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AIBU?

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To think my universal credit feels generous.

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MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:10

I got to my early 40s without ever needing to claim but circumstances find me single and paying the lions share of child related outgoings.

I work full time on£31,000 and have found out this year thanks to applying that I get on average about £800 from UC. It has been an absolute life changer and will hopefully be able to afford a modest uk holiday actually during the summer holidays and pay the school back some debt im in for after school care.

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side that as a cash strapped mum of two who works full time, UC is making a positive difference to our life. I didn't even think id qualify!

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MrsKeats · 20/06/2026 15:07

I couldn’t get wound up about this. The op is paying into the tax system so fair enough.

Allseeingallknowing · 20/06/2026 15:07

Frequency · 20/06/2026 14:34

It is.

There is no way a single parent on approximately £40,000 a year feels like they have too much money, not unless they have massive amounts of family help towards childcare and live in a very cheap part of the north.

I’d say a single parent on £40k a year is doing very nicely.

youalright · 20/06/2026 15:08

witheringrowan · 20/06/2026 15:04

I blame Tony Blair for bringing in "in work benefits" in the first place & not seeing the knock on consequences. Need at the time because there were children in working families living in poverty, but I bet you could nicely chart the rise of working families in receipt of benefits with the UK's productivity slump. No incentives for companies to invest in finding more effective ways of working so they can pay higher wages, when they can cheaply employ people and the low salary isn't a turn off because the state will top it up.

During that time people where allowed to sit at home claiming benefits until their child reached 16 that is no longer a thing isn't it better now people working paying tax and NI and getting a small top up to help

Nearlyadoctor · 20/06/2026 15:08

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:00

I get very little from their Dad due to him also being a low earner.

BTW thanks f9r all the caravan holiday advice!

Also being a low earner?? 31K isn’t a low earner, it’s not great single with 2 kids but for him on his own is hardly poverty - and you say he doesn’t get UC , why would he if the kids live with you?

80smonster · 20/06/2026 15:08

Nearlyadoctor · 20/06/2026 14:52

Even if the father is contributing the OP would still get the same amount of UC

Maybe he needs a better job rather than benefits?

PenelopeJoanSterling · 20/06/2026 15:08

Allseeingallknowing · 20/06/2026 15:07

I’d say a single parent on £40k a year is doing very nicely.

hardly. depends on location and associated costs for the area

NoArmaniNoPunani · 20/06/2026 15:09

Still works out at less than 3k a month. I'd struggle to manage on that. Full time work should pay more than 31k a year.

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:10

Im in the East. Rent is high (£1050) but generally speaking its not as awful as the south for money. I understand that £40 would be a lot less there.

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ThunderThunderThunderThunderCats · 20/06/2026 15:11

Frequency · 20/06/2026 14:18

Agreed.

I also have to assume that OP is living in the north and either has family help towards childcare or has children who no longer need childcare while she works.

She'd feel very differently if this weren't the case.

And on the subject of the north, it is worth bearing in mind that jobs paying £30,000k p/a are not the norm; in fact, jobs are not the norm full stop. We have a massive problem with a lack of opportunity and poor or failing infrastructure.

I’m not sure which part of the north you’re in, but in the NW there’s plenty of jobs. And £30000 is around average for anyone just above entry level.

Newyearawaits · 20/06/2026 15:12

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:23

@Error404FucksNotFound I dont think I'm getting too much. I am getting help that possibly will enable a small caravan holiday and help buy my children clothes.

I am reassured that uc tops up ft working parents /others.
That seems fair to me

drunkelephant83 · 20/06/2026 15:12

Allseeingallknowing · 20/06/2026 15:07

I’d say a single parent on £40k a year is doing very nicely.

That’s only around 2600 take home without taking pension into consideration. Thats not a huge amount to live on after rent/mortgage bills etc.

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:12

I agree @NoArmaniNoPunani !
I work antisocial hours to try a d top up wages a bit. My ex or family has the children those nights a d weekends.

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iloveanearlynight · 20/06/2026 15:12

800? Over what time frame? Really unhelpful not to state that.

Frequency · 20/06/2026 15:12

witheringrowan · 20/06/2026 15:04

I blame Tony Blair for bringing in "in work benefits" in the first place & not seeing the knock on consequences. Need at the time because there were children in working families living in poverty, but I bet you could nicely chart the rise of working families in receipt of benefits with the UK's productivity slump. No incentives for companies to invest in finding more effective ways of working so they can pay higher wages, when they can cheaply employ people and the low salary isn't a turn off because the state will top it up.

I agree that tax credits were shortsighted and were always going to keep wages artificially low, but now we have in-work benefits, I'm not sure there is a sustainable way out of them without punishing those who rely on them to cover the necessities. Very few people on top-up benefits feel the way OP does. Most are living hand to mouth with their budget balanced on a knife-edge.

Studies have shown that many households on UC have adults skipping meals, not topping up the electric meter, and not filling essential prescriptions to make ends meet.

UBI might work if we can find a way to fund it. If people can afford not to work for a pittance or starve, employers will have to pay enough to attract staff.

DrCoconut · 20/06/2026 15:13

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 14:38

I do rent at £1050 per month. Extortionate for a 2 bed place but pretty normal round here.

So that's what's pushing it up. I have a mortgage and am not entitled to as much as you because of it. I definitely do not feel too well off. I have £6.85 till my next pay day, discounting overdraft. <puts tin hat on ready for the "tax payers are buying you a house" brigade>

Differentforgirls · 20/06/2026 15:13

Frequency · 20/06/2026 14:18

Agreed.

I also have to assume that OP is living in the north and either has family help towards childcare or has children who no longer need childcare while she works.

She'd feel very differently if this weren't the case.

And on the subject of the north, it is worth bearing in mind that jobs paying £30,000k p/a are not the norm; in fact, jobs are not the norm full stop. We have a massive problem with a lack of opportunity and poor or failing infrastructure.

The North?

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:14

£800 pcm

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daisychain01 · 20/06/2026 15:16

loveandletdie · 20/06/2026 14:21

Excuse my ignorance as I’m not from the UK but my understanding that universal credit was to help low income people/families with day to day life but not to fund holidays as they are a luxury

I love how people will always leap to the conclusion that the holiday is funded by UC.

how about the OPs wages (£31K) enables her to have a holiday with her child, with UC helping her pay the essential bills and not get into debt.

its all about perspective, innit.

well done OP why shouldn't you feel positive that your life has meaning and you're not on the bones of your arse.

Coconutter24 · 20/06/2026 15:19

So many benefits bashing threads so I just wanted to present another side

That other side being you’re going to use the money for a holiday and some debt…

I do support people working full time and receiving some help (they’re paying into the system so why shouldn’t they get help) but it also just goes to show how unaffordable things are becoming compared to some full time wages

Allseeingallknowing · 20/06/2026 15:19

drunkelephant83 · 20/06/2026 15:12

That’s only around 2600 take home without taking pension into consideration. Thats not a huge amount to live on after rent/mortgage bills etc.

It’s a lot more than some get working full time, even with two of them working.

Holdonforsummer · 20/06/2026 15:20

Good for you, OP, but what I resent is that the UC top up now probably means you take home more than I do as a Band 7 in the NHS after tax.

NoArmaniNoPunani · 20/06/2026 15:20

NotSure222 · 20/06/2026 15:00

I think I am missing something - you are posting that British tax payers are funding your holiday and that’s a postive spin on universal credit?

Funding a holiday is money going back into our economy, generating more jobs. I'd sooner that than fund wars or enable tax dodging billionaires to get richer.

Cars4Gov · 20/06/2026 15:20

Most are living hand to mouth with their budget balanced on a knife-edge

But why? If a single person with 2 children has £3k per month after deductions then I don't consider that that a knife edge.

MoonBaby1 · 20/06/2026 15:22

@Coconutter24 did ypu miss the part where I said twice that the debt is £150 to my youngest afterschool care that I have alm9st paid off. Not a flipping Next.card!

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Jk987 · 20/06/2026 15:24

Does the ex pay nothing at all towards his children? Does he see them? If the absent parent paid more there would be less people claiming.

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