AIBU to challenge the school’s wording about pupils rolling skirts up?

[GreenSalon]

Weekly newsletter today from DC’s secondary school contained a paragraph on uniform including the fact that there have been complaints from the public about “pupils who choose to wear skirts” rolling them up to wear them extremely short. It finishes with asking parents to speak to their children about why this is “not a good idea”.

Now, apart from the fact I assume that they must mean girls, is this not clearly implying that short skirts = making themselves vulnerable and if is, then if anything bad happens as a result it is their own fault? I thought we had moved beyond this kind of nonsense.

I only have boys at the school not girls but want to write to the head to point out how utterly sexist this is. DH agrees with me pov but thinks I shouldn’t write. AIBU?

'Utter horseshit'? Riiight. You've rtft and missed the repeated schoolgirl mockery and slurs, some by actual alleged ex teachers?!

The sneery attitude toward schoolgirls under the guise of 'concern' has been constant and prevalent throughout, certainly not just a few weirdos.

Only challenged by a handful of us but hopefully some have seen the error of their ways.

It's maybe working as we haven't had a 'sweaty arse cheek' for a good while..

Don't be surprised. I've now asked Gloriia on two separate occasions how she would explain to her own daughter(s) why they shouldn't behave in this way, but she refuses to answer. She's very good at finding things to criticise other posters about, but not quite as good at telling us how she would deal with it.

She’s probably busy being indignant about the teeny shorts thread!

'I've now asked Gloriia on two separate occasions how she would explain to her own daughter(s) why they shouldn't behave in this way, but she refuses to answer'

Have you rtft? I've said repeatedly I support a dress code, I've said repeatedly I'd tell dc to adhere to it or accept any penalties <in bold so you can't miss it> but I've said all this can be done without appalling shaming and misogyny.

This childish sniggering is a bit silly, no?

If 'the teeny shorts' <wtf> thread is full of sickening 'sweaty arses hanging out' observations then I maybe will go and put people right!

I’d have thought you’d have seen that thread title, rolled up your sleeves and dived right in very enthusiastically @Gloriia

The constant faux pearl-clutching at fairly innocuous language is quite plainly the only argument you feel you have here.

If you think referring to schoolgirls as dressed like 'a bunch of tramps' is 'fairly innocuous langauge' <> and anyone calling it out is a pearl clutcher then you are part of the problem.

If it’s not called out for what it is, the behaviour continues and becomes normalised. I do not want my very young daughter to think dressing in that way in school (or anywhere really) is acceptable or expected.

In constantly suggesting that these girls should be able to dress how they please and not addressing the bigger issues around hygiene, appropriateness, offensiveness, legality, and endangerment, I’m afraid to say that YOU are actually part of the bigger problem and you are contributing to the ongoing erosion of standards in wider society.

Do it without the misogyny, sneers and slurs. It's not hard. Well it shouldn't be.

I mean they aren't dressing in the most appropriate manner are they? 😔

If they are dressing like something, it's just us describing how we feel about it.

I agree. As I said earlier in the thread, something like this would be appropriate from the school and from parents:

“Skirts must be knee length, and no underwear should be visible - this applies to everyone”.