To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

🤣🤣🤣 I'd of laughed ,,if he's otherwise been ok benefit of the doubt .

Even if she did mention her dog, that's definitely not what he means.

I definitely think it’s funny.

I’m surprised so many people have taken such offence to it.

🤮 a respectful gentleman would never say such a thing. So many gross men out there. I’d never date him again

Don't understand the joke OP but can guess. Really can't stand that kind of talk; anything to do with genitals from someone you don't know that well (or even if you do know them), especially derogatory references, crass jokes that sound like they come from the 1970s; nudge nudge, wink wink; can't stand it. I'd be moving on with a 'dodged a bullet' attitude, but up to you where your boundaries are.

Absolutely disgusting. Unfortunately though I’m not overly shocked, I’ve heard of quite a few crass vulgar one-liner stories and they all tend to be from the same calibre of men; thick, uneducated and chavvy.

The irony out of all of this as well, is if he’d told you he needed time to go home to shower and you replied “Good don’t want your arsehole stinking” he’d think “Ew nasty cow” (and rightly so). However women never talk like this. These demeaning remarks only ever come from men.

Eww, deffo date-cancelling worthy.

Clearly meant as a joke. But anyone who makes that kind of ‘joke’ would be a no from me. I’m all for humour, even dark humour. But puerile humour that isn’t even funny ain’t cool. Makes him look like a twerp.

But, having said that, if he’s generally good company, you enjoy hanging out with him, you fancy him and the sex was good, I wouldn’t overthink it. No one’s 100% perfect. Some twerps are overall loveable.

Ugh, he’s shown you his true colours. Bin

This totally and utterly gross 🤮

Grim. You deserve better.

I communicate well, so would say that I didn't appreciate his use of growler, but I wouldn't use the term, freshening up, because it does indicate you are washing your bits, which is crass to start with.

it could be said the op had a hungry beaver

Well, he’s not wrong, I wouldn’t go anywhere near whiffy genitals? But surely, that’s a given? It is an utterly inappropriate thing to say to someone you barely know, I too would get the ick. And ditch. It’s….too much too soon.

I love how for some people the bar is “its not offensive”. (I’d beg to differ but lets put this to one side). So you think lame, pathetic and misogynistic humour is acceptable?

No wonder they get away with the shit they do.

I’d love to be a fly on the wall for that! It’s a thought, OP.

Let him hear it from The Hive (apologies for mixed metaphors).

Wow, if you were in a long term relationship and shared that sense of humour perhaps...5th date that's grim.

You've dodged a bullet there

A gross and ill timed joke. Not something you say to someone you’ve dated a handful of times.

Definitely off putting. I guess it would depend how much I liked him if I gave him another chance.

Because it says a lot about his character.

People not breaking up with men who do far worse is not a good guideline to judge by. Often they’d love to but are stuck together financially or with children. Many of them would love to go back and not ignore the red flags.

I know.

I was just trying to imagine DH saying that to me.🤔 I really can't begin to.

I'd say "With that comment you just cancelled our date."

Ew.

Your suggestion really is that if other women are with men more shit than this, than this man shouldn't be dumped?! This is one of the strangest defenses of shit men I have seen here, and it's a crowded field.

Yes discussing your whiffy growler can fairly be described as "overstepping" I think op.

It's worse that that. He's implying he wants to have sex BUT might reject her if her the smell of her privates doesn't meet his approval.

It's like he's talking about a fillet of fish approaching use by in the fridge and wondering if it's still good to use.

It's just so objectifying.

I found this hilarious 😂