to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

[Lookingback01]

I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

I mean to be fair she is free to hang out her laundry and writing her a note like that would come across as unreasonable. I'm not going to be mean and take the piss as I get it OP you're pregnant, hormones are flying around everywhere and this hot weather is probably making it worse also. I'm a bigger woman myself and I always used to think my partner could easily stray and find someone skinnier or prettier than me but now I know he won't, he met me at my biggest I was a size 26 and even now I'm still on the larger side at a size 18 but then he's still around and hasn't gone after anyone else. I'm sure your husband loves you whatever size you happen to be. Sending a note like that to the neighbour could end up causing problems and ruining what could be a nice friendly neighbour atmosphere between you, whilst you don't have to be best buddies it would be nice to keep things peaceful between you all.

You are married?!

You shouldn't even be dating with these kind of issues. That level of jealousy, control and unhinged behaviour needs to be professionally treated.

You can't have a happy relationship like this, it will just end in divorce.

It's your hormones ! Be kind to yourself but definitely don't speak to or raise it with your neighbour x

May be close your curtains!!

You can't ask your neighbour not to hang out their own laundry.

It's your hormones and how you view your changing body.

Speak to your GP because if you have antenatal depression or anxiety you are more likely to have post natal.

Seek help whilst you recognise it because unfortunately sometimes you can't see the woid for the trees when youre in the thick of it.

Another MU post. I thought this was going to be a post about why it’s so gross having clothes out on a nice day or something. Pff

Hi @Lookingback01 I think you’re being given a hard time of it on this thread. That said, and I say this with kindness don’t mention it or write a note. I do think your hormones are in a bit of a flux due to being pregnant (congratulations 🥳) Once the little one has arrived and you have a new life to look after your feelings may subside. I’d also talk it over with your midwife/health visitor so they can support you. Good luck ❤️

Nope..wise up

My size 16 black bloomers are on display in my second floor veranda for all the world to see. Hopefully all the admirers will start knocking on my door soon 🤣🤣🤣🤣

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc

I don’t think you are going far enough. Don’t stop at the underwear. You should also tag onto your note that you would like her to adjust her diet to put on weight, stop exercise, not go to a hairdresser and cease her skincare/beauty regime.

Pop back and let us know how you get on with her response.

The pregnancy hormones are making you crazy. Do not say one single solitary thing to your neighbour I mean it.

This can not be for real, no one is this unhinged!

You cannot be serious. Please don't do that. You will risk becoming the joke of the neighborhood.

Get a grip

You've gone temporarily insane from preggo hormones. Definitely do not say anything at all to your neighbour, obviously, just have a good cry.

I really think you need to look the other way lol.

Oh my sweet woman ... im saying this with love i promise .. its deffo the pregnancy hormones. Don't write the note. Ride it through and file it away as "remember when I was pregnant and cried at next doors knickers"

Get a grip. Don’t be weird, and go by yourself some underwear

Ignore last message. You are pregnant. You can be mad at anything. I apologise

who the hell has voted YANBU!!!

You sound really unhinged I’m afraid. Crying because the next door neighbour has her bras and knickers on the line in her own garden and that must mean DH fancies her.

i know you’re pregnant and are possibly feeling frumpy but try to get a blooming grip!! Your irrational jealousy is much more likely to affect your marriage than someone else’s laundry!!

Rather than ask her to bring her laundry in, why don’t you get competitive with your own?

This post cannot be real right????

Oh my god this is hilarious. How pathetic. One of the reasons me and my husband have lasted 25 years is because we find jealous such a waste of energy. You cannot be serious and if you are I hope starts wearing her underwear around her garden in his eyeshot just to annoy you even more! You are threatened by washing hung out?! Get a life luv. I'm pushing 40 and overweight and would give a fuck if this was me btw and doubt my husband would care, takes more than a pair of foxy knickers on a washing line to get most men going you know!

Darling, no! XX