AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

This is one of the weirdest things I’ve ever read on Mumsnet. Do not do this, OP.

They would be nicer with you in an ordinary outfit, not a matching one. Even shared amongst family he should be getting all the compliments, not you.

I can guarantee that the family members that you share them with will be secretly thinking wtf.

Op there is a lot of genuinely weird people on here. Lots of bullies as well who are just waiting to stick the boot in.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to take a few pics with your son. Id suggest though to make it quick and I probably wouldn't wear colour matched clothes.

However it's not a completely outlandish or ridiculous idea regardless of what some people are saying and your son sounds absolutely fine. Happy prom time 🌺

I got some pictures with dc on prom night but in normal.clothes NOT matching outfits 😱 most of the pics were them and their friends. Yanbu to grab a couple of nice pics with him but yabu to want to do it in matching outfits!

"Op there is a lot of genuinely weird people on here".

Is there indeed ? :-)

"There is nothing wrong with wanting to take a few pics with your son. Id suggest though to make it quick and I probably wouldn't wear colour matched clothes."

I agree. Deliberately buying and wearing colour matched clothes is what is ridiculous. I do not think it is 'bullying' to point that out.

"Happy prom time 🌺".

It is not the op's prom!

The other thing is that if the photos are seen by anyone else (& I know you say they’re not for social media OP) but they won’t look like a photo from his Prom to them if you’re also dressed up (even if it is only a Shein dress) in the same colour. So what you’re trying to actually capture ie a proud moment of him going through this milestone, will be completely lost. It will read more like you were both attending a wedding where the dress code was purple, or some other type of social situation where you & your son both dressed up wearing the same colour would be usual.
Thats why people have said it looks socially wrong because it doesn’t read son going off to his prom.

And as you know matching outfits usually is used for mothers and their babies, twinning shots of couples & Xmas pjs.

I've been seeing a few posts on facebook of mum friends of their DC dressed and ready for prom. Those photos also include pics with mum/ dad/ both parents. The mums are dressed up with lovely hair and make up. They look fab, their DC look fab. They definitely don't look like they are intruding on their DC's prom experience. They are lovely family photos to treasure of an important milestone. And yes completing secondary and celebrating it with your friends is a milestone.

Op, dress up, get the photos. It is a wonderful thing. Not sure what all the negativity is on this post.

Sorry, you sound unhinged. Its not your night - get a grip.

So cringy it's made my toes curl 😳 please do not do this

Yes it’s total cringe and very self absorbed. How embarrassing for him. It’s supposed to be about him just wear something normal and nice and take a normal picture. My son also has room and would be mortified as would I if I behaved like this

Would your son not be embarrassed? It’s a lovely thought, but I think it’s weird. I’m so sorry.

It was my daughter's A Level prom last night. She was getting ready with friends at her best friends house, and all us mothers dropped in to see them and take photographs of them begore they were dropped off. One of the other mothers in our group was talking about this thread and we all laughed at how our daughters would be so embarrased if any of us had turned up dressed in an outfit to have pictures taken with them.

The girls looked beautiful and had photos taken. I've a beautiful one of her. She had a lovely time, as did her friends 🧡

Oh go on OP do tell us…did you ignore 99% of posters and decide to dress up to match DS and have Mother Son photos?

Prom hasn't happened yet..I'm glad you're all so bored that you have to be still so invested in my post that went up a couple of weeks ago now 🤣

My niece (husbands sisters daughter) had her prom yesterday, she looked beautiful. I thought of this thread and the equivalent would be her dad getting dressed up to match her, wearing a tux and taking photos for himself and the family whatsapp we have. It give me the massive ick. It would have looked so so weird.

It’s his prom not yours.
He’s probably being kind saying it’s ok as to not offend you!
Why do you need to be a pics? So you can look back at the memories? Well they should be the pictures of him not both of you.

It‘s a bit cringe! Will you also wear white to his wedding?

I see from the OP’s most recent response that she still won’t say whether or not she has reflected on the majority opinion here. Just another sniffy reply 🤷‍♀️

It's a nice thought but prom is about your DS and his friends. Even if you're super close I think he'd be mortified if you appeared in a matching outfit. Take photos together another time with the clothes instead of his prom night.

She's not going to his prom, photos at home first, he's happy. RTFT

And you created a thread to ask a question but you don't listen to what people are telling you. This prom is not about you. Buying a dress the same colour even if just for home use is such a weird thing to do.

Inspo
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Thought of you as soon as I saw this 😁