To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

Ewwwww ... crass ... at least you haven't wasted too much time on him yet.

A dad joke is something wholesome but cheesy.

This was a disgusting comment, whether it was meant as a “joke” or not.

Is he David Brent? No, actually, more like Gareth. I dont think even Brent would actually say that to the woman.

I wouldn't be offended by it, it's just lame and juvenile. But then I'm attracted to adult males, not Jay from The Inbetweeners. 🤮

This!

cheerio

This. Ive the ick and ive never met him.

Depends, is that how you talk/your humour? If so, fine. If not- dump!

Haha what a knob.

I commented earlier in this thread, a few pages in. This comment is not funny in 2026 for the majority of people who live in 2026. It is not 'dark humour', it is misogynistic, the type of thing Bernard Manning and Jim Davidson used to spout.

Those of you with long time partners who find this okay, fine. But do you really lack the insight that you do not understand this is totally inappropriate, questionable and a total red flag at the beginning of a potential relationship?

I am 50 but I am really lucky that my job means I have really close friendships with people in their 20s and 30s and this kind of shite is so common. One friend looks really young and gets loads of comments on online dating about her looking young and how much of a turn on this is! Would you want this for your daughter? Why in 2026 are men still being excused for this type of behavior and, why the hell are they still being raised in a way that they think this is still acceptable.

Full disclosure, I work in Child Protection. This remains a 'man/boy' problem and it is not limited to our usual service user group. There seems to be some kind of blindness in some parent-son relationships that creates men-children that can do no wrong. I do not mean this as a sweeping generalisation becaue I know lots of very lovely men. But there is a very particular type, and they are always men.

Ugh grim! That's given me the ick and it's not even me going on the date!! I would have to cancel because 🤮

Cancel. That’s foul.

I strongly suspect you're over-reacting, but I have no idea what a whiffy growler might be.

It’s a babyish and faux funny way of saying smelly cunt.
and it’s a 100 million percent no from any sane woman

I think it’s just banter! He’s obviously joking,doesn’t think you need to wash your stanky fan fan for an extra hour!

Until this thread I had not heard the term "growler" as it refers to female genitalia. It's given me a whole new perspective on the name given to Angela Rayner. I don't particularly like AR but that's just disgusting.
Might as well just call her "fire crotch" and have done with it.

As for the OP. I agree with most of the posters on here. Ditch!

What an explanation! Tickled me that has 🤣🤣

I would be insulted, as well as turned off by the vulgar language. What a prince! I'm not saying he's bad or awful or anything, he might be great, but for me that would be too much of a disconnect. I like refined men.

Also, just that phrase would makes me feel a little sick. It's gross.

Make sure it is his last ever comment to you.

That's disgusting, too. Why do so many people have to conjure up such horrible images? I've seen it a bit on here - someone's username recently made me feel quite sick. There's nothing clever or funny about foul imagery.

@ruethewhirl (And if you are a man, I can't help wondering if you've said similar things yourself... 🤔)

I don't.

@InterIgnis A comment you dislike it not the same thing as a comment that is unacceptable to the point of no return.

Unacceptable to the point of no return?

I really wish you could hear the things that men, women, employers, and colleagues have said to me in the past. It seems like it would be far too extreme for you to bear.

I thought Angela R used the phrase herself when she was talking about distracting the Tory front bench.

Angela Rayner used that word about herself.

She did.