to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

Thinking the heat has got to you

I would like to say that you could not get more ridiculous if you tried with both hands, but once upon a time and far, far away, under the same circumstances I had much the same fears. Hormones are powerful and I wish posters would give you some grace. I certainly will ~ I hope you find that once your little one is here and your hormones are finding their feet again that you look back on this time and smile.

One hundred percent YOUR problem.

You have no right to put your shit on her and she has no obligation to do a damn thing to ease your craziness.

You need to consider how your insecurities could be pushing your man away, rather than other people's washing.

It's not normal to be sitting there crying over someone else's underwear, whilst imagining your husband with your neighbour!

Well maybe it should be!

This is the thing.

So many people are so sure it's pregnancy hormones but to be honest if the story is real, no-one knows what the OP is like when she's not pregnant.

Another bullshit made up thread.

Jealous of a neighbour because she looks good and hung her laundry out.
This is a you problem.

This is the most unreasonable post I’ve seen today 😂

If I received this note I would do everything in my power to wind you up. Sunbathe topless in the garden, wink at your DH, adjust the tiny thong provocatively.

You sound mentally unwell.

Trust me whilst your DH might want to shag her, you can bet your life she won’t want him.

When is your baby due? It’s not that unusual to think odd things when you’re pregnant- hormones do crazy stuff to you- so don’t feel too badly about it but don’t send any notes or ask in person
he is being a dick when he says he’ll go to his mum’s tho

No he isn’t.

Oh stop it. Her washing is her business. Haven’t you seen skimpy knickers before? 🙄

You’re not serious?

You CAN help how you feel. You can have a very strong word with yourself, give your head the wobble of a lifetime and stop thinking that such a note would be in any way a good idea or that what she does with her washing is anything you can control.

🙄

I'd be obsessing more about the low fence, wondering how soon I could replace it with a 2 m one.

Batshittery.

Who has voted YANBU??????
craziest idea ever op.

DO NOT DO IT!!! You’ll regret it until the end of your days (as in the embarrassment). You have to train your brain and rein in your insecurity. You’re better than that!

I hope this is a joke…but if it isn’t, please go speak to a therapist

How about some fast growing leylandii between the two gardens? They are good for improving neighbourly relations.

No you musnt. If you dh has form for cheating or looking at other women that’s a problem with him not your neighbour drying her washing

I've never heard of Honey Birdette but just had a quick peak because I was intrigued, nice but very very expensive 😲. £135 for a bra!! I'm not sure most people could afford that. What's the difference between their bras and a normal bra?

Babe, you just need to buy yourself some new pants.

🤣 Nice one, OP. Thanks for the laugh. 👍

Not that poster but the ones I have from there just feel amazing and look amazing basically.

Feels like I’m not wearing a bra they are so nice on the skin.

They have very good sales as well so you can snag a few bargains if you’re fast.