Hubbys job at risk because of family

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DH trusted his brother with his Clubcard employee card. He gave it to his partner to use as she was doing the food shops. She’s been caught twice stealing with a trolley full and hubby is now being investigated at work. Apparently BIL knew she had a habit with stealing as he already pre warned her not to use the card if she is going to be stealing. I should add that they are very comfortable and don’t need to be stealing. She is the other woman and I have never been able to gel with her. Now i can’t bare the thought of being around her even more. DH is in a management role so i can imagine they are going to take this very seriously.

I feel like DH is downplaying it all because he doesn’t want to rock the boat but I am fuming!!!

Am I over reacting? Hubby says he didn’t want to tell me because he knew I’d over react. She’s potentially put my husband at risk of losing his job.

Shes awful BUT your husband knew it was against the rules to give his card to his brother when he simply could have ordered a family member one.

Tbh id be tempted to lie and say sil took the card from your house without permission.

The thing is, if he lies and says she swiped the card from your home, it’s not beyond the realms of possibility that an HR manager, tired of being lied to by dozy employees, will insist on a police report being made, as the card remains their property and she’s effectively stolen a discount from them, as well as shoplifted.

What happens when the police knock on her door and ask her if she took it? Unless she’s the sort to fall on her sword in guilt, she’ll deny it. And then the OP’s husband gets into serious trouble for lying to police, that could result in a custodial sentence. It’ll be difficult enough to find a job having been sacked for gross misconduct. You don’t want to add a criminal record to that.

I think he should go in there, offer to repay everything, be hugely apologetic and ask if they’d let him resign rather than sacking him. If he’s lucky, they might feel sorry for him.

I understand your anger OP, but it's your husband who risked his job despite having three kids at home. Every time he gave the card to his brother he was risking getting fired. Also for those suggesting that your DH claims the card was stolen, please don't encourage him to lie further. If BiL has been using the card regularly, how does DH explain that? That his wife kept stealing it and returning it? They will have a record of the transactions, times/dates and CCTV. It would only take a few minutes to check and they would see quite quickly that it wasn't DH using it, unless they're twins.

I am sorry to say it, but I think your husband is very likely to be sacked for gross misconduct. I do hope I am wrong.

You will have to wait and see, but I think your husband should report her to the police and get an incident number. If sharing his card is not prohibited then they might give him a warning instead of sacking him.

As someone who works in head office of a similar company, I can assure you that discretion is used Depending on your position and value.

there is a rule book, and then there’s real life.

They haven’t done that yet, and this has been happening since day 1 of offering them.

I get the feeling your disproportionate fury with your SIL is because it was her thieving that meant your hubby’s big mistake was uncovered.

Wtf has your SIL got to say for herself????

Jesus she wouldn't be welcome at my house again and i certainly wouldnt break bread with her at the in laws house either.

She 100% knew what she was doing when she did that. Its a totally unacceptable risk for her to have taken

You are denying it though.

the two things are separate.

his job is at risk because of what HE did.

her shop- theft is a separate matter.

I have not said it would be her actions? But I asked what the family think of ‘his’ actions and what they think of how it will impact her and the children when he loses his job
Just re read my post, it is clear what I asked her

Exactly.

There are two issues here; DH abusing the discount policy and SIL shoplifting.

If Tesco decide to report SIL to the police for shoplifting, and DH (falsely) claims that she also stole his discount card, presumably Tesco can also include the theft of the discount card in their police report.

It's a really, really bad idea.

@McSpoot apologies just realised I meant what the SIL done and then meant the impact on wife and kids what they both have done
Can see that what I meant (in my head) was likely only clear to me

When my daughter worked for Tesco she got a card for me as she still lived at home, and I got the discount. Never lent it to anyone else.

Do you not understand that dismissal and possibly police involvement are the likely outcome?

How does that relate to my post?

Because the OP cares!

Yes. A more apt question would have been “how does my post relate to the thread?”

That’s doesn’t relate to my post either?

poster question to troll: why have you emailed tesco

troll response : because it’s an ongoing investigation and is being discussed on social media

my response to troll: who cares, it’s only an employer investigation

Ah, apologies

Do you work? You seem to have no understanding of the fx a 'gross misconduct' charge will have on re-employment.

His actions were illegal, their solution was a charge of gross misconduct..2 separate issues.

+1

I have no relevant experience but it's obvious they'd keep someone they value highly and use it as an opportunity to get rid of someone they want rid of.

If you're in-between... 🤷‍♂️

In that case, I apologise unreservedly. I saw your response to Daleylama and made an incorrect assumption, which has clearly made an ass of me!

Is your SIL being prosecuted, OP?

His actions are not illegal. They are against the terms and conditions of the discount. Jesus, you think Tesco are lawmakers now?

as for the rest of it maybe you also should ready post again