to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

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No, it really wouldn't be appropriate to ask her that 😯

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You are the nightmare neighbour people come to Mumsnet to complain about

I would hate to be bullied like that

I'm not going to tell you you're being stupid. Hormones are going to hormone and the obnoxiously hot weather we are having won't help, but do men take much notice of women's underwear? My impression is that many don't and come birthdays, Valentine's, Christmas etc, there is a chorus of women complaining about clueless men, sets that are from Ann Summers, or look as if they are) knickers from Woolies circa 1977 or bloomers that look as if they escaped from Queen Victoria's dressing room some time in the 1850s. Your DH might be like these hapless fellows and not even have noticed.

Moreover, if your neighbour is as beautiful as you say, her undies won't make any difference one way or the other. She could be sashaying around the neighbourhood in La Perla or wrapping her bits in bin-liners (hopefully not in 35c temperatures but it takes all kinds) and those inclined to notice will do just that.

Another thing to consider: you say these are generally good neighbours and I'm sure you can think of many ways they might not be. At one time, I lived a couple of doors down from a young woman who allowed burglars and drug dealers to operate from her house. If she'd run an entire sex shop from her front room, she'd have caused less misery and got herself into far less trouble. Good neighbours are worth hanging onto, regardless of little differences in personal style.

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Men dont care about underwear. Chances are he won't take any notice.

Then why do women buy the stuff for their man’s benefit (and why do men buy the stuff for their own benefit)?

You’re saying that this perverse human raped this woman and killed the other one because they hung their pants out for others to see? You’re deranged.

I don’t hang my pants on the line because it’s too fiddly and I can’t be bothered. I do have a tumble dryer though

Oh and if OP did say something, it’s reasonable to expect the neighbour to be a nightmare with noise complaints once the OP’s kid is born.

I'm gay as hell but sometimes I just want a pretty pair of underwear, and sometimes the fancy lace bras are the best for the occasion.

As do many women.

My comment was in relation to people trying to bullshit the OP by saying that men don’t notice underwear.