food from their plates or ask for a bit of someone else's food as a matter of course, and I certainly don't think it's rude not to offer.
In this case I'd cut off a little bit and put it on the child's plate, then if they continued to ask or stare I'd tell them 'no, you've tried mine and you've got your own' and ask them not to stare.

So you did understand what OP meant. Why the faux ignorance that you couldn’t understand?

A bit ? Let her try things. Just cut some off for her. I gave my grandson half my sandwich yesterday because he liked the look of it.

I don't share food, my dh does. There isn't anything wrong with it. I do however cut up a bit and put on a plate or whatever. My kids are now adults and haven't suffered as a result of this.

there are some very ill mannered posters here - if you don't understand the post then either wait for comments so you can get the gist or leave the thread. Absolutely no need for public humiliation. I'm sure you don't do this to your work colleagues.