Told DP’s friend to F off

[Aprill24]

Was I wrong? DP’s mate held a house party for the England match. One of his friends approached me in the kitchen and said ‘nice legs girl. What time do they open’. I swore at him. He said he was joking. DP now saying he feels awkward. Was I OTT?

I would stay with this man and I wouldn’t have his child. Worse will come.

He’s showing you his true self. A misogynist prick.
are you prepared for a lifetime of arguments that end with “I earn the most money so my decision is the only one that matters” because that’s how he really feels and it won’t change.

Can’t believe your update OP. He’s invited a man who sexually harassed you into your home?! And then claimed he can because he earns more?! And you are pregnant. The event needs to be cancelled and he needs to be very contrite about his utter disrespect and disregard for you. Otherwise you should consider leaving.

i am sorry, you must be so disappointed in him. For me the issue here is you cannot feel safe with this man. Another man harrasses you in your own home, he ignores it. You tell him you feel uncomfortable, he says I pay more bills than you so tough. The fact he’s not even trying to see your point of view or understand your experience is not a positive sign for the future. It is impossible to navigate things as a team if one person is unable/is unwilling to actually hear the other person. I am sorry to say you need to think carefully about this relationship. Your partner should be someone you can rely on to have your back.

To be clear, your partner has chosen to defend his friend rather than you. He is more concerned about conserving the friendship with his mate and smoothing any tension out because they will spend a lot of the time now and in the future watching football.
Excusing that behaviour because the autism card is unacceptable.
The only acceptable scenario would have been you partner agreeing with you and pulling mate up on it. Even a quick, “mate, that was out of order, she deserves an apology”.
But, he has shown you his cards.

This would have been a, ‘Sorry, just so I haven’t misunderstood how inappropriate you’ve just been, can you repeat that for me, but a little louder?’ Although I also seem F Off perfectly acceptable, autistic or not (no excuse).

I suspect this is a sign you need to sack of DP, because if my DH had heard his mate say that to me (apart from the fact he knows full well I can take care of myself) he’d have gone light….

*edited for typo.

I'm sorry @Aprill24 but your DH has shown you quite clearly how he thinks of you, if you let this slide you will regret it. When you're on ML and have no money are you prepared to have no say at all? Tell him you're married, it's your home too and you have equal say who comes there, at the very least do nothing for the gathering and go out and leave him to it

Yep, this is how it's going to be from now on OP. He will decide everything and you'll go along with it. It will be a miserable life, a frightening life, and it will crush you and any children you have together.

I think you would be better off getting out of the relationship NOW and figuring out if and how to move forward with your pregnancy on your own.

This is your life.

If you have an ounce of sense you will rethink this pregnancy.

Those are the words of an abusive man.

Don't inflict him on a child.

He certainly doesn't love and care for you.

You have made a massive error getting pregnant by a pig.

Take control while you still can.

Eeer no... it's your home and safe space. His friend made the creepy comment, so he can do one. It's one thing your husband not dealing with it, it's completely another to invite him into your home!

Tell him you were joking 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

Again, he didn't do it in the OP's house. It was at a mutual friend's house. But her horrendous partner has given the guy the opportunity to do it again in her house. And made it clear it's more his house than hers. What a prince.

🤯

Ughhh what a tosser ..hubby needs to manup and have a word not be saying you're OTT .. id expect him to say shut your mouth and dont speak to her like that.
Or is he a coward.

Sorry but I would not be having this man’s child and tying myself to him forever. If he’s behaving like this towards you now, and wielding financial superiority over you such that he expects you have to put up with exclusion, misogyny and sexual harassment, then what do you think he’ll be like when you are at your most vulnerable with a baby?

He's showing his true colours now you have a baby on the way. Think long and hard what that means for you, OP. This man sounds an utter prick.

This is how abusive relationships start

Feminism is to blame for men's poor behaviour?

Rule #1 of misogyny: 'women are responsible for what men do'.

He does not. If that's your home one partner gets the veto. If this were my partner he'd be on his way.

I pity the child having such a man inflicted on it.

If OP has his baby, she will be back on here sadly admitting that yes there were clear red flags but she knowingly ignored them.🤷🏻‍♀️.

Madness, but some women have to learn every lesson the hard way.

Urgh.

The notion of conceiving a child with a man like this makes my skin itch.

It's already started I'd say.

I saw a quote the other day “Show me your friends and I’ll show you your future”.

Not a chance I’d be with someone who has friends like that.

Are you young OP? This comes across as a very young person.

You cannot be this desperate for a relationship that you put up with his misogynistic 💩 head for a partner?

Oh noooo….