AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

Exactly that so on a post with so much bullying and judgement it certainly came across like it you think it is

Don't embarrass him

It's a little strange

Don't generalize! I have two sons and have never considered doing something this bizarre.

Each wore his kilt and dress jackets to their graduations. One wanted a plaid and looked absolutely fantastic and had more people want their pictures taken with him than they did the head teacher.

At their weddings I got their approval for my outfit.

Let your son be

@Delphiniumandlupins

unlikely the weather has been dog shit

I think as an alternative, you and his dad (or just you) could take him out for a meal to celebrate finishing GCSEs or the results, book a posh restaurant and he can re wear his suit and THEN you get dressed up, make that night the one for the family. Prom is about friends and him growing up and doing it with them - if you dress up at all if should be as a pap or with a chauffeurs hat as those are your rolls on prom night

Completely unhinged😂😂 no 16 year olds I know would want their mum dressing up to match them at prom, he’s probably a nice sweet boy who’s afraid to say no and hurt your feelings

It's very sweet, but you need to do the photos at home and then change into something more low key. At my son's prom a few years ago, the parents who came along to see the arrivals were all dressed very causally in jeans and shorts and sundresses etc. It's my DD's prom in a few weeks. She's at a different school and it's a different venue but I imagine it will be quite similar in terms of the parents - watching proudly from a distance in an outfit that it not remotely dressy. I think you are on the wrong tack but your post has made me smile.

I'd have been absolutely mortified if my mum did this. Your not his girlfriend your his mum. 🫣

OMG....don't do that, how embarrassing for him. By all means have a photo with him, it your normal everyday clothes, but buying a dress to match is ott. It is his night, not yours, are you usually so overbearing?

Jesus Christ, what is wrong with some people on here?! Some of you are sick bullies who would hopefully think twice before speaking to someone like this to their face but clearly have no problem being complete dicks anonymously. Insinuating this mother is in an incestuous relationship with her son or that he must be gay because he doesn't have a girlfriend? Wtaf?? And slagging off a teenagers choice of suit??

My daughter is almost 17 and doesn't have a boyfriend but that doesn't mean she's gay!! What the hell?! Some of her friends have boyfriends/girlfriends and some don't. No big deal.
I'm in Ireland and our kids have Transition Year balls (prom dresses/suits) so something similar. They all went as a group. If they had a boyfriend or girlfriend, they brought them along but most went on their own. They all gathered in 1 house for 'pres' and the parents were invited for a quick photo before they headed off. Everyone had something nice on but i've no idea if anyone bought something new. Some parents had dresses, some had jeans/trousers and a nice top. Smart casual type things. We were there for about 20/30 mins. No one batted an eyelid over what anyone else was wearing.
So what if the OP bought a new dress to wear? She wants a nice photo with her son in his suit. She will be in the privacy of her garden. Yes, it would be different if she was following him to the prom, clinging onto his arm like his date in front of his friends. Obviously that would be weird. But she isn't so stop making a big deal and being rude and insulting over nothing.

I voted YABU but after reading through your thread I have changed my mind. Also, I dont know why people are being so rude towards you and you son, good for him for choosing something different to wear, I hope he has a great time.

I’m confused - parents of prom attendees are not involved are they, other than tho bank-roll the outfits and serve as taxi drivers. Never seen a mother and son prom photo on my FB or community pages - just groups of kids with their classmates all done up and ready to head off together.

I’m in the ‘this is slightly creepy/enmeshed and not really appropriate’ camp. Let him have his suit, take some pics with his peers if you are there at drop off, and keep well out. It is HIS night. His event to celebrate the end of exams, being 16 and leaving school to go on to 6th form. It’s nothing to do with parents. Don’t steal it from him.

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I think you have been given n unnecessarily hard time and some people are just absolutely rude bitches . there are lots of ways to say they don't think it's a good idea without being awful.
My son and his friends had photograph with family members before they went to the prom. So there was quite a lot on social media - some of the mums, some of the mums and dads some of the brothers and sisters some of the whole family together and lots of them on their wn or the friends they were going with. Nobody got really dressed up but that was because quite a few either went with them to drop them off or were there watch them arrive in whatever vehicle had been hired. However if you're not going to drop him off and you just want a nice picture of the two of you dressed up go for it. At that age you've probably got loads of pictures of him in jeans / joggers and you similarly dressed casually but few dressed up.

Did you dress-up in a pink outfit to match? No? That’s the issue here.

You can do whatever you want, if you and your son are happy with the plan then just ignore your partner but you’ve posted on AIBU so you have opened yourself up to these comments. If you are both happy with the plan then go for it and say exactly that to your partner, but I am
wondering why you’ve asked the question?

It's completely fine, you are in your own home, doing something your son is completely fine with.

This. It’s his day.

You are not even listening to the replies. Are you mad?? Why even post the question.

fwiw OP, I did say YABU but I think commenters on this have gone slightly unhinged with how mean and harsh they're being

Another thread that asks a question , but the OP already decided the answer. Why?

No, I didn’t, you’re right in that. But I s’pose my point is, if it’s a few photos at home before he heads off-which the OP seems to be saying is the case- who’s going to see or care?

Whoever sees the photos.

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