To think life is more of a pain in the arse than it's worth

[CurdinHenry]

Another day another random assortment of hassle and pain

And this is pretty much the best it's ever been (ok the 00s were better)

Aibu to wonder why this is a secret truth?

Basically this

I’m one of those people who struggles with life. I’ve put it down to having chronic serious health problems. I can hardly say I’m thriving.

Well because if you say this is shit eh you get either performative Concern pathways or social opprobrium. So like parenthood there's a serious taboo ceiling for candour.

Yes, there is more. Surviving advanced cancer, and a year of awful treatment, with complications, during which our son-in-law died tragically, and suddenly, with no warning. He had an undiagnosed heart problem. Somehow, ordinary seems OK. I will settle for that. What is left is a welcome bonus.

Mmhm. Choose to dust under your bed and pay your speeding ticket and watch as all the jobs around us are dismantled.

Life is actually pointless really - nothing to do with how good it bad it is. I keep things simple because why complicate things? What's the point of striving for stuff, you can't take it with you and we're all going to die sooner or later and then none of this will matter. Luckily I'm easily pleased and enjoy the simple things

I agree. It's shit.

Conspiracy theorist?

Sounds like it.

I agree about the wankers, I think all the political unrest has made me look at people very differently.
I was always proud of the uk but since brexshit and now reform restore etc I just think there are cunts everywhere that want to destroy our country.

how will we actually function if everyone brown leaves or is deported. What a sad place it would be.

I think op has found ChatGPT. Or the vodka 🙄🥴

Try having some real hardship then you will realise how great normal and mundane is

I do find the majority of my day pretty dull. Boring tasks. Working a job I have to do to live in a house and have hot water. Feed the kids on repeat. It’s not exciting. But it’s happy here and there. There are good days and some fun people and places. Very fortunate compared to most people across the world and throughout history. I think our lives being so introverted and disconnected from community really doesn’t help with boredom and depression.

@CurdinHenry

The 00s were hard work for me. Lost my parents (and DH lost his) we had 2 young DC very close in age, a big mortgage, very little surplus income, and always something going wrong with the house, (pushing us further and further into debt.) I had a job I didn't mind, but I had several not-so-good work colleagues. (A lecherous Manager, a spiteful and bitchy supervisor who bullied me, and a woman who was really hard work: nosey, gossipy, non-stop talker.)

My free and easy times were the 1970s and 1980s. Everyone remembers their childhood/teen/young person years with fondness and affection. And everyone has their tough times. I'm sure your life will be a bit better/easier in a few years. (I hope so anyway.) My life (and DH's) is much easier now. No mortgage, kids left home over a decade ago, no debts, and a decent sum in savings.

No we don’t know these
children but as fellow humans we can be shocked and hurt and angry on behalf of the vulnerable.

Isn’t that how social progress happens?! People with influence get outraged on behalf of others whose experiences are worse than their own?

100% agree that life is pointless. Totally freeing. I don’t even enjoy the simple things. I enjoy all kinds of complicated things. I live a decent life making myself feel good and I’m replete

Absolutely. Their posts are barely comprehensible.

Ops posts are making loads of sense to me. Op I don’t get the sense you re actively suicidal, more ‘meh’ about it all.

if I’m wrong please call 111 and use option 2 for mental health support.

What do you mean 'people with influence'? Doomscrollers and grief vultures on Mumsnet do not have influence, they just enjoy weeping and wailing and being dramatic.

If they make sense to you, can you please translate them for the rest of us!?

Don’t suggest that! She’ll tell you you’re being depressing for not being able to pontificate the meaning of depressive existence. With candour. Or something.

I'm really really sorry you feel this way 😔. I love life and enjoy almost every day. You have been very unlucky and it's very sad.

As do posters on Mn who bring utterly random things into convos!

Do you really think the rest of us don't have to deal with chores and wankers? As I said, life is what you make it, it is attitude which counts. If you want to be negative then go for it, but don't expect to find enjoyment that way.

I don’t think that’s a secret!

It’s more suppressing the truth or remaining at surface level to fit what’s socially acceptable. Protecting oneself I suppose.

Saying this, there are plenty of parents on MN who have been brutally honest about how they feel about parenthood.