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To think my universal credit feels generous.

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:10

I got to my early 40s without ever needing to claim but circumstances find me single and paying the lions share of child related outgoings.

I work full time on£31,000 and have found out this year thanks to applying that I get on average about £800 from UC. It has been an absolute life changer and will hopefully be able to afford a modest uk holiday actually during the summer holidays and pay the school back some debt im in for after school care.

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side that as a cash strapped mum of two who works full time, UC is making a positive difference to our life. I didn't even think id qualify!

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:24

@Holdonforsummer I totally understand. Its rubbish that senior nurses are not paid far more.

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Upsetbetty · 20/06/2026 15:24

youalright · 20/06/2026 14:24

This as soon as her kids are out of education it will be taken away

But thats ok because once her kids are old enough THEY can work and make up the loss instead of her trying to earn more… 🙄

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 15:26

JoyousOpalLemur · 20/06/2026 14:43

An organisation that gets hundreds of billions of pounds in funding every year can't afford to pay a decent wage but you expect companies with no support to pay better wages, and if they don't then for their staff to be taxed so that they can have a nice holiday?

Why do you have your own company if you can't afford staff wages? Would you not be better getting a job?

Nearlyadoctor · 20/06/2026 15:27

Jk987 · 20/06/2026 15:24

Does the ex pay nothing at all towards his children? Does he see them? If the absent parent paid more there would be less people claiming.

No there wouldn’t - the ex could pay 10K a month and the OP would still get UC. The system is so flawed

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:27

@Holdonforsummer I'm currently working as aband 4 but doing the nursing apprenticeship to go to band 5

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Lovethystupidneighbour · 20/06/2026 15:27

80smonster · 20/06/2026 14:51

I’m not sure I understand the post tbh. If the children had a father, he should be contributing, if neither of you had jobs that afforded your lifestyle: why have two children. Afterschool care is subject to tax free childcare scheme, so again don’t understand why that would incur debt. Universal credit wasn’t invented to send people on UK holidays. The benefit system wasn’t contrived to mop up poorly considered lifestyles, but that’s how it is used.

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Subject to tax free childcare scheme? So what, 20% off? It costs 25£ a day per child minimum for wraparound care. Would you have a spare £400 a month kicking around as a single parent on 31 grand a year?

CoralOP · 20/06/2026 15:28

Frequency · 20/06/2026 14:39

Middlesbrough, Billingham, Redar, Stockton, Blackhall, Hartlepool, Peterlee...

I'm from here, whilst there are a lot of unemployed people (a lot by choice) your suggestion that jobs are not the norm is absolutely ridiculous.
Maybe you live amongst these people so have the idea that's it's normal but everyone I know works, a lot are on 35k and over, have nice homes, work in professional roles etc.

Raccoonsmacaroons · 20/06/2026 15:28

£800 a month? So £9600 a year?! What sort of caravan parks are you looking at that that won’t stretch to???

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:29

@Jk987 he has them to stay 2/3 times a week and pays a little towards them. I pay the lions share as I receive the.child benefit

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MsGreying · 20/06/2026 15:30

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:17

I understand this is an area that gets a lot of trolling but I'm not. Im trying to spread a bit of positivity in the face of some blatant uc trolling posts today.

When I say debt I only mean £150 I owe to school which ive got down to £60 now!

If that's your only debt you generally live within your means.

As for generosity which of us here pays £800 a month in tax?

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:30

@Raccoonsmacaroons I really dont understand. That money is to help me raise my children out of poverty. Not a piggy bank for a blowout holiday

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:32

@MsGreying me! Sometime i see al.ost the same amount of money coming out of my wages as I get back. (I understand that the money out does not go there and there)

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Allseeingallknowing · 20/06/2026 15:34

daisychain01 · 20/06/2026 15:16

I love how people will always leap to the conclusion that the holiday is funded by UC.

how about the OPs wages (£31K) enables her to have a holiday with her child, with UC helping her pay the essential bills and not get into debt.

its all about perspective, innit.

well done OP why shouldn't you feel positive that your life has meaning and you're not on the bones of your arse.

If the UC added to her income is enabling her to have a holiday then it is funded by the UC!

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:34

Right better spend some time with the kids before I get a bashing for that!! (Only joking)

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Nearlyadoctor · 20/06/2026 15:34

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:30

@Raccoonsmacaroons I really dont understand. That money is to help me raise my children out of poverty. Not a piggy bank for a blowout holiday

£31k plus child benefit and maintenance is hardly poverty.
Also if you’re now renting I’m guessing ExH is in the marital home - can that not be sold so you could buy somewhere

Holdonforsummer · 20/06/2026 15:34

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:27

@Holdonforsummer I'm currently working as aband 4 but doing the nursing apprenticeship to go to band 5

Amazing! Good luck!

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 15:38

NotSure222 · 20/06/2026 15:00

I think I am missing something - you are posting that British tax payers are funding your holiday and that’s a postive spin on universal credit?

I'm one of them. Happy to help fund the OP.

Frequency · 20/06/2026 15:40

CoralOP · 20/06/2026 15:28

I'm from here, whilst there are a lot of unemployed people (a lot by choice) your suggestion that jobs are not the norm is absolutely ridiculous.
Maybe you live amongst these people so have the idea that's it's normal but everyone I know works, a lot are on 35k and over, have nice homes, work in professional roles etc.

The average salary in Redcar and Cleveland is £28,630, so I don't believe you know lots of people living in that area who are on over £35k, in that area.

The average household income in Middlesbrough is £20,700.

https://ukareastats.co.uk/area/redcar-and-cleveland/

Edit: That was an older link, the latest data suggests the average household income in Boro is now £23k p/a, which is still a far cry from lots of people earning £35k p/a. Jobs paying that in the Teesside/Redcar and Cleveland area are rare. They exist, but they are not the norm.

To think my universal credit feels generous.
TheBlueKoala · 20/06/2026 15:42

@MoonBaby1 Happy for you OP! I think UC is great because it's means based. What doesn't sit fine with me is DLA and PIP not being means based or atleast based on factual needs. If there is a cost involved it should be supported ofcourse but in many cases there aren't.

SinicalMe · 20/06/2026 15:44

MsGreying · 20/06/2026 15:30

If that's your only debt you generally live within your means.

As for generosity which of us here pays £800 a month in tax?

Me, I pay £1k in month in tax and no I’m not rich. I shop in Aldi out of necessity, drive a 10 year old. I’m definitely not rolling in it.

Fairyliz · 20/06/2026 15:45

feellikeanalien · 20/06/2026 14:59

Maintenance isn't taken into account when calculating UC.

What! You are joking surely?
So your ex could be a high earner and actually want to provide for his children so give your say £3k a month and you can still claim UC?
The world’s gone mad.

MrsKeats · 20/06/2026 15:46

Fairyliz · 20/06/2026 15:45

What! You are joking surely?
So your ex could be a high earner and actually want to provide for his children so give your say £3k a month and you can still claim UC?
The world’s gone mad.

It’s because parents (fathers let’s be honest) often stop paying with no warning.
Wind your neck in.

Frequency · 20/06/2026 15:48

MrsKeats · 20/06/2026 15:46

It’s because parents (fathers let’s be honest) often stop paying with no warning.
Wind your neck in.

This.

And lots of fathers use CM as a tool to control and abuse women, which is why it is not counted in UC calculations.

Notmycircusnotmyotter · 20/06/2026 15:53

I think it's mad you're getting £800 of taxpayers money EVERY MONTH when you're earning £31k. It's lunacy.

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 15:55

Holdonforsummer · 20/06/2026 15:20

Good for you, OP, but what I resent is that the UC top up now probably means you take home more than I do as a Band 7 in the NHS after tax.

Surely not?

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