DH being an ungrateful **** or is it me?

[Fathersdaycry]

DH moaned he didn’t get a breakfast in bed today. Fair enough I could have thought of that but it’s been a stressful few days for other reasons. This seemed to set the tone for the day. He moaned the table at the pub we booked was outside and too hot. DS shouldn’t have got him a big bar of chocolate as it will just melt this week and he doesn’t want to eat it in one go today (he doesn’t keep chocolate in the fridge).

He has had a couple of drinks tonight which he doesn’t usually do on a Sunday night and I’ve come upstairs after he’s insinuated he ‘deserves’ a particular sex act to salvage the day (something I am not against doing but only with some notice for his birthday etc).

I feel like he has been totally ungrateful - nice cards, chocolates, a meal out, dinner cooked at home etc.

Hope you gave him a pegging on Mother's Day.

There is absolutely no evidence that suggests anal is more risky for a woman than a man.
Anal in itself is risky as the muscles aren’t designed for this.
The only risk to women that men don’t have to worry about is if vaginal sex follows, and obv the bacteria then enters the woman’s body and cause UTI’s etc!

I myself would refuse anal…. I have a perfectly good vagina for sex and if a man wanted that I’d be questioning their sexuality!

Isn’t it obvious? There are some things people aren’t keen on but will do to make their partner happy. But they may have to psych themselves up for.

Yes OP he sounds grumpy and rude. Also, a sex act? It’s Father’s Day it’s from his children not you his wife.

I think that it might be more desirable to him for his partner to NOT be quite so hirsuite. In the past, one of my exes would decide to wax or to shave more often "to be special".

How did anal help you find that you had endometriosis?

Power.

Of course they know women don’t really like it and for most it’s painful and / extremely uncomfortable, but that’s part of the pleasure for them isn’t it. They get a kick out of a woman subjugating herself for them. If she shits herself that adds to her humiliation.

If they could take a literal shit into a woman’s open mouth I’m sure a lot of men would want to try that.

I don't think Imodium works the way you think it does. It shuts the plumbing off, so to speak.
But I'm prepared to be wrong. I often am. 😉

Lol, maybe he was hoping for another one!

Where's the smiley face gone !

We need Answers to the critical concern here

Yikes I've just read the whole thread. "Book the anesthesiast"

😂😂😂

Hey what is this ? Better not post a diagram

I'd be telling him to get fucked. And it wouldn't be by me.

You’re not being unreasonable at all. He’s whinged all day from not getting his breakfast to not being entitled to your body because it’s Father’s Day. His behaviour sounds appalling, so no, not unreasonable.

Sex as a Father's Day present is giving incest vibes. Weird. And the prep.

He sounds like a complete self absorbed tosser.

And did you get a sex act of your choice? (And did he?)

I actually think its disgusting and gross to want a sex act to celebrate fathers day. Although I also think its odd and bizarre someone partakes in a sex act that requires a notice period / and is for special occasions only? WTF do you do that needs notice? And it doesn't sound like it's much enjoyed if you are only "willing" to do it once a year?

Err.. what would he do with the socks?

Sometimes I think that maybe it would be nice to meet someone and be in a relationship again. Then the universe throws threads like this my way.

Breakfast in bed would’ve been nice and not much effort, especially since he does this for you on Mother’s Day. Whinging about the heat in the beer garden and his chocolate melting is a bit silly.

...and is an annual event?!

Sure you mean an anal event 😅

Whatever he wants going in / up / on ...after a comment implying deserves..would make everything clamp shut

There was a thread on here last year where the DH did this on his birthday.
It ended up being the start of the end of the marriage.
Ick to infinity.
I love chocolate, don’t put it in the fridge, I’ll have a bar as a gift in a heatwave. Any time.

But it’s really shitty...
Soooo shitty doing this sex act which we all know is anal.

Have some self respect! Its fathers day. At no point does that mean he deserves sex. Especially not a sex act that requires you to have notice. We all know what that means and really health wise you should say no. Its awful for you and will eventually cause you problems. And well its just grim.
He sounds like a spoilt brat.
My dh picked his fave tea i cooked it. Our kids got him some thoughtful little gifts and spent the day with him. He isnt my father i dont owe him anything same as him on mothers day. But then he would not demand sex just because he is the father of my children . That would be a mutual decision based on both of us wanting it . Major red flag behaviour.

OP so tell us how the night ended? He sounds like a complete dick of a man child. Hope you told him to fuck off.