Utterly sickened by rugby tour/stag DP attended

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I have name changed for this. DP plays rugby and they have an annual weekender/end of season tour somewhere each season, usually always in the UK. One of the players is getting married so they did a combined tour/stag this year abroad.

I am friendly with a couple of other partners and so have been made aware of some of the details.

They hired someone to be handcuffed to the stag, purely based on his small size. I find this really offensive.

There was really really weird games/dares involving urine that I won’t repeat on here.

Two players, DP included, lost a bet and had to streak in public wearing only a pair of underwear each which was ‘borrowed’ from a hen party out there.

At least two players cheated on their wives.

DP has verified all of the above and said it’s standard fare when rugby players go away together (added that he was unaware of the cheating and wouldn’t approve). I can’t say I was ever aware of this rugby ‘notoriety’ before I met him.

I have told him I disapprove and he thinks I am over reacting and should accept it’s par for the course. Am I over reacting?

I hate it. There was an Australian rugby player who filmed himself having oral sex with a dog a few years ago. That was disgusting too. They are disgusting men.

Oona thats depraved..🤯

God, rugby players are twats.

Sorry I wrote that having only read page 1. Now my comment is on page 10, and I can add “depraved” to my message. Urgg.

Urgh, I hope there were consequences for him @OonaStubbs .

How charming for your dp to refer to his knicker lender as "a slapper", op.

Utter fucking wankers and someone is actually marrying one

Sounds like just the type to be going on one of those rugby scum tours.

I would fully assume that any man who goes on that sort of trip is unfaithful

What’s wrong with that description?

What's right about it?

I don’t approve of the term and DP is no better but anyone dropping their knickers in a bar has likely been called worse.

If the cap fits etc

Why not? They are a lot of fun unless you are naive enough to think this kind of thing doesn’t go on.

Fuck me - have we been teleported back to the 1950s? 🤣

Loaded with misogyny.

Just don’t marry one!

No! The partner of OP is just as bad!

Exactly. He's a hypocrite.

@Anarchy99 unexpected groping doesn’t sound consensual

I clarified upthread. As someone who was raped at 25, I can assure you I understand the concept of consent.

I 100% consented to it - it was unexpected in the sense of it sometimes just happened from whoever.

I am guessing that anyone clutching their pearls over that is much younger than I am. It was a lot of fun and their fidelity to their partners wasn’t my business

The cheating is totally wrong

the streaking is fine and a laugh

in would be more concerned at the hens donating their knickers

either peeing on each other or drinking wee isn’t my cup of tea but again harmless

I agree

it also sounds so dated this sort of behaviour was really celebrated in the 90’s was horrible then it’s horrible now

Yes. Just the fact that anyone would even think to put their dick in a dog’s mouth!!!

Around the same time another group of rugby players came up with the idea of shitting all over a hotel room - on coffee tables, sideboards etc. - and leaving it for the cleaning staff to deal with as a “joke”.

The person that did that was fucking disgusting, but you can’t extrapolate that all rugby players are sexually deviant from a couple of examples, any more than you can assume that, because of the recent news, all teachers are paedophiles and child murderers

You've chosen a great role model for any future children you may have with this 'man' Truly. Top tier

I doubt this kind of behaviour came out of nowhere. This is who you choose to be with. This is who you've accepted. This kind of stuff will just be par for the course 🤷‍♀️