To cancel date over his ‘joke’?

[Datingwoee]

5th date tomorrow night with a man who has been great up to now. I’ve had to push the time back by an hour - said I’ll need extra time to freshen up after work. His reply to me was: “No worries, can’t be having a whiffy growler lol”.

Is that date cancelling worthy or am I being a bit too harsh?

I’d get the cancel brigade if he’d said can’t be having a stinking vagina but whiffy and growler are both words that are mildly amusing. Probably a bit early for such humour though if he’s yet to have a sniff in the bedroom.

You think? I'd say it betrays an utter inability to gauge what is and isn't appropriate to say, under any circumstances. IMO it also says rather a lot about his attitude to women. I've got a crude sense of humour myself, but there are limits.

I have to say, if not wanting a man to joke about whether I may or may not have a 'whiffy growler' means someone has 'eccentric and unusual criteria for judging character', then put me down for team eccentric every time. If you are a woman, would you really not have the ick if a man said this to you? (And if you are a man, I can't help wondering if you've said similar things yourself... 🤔)

I think you took a wrong turning, Mumsnet doesn't sell Viz magazine subscriptions.

No it doesn't, it means those of us who find it funny have a different sense of humour.

I’m not sure, if you think a man you’ve had four dates with calling your genitalia your growler is funny I’d think that’s fair low standards.

If there are no other red flags, I wouldn't cancel it! I think it's funny! But I do like crude humour

Very charming. Yeah, I couldn't date someone like that.

That'd put me off him for life, run for the hills!

Immediate Ick for me and I would 100% cancel, there certainly wouldn’t be another date

Seriously?

If it means what I think it does, I’d not continue the relationship. It’s a no from me, he sounds vulgar.

Depends

i like cheeky and inappropriate humour
only you can tell if he is a gross sexist pig or just a bit naughty

how foes he talk about women and how does he treat you

I have the ick on your behalf OP. And he'd never be getting a whiff of my growler.

Ew that’s gross 🤮

You can spot the single people on these threads a mile off

Op, lovely people use off colour and offensive humour. They can learn! What if you told him you get the ick with crude language and he hears that and learns from it? We are all so quick to judge someone on their worst moment and box them off.
Rather than ignoring all of his nicer attributes, let him know what you think. He could be a great guy based on everything else you said.

If my best mate said this, I'd convulse with laughter. A bloke on a fifth date?Absolutely not.

Context is everything. It's the effrontery aside from the misogyny toward a woman he doesn't even know. What led to his assumption that he's geting anywhere near your growler?

Begone, nasty sexist incel.

Are you dating one of the Inbetweeners?

That’s beyond ick.

In what way, those who object are single or those who like this are single?

im in object category, im happily married. The op objects, she’s single. So how do you spot it?

It's a fifth date. She doesn't even know him, so it's hardly worthy of investment at this stage.

Why is this dickish male a woman's problem to educate and sort out?

Seriously? Convulse with laughter?? Is it the word “growler”? The mention of smelliness? What?

It's the word 'growler'. Since you ask. Childish and crude. My friend and I can be like that, between ourselves and without directing it at others, because we both have a barbed sense of the ridiculous. And I'm not apologising for it.

Incidentally I'm well aware this wasn't an actual question.

I feel like im the only one that laughed out loud at the joke.😆

Why was it funny?