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AIBU?

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to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

463 replies

Lookingback01 · 24/06/2026 15:33

I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

OP posts:
birdling · 24/06/2026 15:34

No, you definitely can't 😂

WhatWouldYouDo223 · 24/06/2026 15:34

You cannot be serious hun

Stoict · 24/06/2026 15:34

Sure

MCF86 · 24/06/2026 15:35

I was expecting a tongue in cheek ending... I hope that was still a joke that just didn't quite land like one.

Darragon · 24/06/2026 15:35

Don’t do that OP. Maybe pull your blind down instead.

jollygoose · 24/06/2026 15:36

Don't do it it would be mortifying

ToKittyornottoKitty · 24/06/2026 15:36

There is no way you are serious

Tableforjoan · 24/06/2026 15:36

Im fat with skimpy undies. I’d hang out more if I got that letter 😅

Also if he is interested he will be regardless of her undies.

Go get yourself on honeybirdette and feel sexy 😉

Vanillaicelatte · 24/06/2026 15:36

Your nuts

i have lots of sexy tiny underwear from Honey Birdette & la Perla so much nicer than VS crap

if my neighbour asked me to take it off the line because her husband might fancy me or be thinking of me when he has a wank

I would just laugh hysterically

i think the heat has got to you

Sharkle · 24/06/2026 15:36

Yes that would be mortifying. Unless there’s some reason to suspect your husband you are doing him a huge disservice and it’s insulting to both of them to suggest they’re about to get together. Just put it down to hormones nd stop all the nonsense. Being irrationally jealous isn’t ok.

Wishitsnows · 24/06/2026 15:37

I think the heat has got to you

EarlyRun · 24/06/2026 15:37

The heat always brings the people out wanting to talk about underwear. At least it’s an adults underwear this time I guess. 🧐

Watchoutfortheslowaraf · 24/06/2026 15:37

Ok OP

WellThatIsABitMad · 24/06/2026 15:37

It’s very hot today so why haven’t you closed the curtains ?

darksideofthetoon · 24/06/2026 15:37

This has got to be a joke post or the heat has gone to the OPs head!

Duvetdayforme · 24/06/2026 15:37

Either this is a joke or you need some medical support. 💐

CoffeeBooksRats · 24/06/2026 15:38

Yes YABVU. I hope this is a joke?!

Echobelly · 24/06/2026 15:38

Yeah, don't do that. I think with the heat your brain is making a bit of a leap here

StarPyjamas · 24/06/2026 15:38

Oh come on OP, no-one's this bored surely?

Have a lie down in front of a fan.

racierach · 24/06/2026 15:38

GrinGrinGrinGrinGrin

Poppingby · 24/06/2026 15:39

Please don't. She's going to think you are absolutely unhinged.

NeedyLimeMember · 24/06/2026 15:39

It sounds like this situation is really playing on some of your own insecurities, which is really hard to sit with. However, ultimately you are responsible for these. And if you don't address these, if it's not the skimpy knickers it will only be something else that is triggering the feelings
Use it as an opportunity to explore what the root of how you're feeling and if you can somehow work through it or address it.

Lookingback01 · 24/06/2026 15:39

Sharkle · 24/06/2026 15:36

Yes that would be mortifying. Unless there’s some reason to suspect your husband you are doing him a huge disservice and it’s insulting to both of them to suggest they’re about to get together. Just put it down to hormones nd stop all the nonsense. Being irrationally jealous isn’t ok.

Thank you. I’m going to ignore all the posts suggesting I’m either making this up or have some weird underwear fetish.

I know that I’m being over the top, and I’m generally not a jealous person. DH is great and has never given me any reason not to trust him, so these feelings have really thrown me.

OP posts:
AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 24/06/2026 15:39

Just write her a list of rules for what you will graciously allow her to do on her own property!

EmeraldDreams73 · 24/06/2026 15:39

Omg please please do not do this!!!!

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