to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

You sound completely reasonable

No, really.

Maybe treat yourself to some nice underwear too. Sure there are attractive maternity bras available and thongs. And remember you won't be pregnant forever, if you're not enjoying your pregnancy body atm.

If you sent that letter she would probably think your dh is a pervert tbh.

Soon get a higher fence that way.

WTAF

This would be insane.

Reverse

If it’s real then feel free to lose weight, tone up and buy more exciting under wear

Assuming this isn’t a joke, I would consider seeking medical advice for your mental health, in the nicest possible way. You’re being very unreasonable and I’d be mortified if my partner wrote a letter to anyone about something like this. I’m sorry you’re feeling that way.

😂😂

Get yourself some skimpy panties and hang em out?

I’m pregnant, so will lose weight once my baby is born.

Sounds like you're not doing very well mentally, if this is for real. Suggests a complete break from reality and perspective on normal behaviour.

You’ve been crying all afternoon with jealously, you are clearly a jealous person! I’m surprised your husband is willing to put up with this, and woman would be told to run a mile

Of course you can't. Give your head a wobble, and then go and do something useful. Plan your first Xmas in your new home, but do not go near the neighbours.

This reminds me of years ago when we moved to a brand new estate. The couple next door and the couple next to them were all early 20s. Next door woman put a load of frillies on the line, then suddenly the next woman did too. Then next door started pegging hers out like they were on display in a fashion show and then next woman did the same. I quite enjoyed being a spectator as they tried to outdo each other in knicker wars.

Same advice: buy more exciting maternity under wear. Don’t use “your hormones” as excuse to be so unreasonable. You don’t need to stack lots of weight on when pregnant -l didn’t

Do you have such a low opinion of all men, or is it just your DH who you can’t trust to peeve over another woman’s underwear?

Many many years ago I had a thread where my neighbour had asked me to take my laundry in because she was afraid her male family members would see it. It degenerated into hilarious suggestions from posters and pictures of my (then) kitten.

Everyone on that thread thought my neighbour was deranged. I have long since moved out of that house but I'm wondering if you are my old neighbour!

This reads like a bad sketch.

If it's real, please don't ask her to do this. It's absolutely none of your business. Skimpies do not = p0rn. It's her choice what to wear.

She will likely tell you to fuck off.

Put that energy into buying a higher fence!

Please….go ahead 🍿

Definitely get some sexy maternity stuff.

You’re pregnant not the Virgin Mary. Embrace that big belly it’s growing a baby. A truely amazing thing. Have an Ice cold drink and get shopping.

You are being vvvvvvvvvvvv unreasonable but you get a pass because pregnancy hormones are the pits. Apologise to your DH, don’t speak to your neighbour and hope you’re keeping cool in this weather x

I think you’re getting a hard time - post partum is a difficult time as your body has changed dramatically and it’s a time for function over beauty. It takes a long time to feel comfortable and sexy in your own skin again. When I finished breast feeding I treated myself to some nice underwear from Dora Larson which worked a treat.

I agree with a previous poster that if he fancied her already he would, regardless of seeing her smalls on the washing line. Please focus on rebuilding your own confidence

My neighbours detest washing on lines and are very vocal about it, they think it loers the tone of the neighnourhood. I dont have children at home and its no skin off my nose to hang washing in my spare room.
They are great neighbours and its not a hill I would die on. I just dont care so I dont do it.
Most people on here bang on about doing what the hell they want on their own property but I think why wind them up when they are otherwise great neighbours. We all have to live in close proximity so why deliberately bait people.
I dont particularly want to see peoples pants either.

Get a grip ffs.