to ask my neighbour to bring her laundry in?

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I've name changed for this because I feel a bit silly to be posting, but it's driving me crazy so I need some advice.

We live in a new build next door to another couple who recently moved in. Our gardens are pretty close together and only really separated by a small fence that we can easily see over when standing.

We're all mid-thirties and they're a nice enough couple, are polite and friendly, keep themselves to themselves and are pretty quiet, so no problems there.

The issue I'm having is that the woman is objectively beautiful, very toned, slim, etc. Today she's obviously taking full advantage of the lovely weather we're having here and has decided to hang her underwear out on the line to dry. When I say underwear, I'm not talking about the simple black briefs and maternity bras that I'm currently wearing, but beautiful skimpy Victoria's Secret type stuff.

I don't know if it's my hormones or what the issue is, but this is making me feel so jealous because I keep thinking that my DH is looking at her underwear and will start to fancy her, if he doesn't already.

I was thinking that I could write her a small, friendly note just asking if she would mind bringing them inside. I mean, they're so skimpy that they'll probably be dry by now, anyway. I don't have the nerve to ask her face to face because part of me knows I'm being ridiculous, but I can't help how I feel and have been sitting here crying all afternoon imagining her and my DH together.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

AIBU?

Also, you don’t have to sit in big black pants because you’re pregnant. I get it comfort.

but you could still wear nice underwear.. I don’t think I wore big pants until after the birth.

Are you usually a jealous person pre pregnancy? Sitting crying all afternoon because you’re imagining your DH developing a crush on your neighbour after seeing her knickers on the line is pretty extreme

OMG YABSU! This will be so embarrassing. Please don't do it!

Please don’t do it. She’s entitled to put her washing on her own line in her own garden. It isn’t about you.

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

You'll be lucky if he doesn't move out entirely if you send this note. NOTHING says crazy future ex-wife bunny boiler than this type of insanity.

You talk about maternity bras - how old is your little one? It sounds like something much bigger is going on here if you are crying over someone drying their underwear.

This is either AI for engagement, or it’s a weird troll. No way is this remotely real.

catch yourself on hen! He's probably already shagging her anyway so don’t worry

You need to get over yourself. Your neighbour is going to think that you're very weird in your house.

You sound insane! But crack on! 🍿

No. You have no say over your neighbour's washing line.

No you can’t it’s her garden and her washing.

No of course you can’t do this. Your response to her underwear hanging on her line is not her problem.

Don't be ridiculous.

You’d be better off focussing on your MH and doing things that make you feel good about yourself.

Aren't you worried that when you hang your DH's underwear out there'll be a queue of women at your front door in their best Victoria's Secret lingerie just waiting for their chance with the man in the glamourous y-fronts ?

He thinks I'm acting crazy and said that if I send her a note, he will go to his mum's for the night because it would be absolutely mortifying.

He's right. I don't blame him.

It’s mad pregnancy hormones, you will laugh and cringe about this one day!

if this isn’t a joke then u have issues and u need help.

Absolutely do not do that !!!!

He thinks I'm acting crazy

You are. OK, it's too hot and you're pregnant, understood, but you are more likely to damage your relationship with your (completely innocent) DH with irrational fear about him getting a glimpse of some random neighbour's knickers. It will make him think you don't trust him, for absolutely no reason.

Do something that makes you feel good and please, calm down.

Oh darling this is your hormones playing up in this weather.

You know that your being unreasonable and thinking daft things.

Don’t be a prat

I think you should contact your GP because this is not acceptable behaviour.
Crying all afternoon?
Please seek help.
Do not do this.
You will mortified yourself and your husband and if I was your neighbour I would avoid you completely going forward, as batshit.

I didn't have any little maternity bras, they were all fucking huge! They were all brand new though.

Has an AIBU has ever ended on 100% YABU? If not, OP is well on course to break a Mumsnet record. Look on the bright side OP.

Tell her it's too hot so you are worried they may shrink, or fade. Or that they are getting your DH all hot and bothered. Underwear envy in suburbia, could be a film.

I'm with your DH it would be ridiculous and mortifying, and she would be eating out on that tale forever, 'and then she said....'

Don't do it.