AIBU to say I cannot keep lifting my mum’s chair?

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My mum had a fall 3 years ago and had a broken hip also diabetes and heart issues
she brought a chair to be go out however it is down to me her only child to lift the chair in and out of everywhere and I hate it. It’s so heavy I have severe shoulder pain each time it rips my clothes and gets mud all over them I feel I cannot do it anymore but if I don’t her life is even more limited than it is.

If the OP’s mother is over pension age and has not been in receipt of PIP before retiring I don’t think she will be eligible for a mobility car or allowance but she may be eligible for attendance allowance.

I have done my share of wheelchair pushing in my time. My mother had a lightweight manual chair which was still a pain to get in and out of the car boot. I really don’t know how you’re managing with a heavier wheelchair. I also on occasion pushed my husband who was a fairly heavy man in a wheelchair. It’s hard work and your Mum is being unreasonable to ask you to lift this chair in and out of the car several times a day.
Just tell her that you can’t do it and if she wants to go out she needs to see an OT to see what they can suggest to help.
Don’t feel guilty, you’re doing your best and her demands are unreasonable.
Try not to judge what she can and can’t do though, although I do understand your frustration.

Your own mother is abusing you! Can’t you see that? Don’t let her carry on treating you worse than a slave!

This is correct. But the poster saying ‘I am on high rate PIP but don’t need / have a motability car’ is eligible, and is choosing to take the mobility allowance rather than the car.

Totally true. I CHOSE not to have a Motability car simply because you then risk not having a car at all if you loose the higher mobility element of PIP.

But my point wasn’t about Motability.
But about the fact you can be a wheelchair user and not need a wheelchair adapted vehicule. I don’t. And yet use an EWC as soon as I set foot outside my house.
Thats also why I’ve listed different ways around the lifting issue the OP has. Lighter EWC, a hoist etc… all of which have no link to Motability.
This is important because, as pointed out by other posters, her mum is likely not receiving PIP and access to Motability anyway.