Told DP’s friend to F off

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Was I wrong? DP’s mate held a house party for the England match. One of his friends approached me in the kitchen and said ‘nice legs girl. What time do they open’. I swore at him. He said he was joking. DP now saying he feels awkward. Was I OTT?

He would be an ex for this absolute bullshit. He's showing you who he is, OP. I hope you listen.

Your DP needs to man up and get himself some better friends

Your DP is a bellend and a coward, and his friend can fuck off with using a disability as an excuse to be a creepy, misogynist sex pest.

I bet the gross friend does not say those types of things too his friend's mother or to his boss

I'm very laid back with humour, so is DH. If one of his friends said that to me though neither of us would see the funny side and he would no longer be a friend. Your partner sounds like a very weak man who is scared to upset his friends, this friend obviously knows that if he feels comfortable coming out with such comments.

Exactly this .

You have every right to be seething, his friend is a wankbadger and what he said to you was unacceptable.

And of course, 'birds of a feather flock together' and 'a man is known by the company he keeps' - so frankly your DP is a wankbadger too.

I’m normally quite easygoing when it comes to banter and joking around, but I fail to see the funny side of this at all.

He is a fucking vile creep and your DP isn’t much better if he thinks it’s okay to not stand up for you after that.

Why didn't your DP punch him?

Was he Jay from the Inbetweeners?

vile

If your partner was any friend to this person he would be helping him out by telling him these are inappropriate things to say, if the friend genuinely thinks that this is a good thing to say to any woman.

You absolutely were not OOO.
Spare us all from these dickheads who say sth inappropriate and are always “joking.”
Good for you for telling him to FRO.
Your partner also needs to get with the programme.

Perhaps if your DP feels this is acceptable, then you should be rethinking your relationship with him.

Please tell me you don't have children with him?

You should ask why your DP is so desperate to be attractive to his male friend?

What the friend said to you is grim...no decent man would tolerate that

What a load of bollocks. Your DPs friend is a crude disgusting prick. From your initial post it sounded as if it was DPs friend's friend. Can't believe it is actually one of DPs friends. That level of crudeness would have come out before.

Good on you! He’ll think twice before he makes such a crass comment again. I’m curious about whether the witless friend had a wife / girlfriend who was also at the party? Your DH’s response is interesting; does the witless friend have a higher standing in the group?

Again fucking bullshit. I am so cross on your behalf.

And Jesus wept…

Cant say I’d get wound up by this- I’d have laughed it off or shot him down lightheartedly but different people have different senses of humour so all depends on the personalities and how well you know each other etc although people suggesting your DP punching him etc are all very OTT- lighten up a bit!

Well at least you now know that his friend's feelings are more important to him than yours. And that he thinks that is how to compliment women. And that he will say utter bullshit to shut you up and keep you in your place. That he is as much a creep as his friend.

You weren't OTT or unreasonable. I imagine you are questioning that because when someone shows us who they really are in one moment, it's a bit of a shock.

Enjoy the compliment and move on with life

I would be telling your dh that being autistic is no excuse for that comment and that it’s not acceptable that his only comment is he is going to be embarrassed to attend any further events and that he should be backing you up and speaking to his friend explaining why it’s wrong to make such comment
if his friend made that comment to a complete stranger who was with thier dh does tori dh really think his friend would not have been taken to task and possibly even thumped for such a comment?

your dh is pathetic

Awkward because his friend is a twat!

He totally knew what he was saying.

DP needs a slap for trying to defend him! Paying you a compliment? 🤬

WTF? You would take that as a compliment? Really?

I despair of some posters, I hope they are not bringing up sons and letting them think comments like this to women are okay or bringing up daughters to accept comments like this.