AIBU to expect payment when my sister's boyfriend used my concert ticket?

[ThatHazelWasp]

Long time lurker first time poster.

Need some outside perspectives on this to see if I’m the one that’s unreasonable. Bought concert tickets last year alongside DSis1 and Dsis2. Realised a few months later I had double booked myself so couldn’t go to the concert.

DS1 wanted to use my ticket to take her daughter, my DN, but wanted to check she was allowed to go due to her age etc. I asked DS1 a few times if she wanted the ticket but she always replied she needed to look into. DSis never actually told me she wasn’t going to take DN, only when i text her 2 days before the concert about something unrelated did she let me know. This didn’t leave me any time to sell the ticket and I was also on holiday the week before the concert.

Dsis2 boyfriend ended up going to the concert using my ticket. I don’t think he was really bothered about going but they saw it as the ticket was going to get wasted so he may as well use it. DSis2 didn’t text me before the concert to let me know or to ask if this was ok. Had she messaged me I would have told her he’s fine to take the ticket but I expect him to pay me for it. I don’t think DS2 boyfriend would have gone if he had to pay for the ticket.

To add I also would have expected DSis1 to pay me for the ticket if she wanted to take DN.

AIBU to expect DSis2/boyfriend to pay me for my ticket?

You should have chased for an answer about DN in good time to sell the ticket if she didn’t want it.

Your BIL was using a ticket otherwise going to waste. What benefit to you would there have been of him not going? You’ve admitted you weren’t able to sell it.

YABU and should have sold it well before 2 days before - it was your ticket so for you to ask if people wanted it or you would. The boyfriend only went as otherwise it would have gone to waste.

Are you so tight that you’d rather it went to waste than someone used it?

Haven’t read the thread. If you wanted to get paid you should have just sold the ticket after reasonable time passed and your sister didn’t tell you about your niece. Or said ‘I’d like to sell my ticket, let me know if DN will join you (and pay for it) by xx date otherwise I’ll sell it to someone else’. 2 days before you still had it so it you wouldn’t have been able to sell it anyway.

I think your DSis could have behaved better but this is mainly down to you not being proactive about selling the ticket. You were passive letting everything sit until you had no time. And now it's all done with you want get money out of someone who, you seem to think, would not have wanted to buy the ticket anyway. I would let it go and take it as a lesson to not be so passive in the future.

This.

Let it go.

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So then he'd have said no, and wouldn't have gone and... then what? You'd have exactly the same amount of money from it as you do now.
It has made absolutely no difference to you that he went rather than the ticket going in the bin.

No, I wouldn't expect the payment in this situation. And definitely wouldn't take a payment from my own niece (had she agreed to go). What's wrong with you.

If the money were so important to you, you should have been more proactive from the start, asked your sister to confirm whether the niece was definitely going, and sold the ticket if she wasn't.

As for the boyfriend.. So you'd really rather the ticket just went unused than he went to the gig? Do you hate him or something?

You sound oddly petty and grabby.

I don’t understand why 2 days before, when you clearly couldn’t sell it, they would need to check its ok. Whether someone was sat in the seat or not at this point you weren’t getting any money back.