AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

I was just thinking the same

I've asked Mumsnet to remove the post two days ago as it's getting out of hand now, I can get people are entitled to agree or disagree but it's absolutely out of order to indicate something as sinister as incest going on-for that to enter anyone's mind questions what goes through their own minds about thinking it's wrong to have a close relationship with a son without thinking it's nothing but disgusting freakish or creepy

I asked my DS his opinion on this (his prom was last year) his response was surprisingly polite: "Politely, no mother, just no. School is a cruel, cruel place and you do not need this following you up to college." He went to a friend's house for pre-prom where they all had pictures together whilst the parents had a bit of a drink and a reminisce. I was smartly dressed, but not to match my son, as I was playing chauffeuse and taking them all to prom (and back) in my big red bus. My son wouldn't get anywhere near to me to allow anyone to take a photo of us together 😂 frankly, I count myself lucky he allowed photos at all, he's usually allergic to a camera! Some of his friends had photos with their parents, some did not, but I can promise none of the parents were matchy matchy. I'd kindly suggest, have the mum and son photos if he's amenable but save the dress for date night.

I was hoping to see this! 😂

😂 Absolutely not!
Let him enjoy his night, it has nothing to do with you, it’s all about him!
my son would have been mortified if I’d done that!
We had photos at home but I didn’t dress up, they’re still lovely memories…….of HIS night!

Have you told him of this thread?

This is creepy. The night is not about you. Dont do it

I think this is what my 14 year old would call ‘Ultimate Cringe’. Sorry

OP ‘I’d like to dress up to co-ord outfits for prom photos with my son, is that weird?’

Everyone ‘Yes, that’s not something anyone does, ever’!

OP ‘you’re all wrong!’

😂😂😂

Very strange sorry, it’s his night not yours

OP is definitely wearing white to that poor lad's wedding isn't she

I would have found it super weird if my mum did this and she is my favourite person in the world! She took a photo of me and had it framed (still sits proudly in her cabinet) and she took some photos of me with my best friend. We have lots of photos together but they are from events/ holidays we attended together.

Woah there, I’m a mum of 2 boys both who have had proms and I never did this!!!

Look forward to reading your dauggter in laws posts in 15 years

Have you seen what I've said is wrong with some of these comments? I'm not at all saying they're wrong to disagree, they're wrong to be cooking up some weird incestuous allegations purely for a son and mum being close in nothing more than a mother and son way.....or did you conveniently not see those kind of comments?

Talk about being a sucker for punishment.

You started a thread about something that apparently everyone in RL including the important person (DS) thinks is absolutely fine apart from your Boyf who isn’t ds’ dad.

And then you have continued to return despite 98% voting against you and you being clearly angered by the response.

Just maybe hide the thread? Worth a shot!

Gotta keep stoking the thread so it makes 40 pages. Why give up now?

OP, out of the many hundreds of posts on your thread, and the 6174 votes (so far), only a handful made gross insinuations, and most of those were in jest (although still out of order, I agree). 99.9 percent just said buying a new matching dress and shoes for prom photos with your child was cringe and please don't do it.

I am very close to my sons- I love them more than life itself. But I know when to take a step aside and let them shine by themselves. I know that right now (13 and 16) their friends are more important to them than I am and in the future there will be girlfriends/wives/children that will be more important to them than I am. And that's fine. I can love them from the side line and be happy and proud for their accomplishments without needing to insert myself as one of the main characters in their lives.

You want me to focus on other posters in your thread OP? …

Not at all you don't need to focus on others comments. I'm stating that nobody is wrong for disagreeing I've not said that I'm saying they're wrong to imply something as sinister as some form of incest is going on and being quite nasty about a kid who is close with his mum stating that its weird disgusting creepy bordering on incest. I'm pretty sure that you wouldn't really be agreeing with others if they were saying those kind of things about you and your kid would you?

I laughed so hard at this I just spat water out 😂

Absolutely love the jacket you showed, your son will look great. I'm old but he gave me Adam Ant vibes who I crushed on relentlessly. I can't imagine you would be getting all this 'is he gay' crap if you had a 16 year old daughter who was going with mates as she wasn't interested in boys, you'd be getting all....Good for her, boys are nothing but trouble let her get a career first. Etc etc. They wouldn't say she must be a lesbian! I am sat here picturing all these vitriolic old bints on their phones getting all worked into a froth because they can be as vile as they want without repercussions. Its none of anyone's business what anything cost although I did get a tremor of shock when a man at work showed us the £4k dress for his daughter prom, she also had a pony. He worked in ky office and never gave any indication he was very wealthy but was a lovely guy. I'll report this for you too, I think the old bats who have got off on being crass have had enough excitement for one week. Hope your son has a lovely prom and do get your purple themed photo for prosperity. X

Absolutely love the jacket you showed, your son will look great. I'm old but he gave me Adam Ant vibes who I crushed on relentlessly. I can't imagine you would be getting all this 'is he gay' crap if you had a 16 year old daughter who was going with mates as she wasn't interested in boys, you'd be getting all....Good for her, boys are nothing but trouble let her get a career first. Etc etc. They wouldn't say she must be a lesbian! I am sat here picturing all these vitriolic old bints on their phones getting all worked into a froth because they can be as vile as they want without repercussions. Its none of anyone's business what anything cost although I did get a tremor of shock when a man at work showed us the £4k dress for his daughter prom, she also had a pony. He worked in ky office and never gave any indication he was very wealthy but was a lovely guy. I'll report this for you too, I think the old bats who have got off on being crass have had enough excitement for one week. Hope your son has a lovely prom and do get your purple themed photo for prosperity. X

It’s weird. He’s 16, not 8. This is giving off “wearing white on his wedding day”……..