AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

OTT and embarrassing. The prom is not your night, get some photos of you together but the prom is all about him and his friends, not you…

Posted earlier - just remembered a friend's daughter's prom and parents or at least mums dressing up. Her DD had arranged to get ready with a group of friends. She was just expecting to drop off but then got a message from the mum whose house it was instructing her to come dressed up for the photos. Never saw these so don't know if it was an all mums pic, mums with DDs or what. Sounded very Amandaland. But whatever makes you happy!

I hope this is a joke!I am having total second hand embarrassment. You need to get a grip you will be humiliating yourself and your son. It's his prom not yours. You are not his date. Why would you be dressing up in a gown? Are you going with him or to the pub. Your really sound unhinged. I asked my sons both in their 30s they both looked horrified and mortified.

I think it sounds lovely, and will be a nice photo to have.

I also think a lot of posters are responding to the thread title, without reading your posts, because otherwise many of the responses make absolutely no sense.

Perfectly reasonable to have a nice photo taken at home with mum & son. However thinking at a level whereby your outfits ‘match’ and asking about this on the internet is way OTT and cringeworthy to me.
The posters who mention lack of girlfriend for a 16 year old or any age, or even incest are out of line and ridiculous IMHO!

Is this an episode of Amandaland?

Nooooo, come on! Matching?! wear something nice, sure! But don't match!!!

Super odd behaviour. Your poor son is going to be very embarrassed I’d imagine…….

Return the outfit and remember what it was like to be a teenager, and how embarrassing you found your folks then! Then let him get on with enjoying the Prom.

Hope he had a great time with his mates x

That's clarified a lot, OP, you sound lovely. Your OP suggested you might be heading for the prom!

I know we all want nice memories of our children . But this memory should be of him, him and his prom date and friends. Not of his mum dressed up in matching colour outfit. This is a resounding NO from me.

Your poor son how embarrassing 😂😂😂 your partners right it's his night not yours

Sorry, I also thinks it’s creepy and “main character”. Does your son know about your plans?

Oh Dear 😬
I've got 2 Sons and it's the last thing I'd want to inflict on them
It's his moment, not yours

FYI, the fact that you bought it from Shein is not the flex you appear to think it is.

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Sorry but a nice dress/outfit would suffice. no need to match. sounds really cringe and embarrassing - maybe take your partners lead on this...

Is this for you or your son?.
It seems a bit strange to include yourself when you won't be going to the prom, just take some photo's in a smart outfit and let your son enjoy himself, matching his outfit is very odd to say the least, seems like you want this to be about you.

Wow. The most embarrassed kid at a prom ever.

She isn't wearing it for Prom or taking him to prom I don't think
Its not something I would do but if she wants to do it for a few photos at home beforehand and her DS is happy to I don't see the issue

Not my idea to do but each to their own, I just took photos of my daughter and her friends.

Nooooooooo.

It's not your night, and this is running a huge risk of "making it all about you." Parading around in a matching dress, like you're his date? Yuck.

There will be plenty of opportunities to have some nice mother/son photos taken, but his prom night isn't it.

Not all of us are just the absolutely unhinged ones

Absolutely not you don’t dress up to match him your his mum not his date!! God help his wife in the future is all I’m saying

Do mums go to proms now Or is it photos at home ?
As others have said.. You're making it all about you.. Won't your son be embarrassed ?