Page 11 | Told DP’s friend to F off

Aprill24 · 2026-06-17T22:29:57+00:00

Was I wrong? DP’s mate held a house party for the England match. One of his friends approached me in the kitchen and said ‘nice legs girl. What time do they open’. I swore at him. He said he was joking. DP now saying he feels awkward. Was I OTT?

Ohthatsabitshit · Yesterday 08:16

Petrolitis · 18/06/2026 23:16

Not to mention its been shown that boys who are taught to be chivalrous end up being more sexist

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Well anyone taught to behave based on sex is going to be sexist aren’t they?

FlipStonkDragon · Yesterday 09:23

I just saw a story on the Daily Mail by Angela Epstein. It's behind a paywall so I just read the comments but it seems to be about boorish men. A man commented that "you splits are never satisfied" which I reported and checked out the posting history which is full of comments calling someone a "triggered split" and other misogynistic crap.

MumOf4totstoteens · Yesterday 09:42

He should feel awkward because he knows he should have punched that mysogonist pri*k in the face! Wow! I thought that kind of language had gone away decades ago! You did right telling him to F off

MumOf4totstoteens · Yesterday 09:48

WhatTheHellsGoingOn · 18/06/2026 03:23

Surely your DP would have felt more awkward if you’d laughed coquettishly and enjoyed the comment, or if you’d said “I don’t know, when are you free?” (also in a ‘jokey’ way of course) 🙄

Situation where you can’t win, OP, and highlights another case of men putting other men’s comfort first, proving that male approval and validation is the most important thing to them. You were unreasonable to inflict yourself in a male-bonding activity along with all the other females who should be gathered quietly in the kitchen discussing motherhood or weddings or fashion while preparing their men-folk refreshments. 🤮

THIS 100% hit the nail on the head! How dare she be around men watching football - she must be “up for it”

CATomas · Yesterday 18:18

Where is this guy from? Australia?

NotThisShitAgain121 · Yesterday 19:36

So he should. What a wanker. Your partner should be horrified at that and put him in his place.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · Yesterday 21:48

For a man to talk to the partner of their host like that, misogynistic vile comment.

MumsTheWordYouKnow · Yesterday 21:49

Aprill24 · 18/06/2026 08:55

He doesn’t appear to want to say anything further to his friend, he says it was always going to be a lively atmosphere with the ‘lads’ getting together for the football and drink involved. I wasn’t the only woman there btw.

He said if it was any other friend he wouldn’t stand for it, but he can’t blame him too much because of his condition and he is prone to putting his foot in it. He said he understands if I don’t want to see him again, but that means I won’t see other games with DP as they always get together as a ritual.

In that case he needs to explain why that’s unacceptable calmly then. As it is unacceptable from anyone.

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Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

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B9waiting · Yesterday 21:57

Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

OMG are you guys married? Do you have DCs? If not, please leave asap as he’s a nasty misogynistic dickhead.

Yourpartnerisacf · Yesterday 22:00

He understands you never have to see the guy again but then invites him into your shared space, your home? And then tells you he pays more so he gets the final say? No! Not when it comes to you feeling safe in your own home. I am so angry on your behalf.

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Aprill24 · Yesterday 22:01

B9waiting · Yesterday 21:57

OMG are you guys married? Do you have DCs? If not, please leave asap as he’s a nasty misogynistic dickhead.

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Not married, DC on way (quite early still).

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12234m · Yesterday 22:04

I telly hope this dickhead doesn't know you're pregnant as it makes it even more offensive.

Sorry if this is out of order, but if you're very early on, and don't plan on staying with this man who does not have your back, there are options.

FloofyKat · Yesterday 22:16

That’s outrageous! He pays more towards the bills so he gets to choose? He really is The Big Man!

Anyahyacinth · Yesterday 22:22

Wow you've been given a window to your future life...think carefully. This is a clear warning not to get any closer

99bottlesofkombucha · Yesterday 22:27

Anyahyacinth · Yesterday 22:22

Wow you've been given a window to your future life...think carefully. This is a clear warning not to get any closer

Yes, this will be your life if you stay. Pack a bag and go, and think hard about the baby.

B9waiting · Yesterday 22:30

99bottlesofkombucha · Yesterday 22:27

Yes, this will be your life if you stay. Pack a bag and go, and think hard about the baby.

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Agreed - in the words of Maya Angelou (paraphrasing), when someone shows you who they are, believe them! Unless you want this to be your life, get out whilst you still can. Good luck!

Schoolchoicesucks · Yesterday 22:32

Nah, fuck off is the appropriate response.

If he was "joking"/"making an akward compliment" then why is your "jokey" fuck off any problem?

Did you demamd your DH defend your honour? If not, what's he getting his knickers in a twist about?

Stelladid · Yesterday 22:35

Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

Sorry, but you’re husband is an arsehole

OhYeahOhYeah · Yesterday 22:39

Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

Massive red flag. With kindness OP, he sounds like a stupendous wanker…….

jellyfish798 · Yesterday 22:49

Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

Wow, that's bang out of order, in an equal relationship it isn't about who pays the rent, just about sharing a life together, if he doesn't get that then I would bin him off. Imo most fellas would have been fuming with the friend and would have told him to fuck off themselves, some fellas would have taken a swing at him rightly or wrongly. Think your DH was underreacting tbh & should have backed you x

99bottlesofkombucha · Yesterday 23:05

jellyfish798 · Yesterday 22:49

Wow, that's bang out of order, in an equal relationship it isn't about who pays the rent, just about sharing a life together, if he doesn't get that then I would bin him off. Imo most fellas would have been fuming with the friend and would have told him to fuck off themselves, some fellas would have taken a swing at him rightly or wrongly. Think your DH was underreacting tbh & should have backed you x

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no woman ever should have a baby in a relationship with a man who thinks earning money makes him special. If he wants a baby he can grow himself one.

starballoons · Yesterday 23:57

ask DPP if your child is a daughter, would be shrug it off if his friend said that to her? In all honesty him insisting on having his friend over is something that would make me LTB, I would not accept having someone like that under my roof

Whatwerewetalkingabout · Today 00:00

Aprill24 · Yesterday 21:49

We weren’t hosting, but DP has revealed to me today he is planning a gathering for the match next Saturday and his friend will be there. I told him I don’t want him under our roof and he says it’s tough and given he pays more towards our bills he gets the final say.

What a fucking prick!!! Also the revelation that you're pregnant and your DP still didn't stick up for you (assuming he knows) is even more outrageous!

I am sorry but he's treating you so abysmally, I can't believe he's throwing the fact that he's the higher earner, so gets final say about inviting his pervy friend into your house, absolutley outrageous! I would seriously reconsider building a life with this odious little mysogynistic pig!