to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

[Lookingback01]

I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

This is a joke yeah?

Ha ha I hope this is a joke and I can't believe I'm responding but if it isn't a joke please don't speak / write a note to her that won't go well.

Can you change the fence to allow more privacy on both sides or maybe grow some plants to block the view. Trellis and a climber?

This sounds fully hormonal to me or very very young.
I’m guessing you’re not normally like this and you’re perhaps also finding your body shape changes a challenge, especially when people are wearing less. Don’t give yourself a hard time about it and whatever you do please don’t tell your neighbour, you will be mortified when you settle down a bit and a lot of neighbours would respond by taking things further, I’m sure I would, just for fun, and it will just wind you up even more

That’s crackers love! Never consider it again. She should be able to peg a gimp suit out if she wishes. So glad you didn’t act on that thought. You’re going to scare your husband away with that behaviour. Hormones really are wild! Hope you feel better about things soon.x

MCF86
I was expecting a tongue in cheek ending...

That's just what the OP is worried her DH is thinking about.

Its your hormones i was batshit when I was pregnant to 🤣🤣

Maybe repost on the Becoming a Parent board and ask for tips on pregnancy and mental health and self esteem? And report this post so it is taken down @Lookingback01

I hope all will go well for you.

In my youth I was that neighbour...and my husband was cheating ON me. But some women were horrible too. All very upsetting. I stayed faithful (and never had any neighbour make eyes at me over the laundry line).

Do seek support 💐

🙄 oh no this sounds terrible. A terrible and almost unbelievable scenario. Have you considered asking AI for help with this rather unusual situation?

My next door neighbour did this when she was actively seeking a man but she was 60 at the time. All sorts of colours in matching sets duly positioned right where our vertical blinds were facing in the upstairs landing window. Nothing else on the line just these massive bra & pants - we howled with laughing, I think they were there for my other half to see 😂 she just made a fool of herself.

She got a new fella 3 years ago & we haven't seen her undies on the line since - thank god.

At different stages of your life you will be hit with unwanted emotions that can send you spiralling, this is just one example - you're probably not feeling 100% at the moment and her underwear is a perfect example of how cruel our emotions can be in reaction.

Years ago I used to wear skimpy undies & I pegged them out on the line - my O/H said one day 'xxxxx next door will have a heart attack if he sees them' & I just didn't get it - why would my undies cause him grief 🤷‍♀️ 10 years later I get it - people have washing line phobia & your neighbour is probably innocently just drying her undies.

Why on earth are your issues her problem? If thia is genuine you need help

Aww OP I remember the pregnancy hormones. Please don't worry about your lovely husband and ignore the underwear outside, shes not doing it on purpose, it's just hot outside so people have their laundry out.

He won't leave you just because he's seen some pants on a washing line and she's not trying to entice your husband like the plot of an old 70s sitcom.

Stay safe in the heat lovely and take care. Please ignore the vipers (most probably haven't clocked you're expecting) Congratulations on your pregnancy. Xx

Yes she is and feeling emotional and lacking in confidence.

Same here, though clearly that's an unpopular opinion as the majority of people like to string up their skimpies up like they're Tibetan prayer flags!

Not me. No nay never. When I was a teen, a perve went around the neighbourhood stealing women's knickers off their lines. One day he saw a nurse hanging out her laundry, sneaked into her house through the open back door, hid for hours, then raped her in a long drawn-out ordeal. He later went on to kill another woman who tried to fight him off.

A retractable line in the bathroom, a Poundland multi-peg hanger with undies on the inner pegs and socks 'doing the Buffalo Girl' (around the outside). Unnecessary to flash the skimpies stash, unwise and so easy to avoid.

In pretty sure you're beautiful, fit married neighbor isn't desperate for your husband. I had a woman confront me one time about dressing provocatively in front of her husband. I was working a job that encouraged showing skin. I'd seen her husband; trust me, she could have him. The man looked like a somehow fat meth head.

but I can't help how I feel

is the biggest lie of our generation. You can recognise how you feel, realise it is unreasonable and irrational, and then work on changing your emotional response.

Put a six foot fence up

Over 5000 votes and 99% say YABU.

I see you’re pregnant. It’s just hormone madness. In a few months you’ll look back and cringe yourself inside out at this doolally episode, and be SO glad you asked here before doing anything

Think about it, OP. In a year or two, chances are she'll be pregnant while you're the one putting skimpy underwear out to dry. How would you react if you received a note like that then?

Oh OP I get it, I’m also 7 months pregnant and I can well imagine my own hormone addled brain running away with some similar ridiculous thought train these days. It’s not real OP, it’s just the hormones. Compartmentalize it and try to laugh it off to yourself. ❤️

This is a wind up right

tl;dr do the Buffalo Girl or your undies will attract Buffalo Bill?

Really??? Men need no excuse for VAWG. What happened was terible. AND we need not make our lives small.

Hang them in the bathroom to absorb odours and spread damp?

I was out in the garden late tonight and am feeling weird about the washing line. Is anyone else alienated from theirs after reading this thread?

Still ridiculous

And how is that the neighbours problem?

Maybe an MRA/incel created a lying post as 'evidence' of women's typical behaviour?

I hope it is a fake post.

May spider willies afflict the jezebel's darked-on unmentionables is probably what we all should have said, bunch of hysterics that we are. Or lingeringly described our lingerie for the pleasure of certain lurkers.