DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

[Fathersdaycry]

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are a load of bollocks. We don’t bother with either and I have never cared. One year, however, my husband did do something and I couldn’t help noticing that the bunch of flowers was rather small and the chocolates were not my favorite, I didn’t say anything though because I’m not a complete twat. People always seem disappointed whatever you do. Your DH sounds like a selfish immature brat!

My DH got a 95p chocolate orange. He put it in the fridge. He and DC went to visit his parents. I had the day to myself. Win win.

OP your DH sounds insufferable. Do you really want to spend your life with this man who is manipulative and childish.

It’s Father’s Day! You’re not his daughter. What’s going on with men? LTB!

Christ, my kids (all adults) collectively gave my husband back the 2 presents he bought himself (I keep telling him if he wants something for whatever present day it is, not to damn we’ll buy himself stuff before the day and send links to the kids, one day he’ll listen!) and a card which due to different times they woke up, and the rush to get out of the house, he got after we got back from going out to lunch where he got incredibly drunk. My Mother’s Day consisted of me getting flowers and a card but cooking for my parents and all the clear up, whilst he sorted everyone out with drinks including himself and getting completely drunk! OP, your husband is a pathetic dick!

Did you get your favourite set act.

Mine is
Sort the kids and house out and give me a fucking day off.

Father’s Day is made up shite to sell cards. Anal is not a Father’s Day requirement - as far as I am aware. I feel like you have chosen badly (OP) your husband is a sulky entitled manchild.

Not putting chocolate in the fridge is madness, it tastes so much better when chilled.

I'm focussing on that bit.

This is the funniest post so far!

Is this real?
If so Is he 5?
He sounds like an ungrateful child. Children can be forgiven because they are still learning. He isn't .
I couldn't be with someone so completely self centred and selfish

How do your efforts at parenting compare with his?

Does he spend a similar amount of time, effort, energy at being a dad, as you do being a mum?

Father’s day is about celebrating him as a father. My father made minimum effort at being a dad so he got a card.

It’s the children who are thanking him for his efforts and your role is to facilitate them in that.

Complaining about the gift is vile. Complaining about the lunch is vile too.

Asking for a sex act to make up for it is beyond gross.

@Fathersdaycry did you ‘salvage’ the day?

FTR, by next Fathers Day, I would not be around. I can't stand whinging bastards when they have nothing to whinge about and his whole persona would make me want to book a holiday with cliffs. Very high cliffs.

Does he realise he’s not your father?!

Remind him that it's Father's Day, not Partner's Day.

You know how you know if you're being unreasonable? Because if you imagine telling him you're going to complain to your parents and his about his behaviour, he would be humiliated rather than curious how someone else would perceive it.

Case in point, it is disgusting to insinuate wanting a sex act to "make up" for your failings.

How can he be so childish as to object to storing the chocolate in the fridge and taking it out 20 minutes before he wants it? His child chose it and he's not the least bit grateful. Tell me with a straight face you've never faked liking a gift from him.

We did far less and had a much nicer day because we're happy to have eachother.

He's a bad egg.

And you're still with that obnoxious prick?

I'd have dumped the dumb-dumb years ago!

As for sex demands ... he's obviously a wanker!

It happens annualy
I thought was a clever pun 🤣🤣

He’s a moany twit!!

I’d love to know what this prize specimen of fatherhood did/prepared for Mother’s Day?

Also, what sex act needs prior notice and get deployed once a year? Sounds awful. If it’s that unpalatable OP, and it’s not something you happily do, you shouldn’t do it at all! Tell him to fuck off!

Now I’ve moved on from the sex act with notice to where on earth you are still getting 95p chocolate oranges?! Not seen them under £2 in a long time. Unless it’s an Aldi version I’ve not seen and not Terry’s?!

There's appreciating the effort and still being annoyed with the results - that's the case with both the chocolate (though a heatwave should be an exception to the rule about not keeping chocolate in the fridge) and the meal out. Sitting outside in the heat isn't fun for most people.

Heat also makes people grumpier than usual.

I hope he showed some appreciation for the effort.

I don't know what options you have for being more flexible - you couldn't have known about the heat when you booked the meal out. Was it something you could cancel / postpone without loosing a deposit? Was there space for him to say 'that's great but I don't want to go there today, it's too hot can we postpone till X day?' Feeling obliged to go along with something that's usually fun but isn't in a particular set of circumstances isn't great.

You could encourage your child to never buy chocolate as a summer present because hot June says aren't uncommon.

With me enjoying a book before bed and nothing else. He has actually apologised this morning, and said he was having one of those days.

A sex act as an apology!? What a fucking horrible man he is!!

Someone mentioned 5 inches on here. I didn’t know they made them that small.

Vanity sizing. The labels only start at XL.

I’d have told him to fuck off and grow up!

I hope she hopped into bed with her thick, winter jacket to abandon the day. I would have left a pack of Rennie on the bedside table and protested I had a bad case of heartburn, too.

That'll dampen the oral and anal desires he was hoping for.