to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

Trust me, your DH hasn’t even noticed your neighbour has hung washing out. Really.

I’d just move OP. Go rural then there’s no chance of anyone beautiful living next door. Seriously.

Put them on top of the hob whilst cooking salmon and eggs and allow the fish aroma to infuse directly into the gusset 🫠

Dear Mumsnet, my next door neighbours uncle in his late 50’s and every time I put my underwear out to try he makes inappropriate comments about it asking where I got it.
I think I should report him to the police?
AIBU ?

In the nicest possible way you are definitely being unreasonable. It is way too hot and you are pregnant so you have my upmost sympathy.
Your husband would have no interest in your neighbours washing. He won't be interested in your neighbour full stop either unless he has form for being a tw** , which i expect he doesn't.

Sending calm. Try not to worry . You will be gorgeous to your husband as you are the one having his baby 🌻❤️

Oh come on now, you can't be serious. I get you're hormonal but surely you can understand how utterly ridiculous this is?

? Wtf have I just read you need to get over yourself you sound like a jelous teenager 😂

Rude

You sound very insecure and unhinged.
I think you need to speak to a professional.
This is abnormal behaviour OP.

Please tell your midwife, this is not normal behaviour and you are likely to have post partum depression if you are already crying about your neighbours nice underwear.

I had a beautiful young nanny to help me with my second child. She was a part time lingerie model and very well endowed. I never worried that DH would run off with her. Be confident in yourself.

In a word... "Yes". 🤣

No way would I hang anything lacy or skimpy on a line in this heat. Nor ever on a line actually. The heat will destroy it!

You could pop a note through her letterbox explaining thermal and UV degradation. Thank me later 😁

OP kindly, your husband is right. It would be extremeley embarassing and you basically send the message to your neighbour that youe husband can't be trusted, implying he is creeping over women underwear. Please don't do it. Look into some self love and focus on being healthy for your little one. Your confidence must be under the sea level to feel like that. It will pass, give yourself a break, talk to your husband.
To all of you who called a pregnant woman names for having an irational thought, you should hang your head in shame.

Are you pregnant? That’s the only explanation for being this ridiculous.

I sympathise - hormones can make you believe crazy things but definitely don’t do this!

Not RTFT but I'd have thought in all this heat, delicate undies would be better shade-dried.

Why rude? I just mean she wouldn’t have neighbours. I’m rural FGS.

Yes you’re being ridiculous. If you husband wants an affair, it won’t be seeing her underwear that’ll tip him over the edge. He’ll do it anyway.

Yes

HTH

Deer, alpacas, badgers, foxes, and Black Shuck are all beautiful.

Seriously, yes.

This is not an AIBU type thing. You should be asking “am I losing my mind?”

Eta: and I genuinely mean this.

He probably does fancy her tbf
Hope this helps

Have you lost your fucking mind?

you would be ok living next door to me, big black pants folded in half to make them look smaller,it doesnt work lol they are still big,