To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

Not to me it doesn’t.

Edit: in fact it makes it worse. Would seem like after getting my hopes up this is just another dude solely after sex.

He sounds sloppy and impulsive. Even if you tolerate this he will embarrass you with others.

Grim. Trust your gut. He sounds like an oik.

Am I the only one who thinks it's hilarious?

So this is him in the honeymoon period...

but then the question is why didnt the op make him wait ?

Why is it funny?

@CitizenZ I fear you might be.

No, whiffy growler made me 😆

Gross!

It definitely the sort of implied possession AND criticism that suggests a future of misogynistic thinking ..forewarned!

Same here

Cancel immediately. He has no respect for women or you. Huge red flag. Shows his appalling attitude to women.

I can’t imagine even knowing anyone who says things like this.
Grim.

God, that's vile....

Dirty bastard.
Sorry you had to see those words even if it was in 'jest'.
Just nasty.

Urgh. The fact that you've slept with him makes it worse. Very entitled as there's a sense that you're freshening up "for him" later.

Shudder.

That’s not the question. That’s pivoting the conversation away from discussing a man’s bad behaviour to discussing how we can make a woman responsible for it.

I assume OP had sex because she wanted to. That’s by the by.

Rank, grubby, disrespectful. Would give me an ick I probably couldn’t get past.

Can you please keep us updated on what happens next OP?

Vile and repulsive!

Yes! I was in two minds with this as whiffy growler on its own I think is a little funny but it’s the implication.

Urgh. That would give me the biggest ick.
Repulsive saying that to someone you barely know.

'On balance, I want to cancel our plans and leave it there. All the best'

He'll reply telling you to lighten up and learn to take a joke. And then you can block him. Onwards and upwards.

So now you've had sex he thinks he doesn't have to try anymore & that you're "freshening up" with him in mind?

Nah!

Oh god no, he should have said 'you don't need to shower' what a dick

I would really laugh.