Told DP’s friend to F off

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Was I wrong? DP’s mate held a house party for the England match. One of his friends approached me in the kitchen and said ‘nice legs girl. What time do they open’. I swore at him. He said he was joking. DP now saying he feels awkward. Was I OTT?

That’s vile.

Your DH needs to sort his mate out.

Your DH needs better friends.

DP's friend's comment was awful. He can fuck off.

If your DP feels awkward because you told his friend to fuck off and not because his friend propositioned you incredibly crudely, he can fuck off too.

No you weren’t OTT. He’s a pig. And the only reason your “d”p should feel awkward is because he has vile friends.

You have to be really confident that your audience has that sense of humour before dropping a joke like that, eek, awkward

I'd be telling my partner to f off as well. Poor baby, he feels awkward now, give me strength.

He should've had a word with his mate, the horrible little man, to never speak to you like that and to show you some respect.

You absolutely were not being unreasonable in your response to a horrible crude, sexist, disgusting remark. Yuck.

Your partner should feel awkward that he is associated with people who think it's OK to make comments like that. And people shouldn't make shitty comments if they can't take the consequences. Of course you weren't OTT.

Your DP needs to grow a spine and let his friend know his comments were offensive.

He should feel awkward. Gross

He got away light, I know without having to spend a millisecond thinking that my husband would have blown a fuse if he heard anyone speak to me that way. Your dp should be backing you 100% instead of feeling awkward.

This.

He says his friend was complimenting me but is autistic and socially awkward. I don’t think that’s an excuse!

Your partner should be pissed off with his friend!!! I’ve my dp’s friend attempted to flirt with me (especially with such disgusting line), he’d be livid!!

the only thing that would make him angrier would be me tolerating it.

what would your partner prefer you to have done:
a) laughed it off like a good girl to spare the awkwardness;
b) flirted back with his friend;
c) opened your legs for his friend?

That’s nothing to do with autism.

Go home and tell him if he’s ok with his “friends” talking to you like that he better socialise with them alone.

That old chestnut.
Being autistic doesn't give anyone a free pass to make sexist misogynistic remarks.

DP now saying he feels awkward. He's making you the problem. This is not a good sign. It would actually make me so angry. Some men are such cowards.

Absolute bs.

Wow I’d have left and driven home leaving DH to sort himself out. Before I left idve repeated what he said to the group and maybe grabbed at a quick retort like definitely no entry to you you disrespectful prick - caveman

I’d be very concerned that your DP thinks that an enquiry as to when his friend might be able to fuck you is a compliment.

I know quite a few autistic people and not one would think that having nice legs makes someone a sex shop.

I’d call your DP grossly ignorant but I suspect he knows full well that he’s deflecting your completely reasonable upset with pure bullshit.

He says I should take it as a compliment and that my friend wouldn’t have meant any offence, I am honestly seething right now

Your husband should have been saying that to his “mate” himself rather than giving you a hard time for doing it.

Honestly I’d be questioning who I’d married if he had friends like that (and worse, tried to excuse them and say I should take it as a compliment- almost as bad as him).

His "joking" doesn't make it any better; the fact that he thinks explicit sexual harassment is funny is the problem here not the fact that you or anyone might have taken his - offer? - seriously. He's lucky you didn't punch him. The host should have asked him to leave.

Your partner is a misogynistic arsehole, sorry.

No he bloody wasn't complimenting you.

If your DP feels awkward, he has his only his so-called friend to blame. He should have thrown him out.

Compliment? What the fuck? Your DH is either a coward or a sexist pig like the man who said it. Or both maybe. Ask him how he would have felt if you'd behaved like a scabber and been making crude show-me-your-cock jokes at his friend?

Your DP is a fucking coward.

What does he mean he feels awkward you told his mate to fuck off, surely he should feel awkward his mate asked what time your legs opened and didn't kick him out of the house on his arse when he found out!

It woukd be ExDP for me, championing misogynistic "bants" give me the ick!.