For not sharing my food or giving my kid at 7 year old a taste of my food at restaurant?

[melindarra]

To say it clearly i let her choose from the menu what she wants. My kid is a very hungry kid😆 and eats faster than me and i need to sometimes buy her adult menu bcs kid menus here are literally portions for a tiny mouse😆 but me my self i dont like the tough Of others spit in my food or fork and yea.. including my own kid, pluss i think its nice to learn her that not everyone wants to share their food and that u should eat from your own plate because if she likes it then she wants another bite and start looking at your plate like she hasn’t been feed even if she has food on her plate, because its not nice to ask for someone else's plate. Especially since i let her choose whatever she wants from menu’s besides from very expensive dishes 😆

Yeah.

😂 😂 😂 😂

Your grammar is terrible.

I think you will find it is:

"I think you will find it's 'teach her', not 'learn her'."

What a knob you are.

more likely that english is not op's first language

As others have said, get her to ask you if she wants to try something of yours, and then when she does, cut off a piece that you are happy to spare and put it onto her plate yourself.

Then you as the parent are in control of the situation, and she learns that what is yours isn’t necessarily hers, but she gets to try new things and expand her palate.

It may not be the most clearly written OP. But if you really don’t understand it (and feel the need to make a ‘hilarious’ critical comment), I would suggest that your literacy needs some work too.

How does anyone extend their food range other than by trying out small portions of new things?. You OP sounded very harsh. I think there can be a middle line of encouraging your child to eat all the food on their plate first but to refuse them a small amount of yourself sounds unnecessarily unkind.

Never did it with my kids- they're adults now and eat anything!
Had some friends years ago who used to share food off their plates with their son.
If he didn't like it, he would spit it back out onto their plates....

Erm, yes. That is mean.

I understand that my DH get’s really effed off if I order a salad and then dive in on his chips (and after 34 years the ‘but I only wanted a couple so didn’t want to order them’ doesn’t wash), but allowing my partner or child to have a taste of what I’ve ordered to see whether they like it or might like to order it next time - of course I would. We regularly pop a bit of our meals on each other’s plate to try - and definitely would do it for a 7 year old to try new stuff.

I don’t really get your attitude, tbh OP. Though I know you are not alone as have met many people who are equally territorial abut their food. Usually indicative of a food issue though (it;s called resource guarding in dogs…)

You're not unreasonable to teach your child what you believe are appropriate table manners but the way you have written it makes it come across like you don't particularly like her.

I would be delighted if my kids were food explorers and wanted to try new things, including things off my plate. If she loves it, she can order it for herself next time. When I am in groups, we regularly order something different each so can taste a bit of what everyone else is having.

Your seven year old orders adult meals, eats quicker than you and asks for some of yours?

worrying

Full stops do exist, try using them.

Blimey - I'm glad my parents weren't as unkind and stingy as you!

We always encourage our kids to try a bit of our food. Its how they get to experience different flavours and learn more about what they do and don't like.

She’s seven! If she wanted to taste my food I’d cut her piece. If my mother wanted to taste my food I’d let her too. Goodness she’s not some stranger sat at the next table!
When I go out with my now adult (early 20s) kids part of the enjoyment is trying new dishes so we will often swap a bite. That doesn’t mean you have to use the same utensils!

My children know I don’t like them grabbing food off my plate but if I’ve ordered something they haven’t tried before or looks particularly nice and they ask to try it, I cut them off a piece and pop it on their plates, in the same way if they’ve ordered something that looks particularly nice they’ll offer me a taste doing it the same way, they hate sharing cutlery 😂
If they’ve chosen food that doesn’t look as good as my food, and I know they’ve eaten what I’ve ordered before, then they aren’t offered a bite. Everyone eats what they’ve ordered!

You could cut a bit of your food off for her and put it on her plate

I find food-sharing in this way tricky because it is in my nature to share, especially with my kids, and I feel it is a nice thing to do, HOWEVER, I (*think I) caught coldsores from a flatmate when we shared a plate if food, and from then on, I have been against it!

I do not mind spit from my own kids, so that aspect of your post is very off to me. But my reasons for not sharing from my plate to theirs are for hygiene reasons. Which is a shame but I really don't want them to have to deal with coldsores if I can help it.

*Yes, I know I can't prove I got them from living with this flatmate, or the plate-sharing as opposed to sharing a hand towel or something, but when I read up on it, it was one of the options. I also don't share towels with my kids, which I know some people do. AFAIK I never had a boyfriend with herpes, so I really do think it was this flatmate.

ETA, I will always offer my children something from my plate before I have touched it.

If my children want to try some of my food, of course I’ll give them some! Meals are a social occasion, it’s nice to share. Besides, they get to taste lots of different flavours.
They offer too.

If your seven year old orders adult meals, eats quicker than you and asks for some of yours then asks for more then they are being a food pest.

I'd share a little bit of food at the start of the meal, if that was agreeable to both parties, using clean implements and sharing untouched food.

Given that adult portions are large these days a 7-year old should not be begging food after wolfing her own meal.

We will most of the time let them have a try but occasionally we say no (if it’s really yummy I’m not sharing with anyone… sorry). You don’t have to share every single time! You should teach them to expand their pallet ect but they also need to learn not everyone will always wanna share.

Focus on teaching her to eat slower - we had a similar issue with DD and we remind her to chew! 30 chews per bite (idk if this is true but that’s what my mum told me and it worked so I’m running with it).

DH got into a tricky one recently as he let me have a bite and then the kids wanted one. He used the excuse “well there’s two of you and only one of your mummy and I’m willing to lose one bite but not three!” But really it’s just because of the unspoken law that your wife always gets a wee bite if she asks.

It’s normal to share food?

many culture like Chinese you put the dishes down and everyone shares…

if we go out as a family it’s a normal thing, nearly always starters to share, then mains it’s “ooh this is nice, anyone want a taste?”

my kids have learned to take a small bite to try, but not to take the piss and eat someone else’s meal.

i’m veggie so often i can’t share, but I’m happy for everyone else to try as long as I’m left a decent portion!

surely it’s part of life to share things you enjoy?

i don’t think it’s rude, or unhygienic at all.

YABU. use a clean fork. I can't imagine not letting one of my children try my food!

@GreenCaterpillarOnALeaf pallet being the operative word, it seems. Expanding a palate is one thing.

@Yetanotherone12 , i don’t think it’s rude, or unhygienic at all. - it is if the food has been touched, the cutlery used, and the sharing not being consensual.

Waiting for someone to offer first is very different to asking/expecting to try someone else's food which I do find rude.

Obviously 7 is still incredibly young but I'd be teaching wait to be offered and accept that won't always happen.