To think life is more of a pain in the arse than it's worth

[CurdinHenry]

Another day another random assortment of hassle and pain

And this is pretty much the best it's ever been (ok the 00s were better)

Aibu to wonder why this is a secret truth?

@MustTryHarderAndHarder What care? My late mum's care home cost my sibling & I about £120,000!

I agree. In fact, having experienced some very traumatic events has made me appreciate life even more.
I know too many people who haven’t had the chance to live a long life so I’m not wasting mine by being miserable. It would feel like an insult to those I’ve lost.

Yes, exactly.

You lost her inheritance. For what? So that your mother could have a few extra years when I assumed she had already had a long and fulfilling life.

I'm sure your mother would not have wanted that and would have much preferred you and your sister to have the money.

People who say that life is objectively great, and that you can just choose to be happy, have something wrong with them chemically, I think. It's an imbalance in the brain.

Yes, money doesn't necessarily buy happiness in and of itself but it does offer choices & those can lead to happiness.

I agree @CurdinHenrythey won’t introduce assisted dying as it will mean less taxpayers

I think the existentialists had it right with their view that the world is just absurd.

As humans we try to invent things to give it meaning and purpose but really we don't know why we are here, what the point of it is and a lot of whether you live a great or a crap life is just down to luck.

Religion and God (s) are the main way we have tried to give it all some point - the old "struggle here & be rewarded in the after life" is a great way to convince yourself that it's worth it and that obviously kept people going for centuries.
Without that central belief it does all become a bit bleak and pointless if you really think about it.

Did you only recently discover that life is meaningless and everything dies?

@CurdinHenry you choose your own path in life.

If your life is shit then that's due to choices you are making. Don't blame your parents.

You can choose to carry on feeling life is shit or you can make some changes. Big changes. Small changes. That's up to you. Don't wait for life to come to you.

My life is tough but I love life. I have found some great people and learned (the hard way) not to let others drag you down.

It’s futile in that there’s no ‘point’ to it I guess.
I have a great time though. Friends, animals, good food, travel, music…
it’s great.

OP, if you are not already writing for a living, you should be.
I must be a bit sick, I am really enjoying this thread.
Nihilists unite!

I presume OP must be in a very dark place at the moment (otherwise she wouldn't have posted this)..so I wouldn't dream of kicking her while she's down

If she thinks life is more bother than it's worth why would that make her feel better.

I'm sorry but we don't always choose our path in life. If our lives are shit, it's not always because of the choices we made. What about girls born in a country where they get married off at 7 years old, or children born into famine or war? What about all the people who are abused or abandoned? I could go on and on with examples like this. Life is so unfair, and for some people it really is shit through no fault of their own.

No we should be allowed to talk about this. If people think it's bringing them down even though they insist nothing could challenge their view on life then they simply shouldn't read it.

And why don't we tell people to stick a job or marriage out? Just change your mindset! So your husband is lazy and selfish, other women have it worse! Just suck it up! See how that works...

What? OP is a terrible writer, no offense.

Did you have good parents?

I'm sorry but you shouldn't be telling people that life is objectively bad. If you feel that way, it is a symptom of mental disease. Nothing at all like telling people to stick out a bad marriage.

You need £££ though to do these things .....so as much as that would be lovely, it's not always possible 😕

I love David Benatar-I must get around to reading his book! And yeah that's the idea, life is worth continuing but not worth starting. I totally agree.

No I think just like "regretful parents" especially "regretful mothers" it is a social taboo. I have always thought that life was not a gift but I accept others think differently.

I am heartened to know others feel the same way (probably as much as mothers who found they did not enjoy being mothers did when they saw others do feel the same way and were only afraid to say so).

....says someone who has never suffered with clinical depression

Ok, but that's a specific situation, isn't it? There is a big difference between 'life is objectively shit' and 'motherhood isn't for everyone'. I'm someone who was never cut out to be a mother. Hence, I never became one. There is no reason nowadays for women (or anyone) to have children they don't want, at least not in most of the developed world.

At least you admit that this outlook is a result of mental illness, rather than being reality.

Not helpful, but feeling this way is as old as time: Accidie (also spelled acedia) is an archaic term for a state of listlessness, apathy, or spiritual sloth. It describes a heavy, inert feeling of not caring or losing interest in one's obligations, work, or spiritual condition.