AIBU to struggle with neighbours' children screaming while working from home?

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One of the few things I am not looking forward to the next few days are screaming kids.

Two families that moved late last year and earlier this year have 5-6 kids between them and all they do is scream! They run outside and scream. As the properties are in an odd shaped quadrangle, their screams bounce off the walls. Making the screaming even more intense. The kids’ ages, c3-9 years old.

My job is hybrid, so didn’t get this issue last summer as properties the kids live in - one didn’t have kids and the other had kids and behaved.

I had to close a window to keep the screaming down. There is no way I would close a window when it’s 31c.

I do wish parents would tell their kids that screaming is not acceptable. My work is two thirds on calls ti various customers, other staff in other departments and my team’s colleagues. I can hear the screaming from wearing the call headset.

Any tips will be appreciated

Kids may scream when they play, @Swiftie1878 - but parents can tell their children to dial down the volume, if the screaming is loud and/or incessant.

I don’t think anyone expects children to be silent, but it isn’t unreasonable for parents to ensure their kids’ volume isn’t too high.

Who is going to "teach" them? How are you going to force the parents to compromise? You can't.

If the neighbours refuse to be "taught" or compromise, there are no sanctions OP or anyone else can impose on them.

The only person who seems to think there is a problem is OP.

Without voluntary cooperation from the neighbours, the only person who has any power to solve OP's problem is OP.

Yes children can play and you might expect the odd scream, but let's face it, some parents are just idle twats who can't be arsed to bring up their kids properly.

Why should people in a residential area have to accommodate people who have chosen to work from home?

“Excessive screaming” is likely a matter of personal perspective.

It’s clear that this bothers you a great deal. At the same time, managing your mental health sensitivities and ability to tolerate children’s noise from their own garden is your responsibility, not your neighbors’. You can approach them with understanding and respect and ask for reasonable accommodation. But ultimately, it’s up to you.

What do you mean, who is going to teach them? That's the job of parents. What an odd question. You tell them if they don't stop screaming they'll have to come inside, and then you carry that out if necessary. SEN issues aside, it's hardly rocket science.

And no, no one can force anyone to compromise, but people are entitled to let off steam about selfish people who are impacting their day-to-day life.

If that's your view, I suspect you're either being disingenuous, live somewhere exceptionally peaceful and haven't encountered the problem, or are part of the problem.

Basic consideration for others is hardly 'accommodating'.

That's the job of parents

Are you going to tell them then?

How are you going to force the parents to "teach" the children to behave in a way that someone whose business it is not wants to impose?

No one has the right to tell parents how to parent their children (unless there is evidence of neglect or abuse). Anyone who tried that with me would be sent away with their ears ringing.

This!

I live in a neighborhood with quite a few young children. I don’t expect them to be quiet in the late afternoon, early evening for my convenience.

Sod that. People's homes should be primarily for living and relaxing in.. Surely if a company doesn't want to provide sufficient office space for its staff the least it can do is provide air con units so people can close the window but work comfortably.

You're sounding more and more like part of the problem the more you post, tbh. And why do you keep putting 'teach' in quotes? Yes, parents are supposed to teach their children things, were you not familiar with the concept?

Matter of opinion that it isn't the business of others, btw, if said others are being inconvenienced. As I said upthread, what I feel is needed is compromise, but you seem to think parents and their children should have things all their own way at all times. Why is that?

Yet another post on this thread twisting people's words. Where did I say I expected children to be quiet? As it happens I've quite enjoyed hearing children playing outside over the past week or so, even with some screaming in the mix. What they haven't being doing is the sort of prolonged decibel-shattering screaming which OP described in her initial post. It's specifically that type of screaming OP and others on the thread, myself included, are objecting to. But I think you know that full well, if we're honest.

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People's homes should be primarily for living and relaxing in..

Not so easy to relax if you've got children screaming outside thought is it?

We had a run of it in my street some years ago. Some game which involved children repeatedly running down the street screaming - and I mean real high pitched continuous screaming - and the run ended for some reason outside my and my neighbours' house. My elderly neighbour had to turn his hearing aid off when they were doing it because he couldn't tolerate the noise.

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How unnecessarily disagreeable you are.

If you mean my final sentence, I can see why you'd choose to interpret it that way. I stand by it, though. You know exactly the kind of screaming I'm talking about, but for some reason you don't want to admit it. I wonder why that is?

What the hell? That’s so unnecessary

@maxslice I saw your post before it was removed. And then you call me disagreeable 😂😂😂

You really cannot cope with being disagreed with, can you? Your posts on MN, both here and elsewhere (and no, I'm not stalking, your username rang a bell from another thread www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5545323-performative-drivel-from-grown-adults) are painting a very clear picture of your character. Calling people 'hypersensitive clowns' and saying one poster is 'a nasty, unkind twat'? The utter hypocrisy of you.

You've got some bloody front calling me or anyone else names given the way you behave on here.

What an example to set to your children. Behave however you want, irrespective of how it may affect others and if challenged? Just shout at them. Lovely.

Pfffffftttt.