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AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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MissRaspberryRipples · 13/06/2026 14:39

Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

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Sirzy · 13/06/2026 14:40

Each to their own but to me that screams of making it about yourself rather than him

Credittocress · 13/06/2026 14:40

It’s a bit enmeshed and creepy. It’s the sort of thing my ex-MIL would have done.

WombatStewForTea · 13/06/2026 14:41

Yes it's weird.
You're his mother not his date.

outerspacepotato · 13/06/2026 14:41

Oh honey, no.

ChaChaChaChanges · 13/06/2026 14:42

Very weird.

Ukholidaysaregreat · 13/06/2026 14:42

Hi OP, I think you sound very nice and caring. Hope you have a lovely night. I did think this sounds a lot though and I haven't heard of it happening. I would cut your partner some slack, they probably haven't heard of it either.

murasaki · 13/06/2026 14:42

Agree, you'd look like you want to be his date. Don't do it. Naff beyond all measure.

Fizbosshoes · 13/06/2026 14:43

My son had his prom a few weeks ago, i didnt consider getting in the pic, I have seen a few mum and son pics on sm but mum isnt normally dressed up as such.

Reptilesthatiswhattheyare · 13/06/2026 14:43

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daisychain01 · 13/06/2026 14:43

On this one I'd do everything possible to be there for your son but not make it about you.

Let him get the attention wearing his purple suit, which is a lovely colour, that impact is his for his prom event, not for you.

It could make him feel a bit babyish, matching his mum's clothes....

TomatoSandwiches · 13/06/2026 14:44

😬

UnderTheSycamore · 13/06/2026 14:44

What does your son think? Did he have any say in you choosing a matching outfit?

Unless he specifically requested it it would be an absolute no from me. Don't make him a laughing stock.

blythet · 13/06/2026 14:44

i only have a Dd so not an exact comparison. She would be absolutely mortified if I done this. Plus, i’d imagine it would be even more cringe for a son!

FckThisShit · 13/06/2026 14:45

Yeah sorry op, it's very odd and screams enmeshed boy mom..

Florabella · 13/06/2026 14:45

Surely this is a joke! 🤣

Clarabell77 · 13/06/2026 14:45

Sorry, it is a bit much. I don’t see many parents getting in the photos never mind colour coordinating their outfits.

Pumpkintopf · 13/06/2026 14:45

Hmm. This does seem a bit OTT op!

BitOutOfPractice · 13/06/2026 14:45

If you want your son to be teased mercilessly, and you to be thought a weirdo, do it!

TedMosbysWife · 13/06/2026 14:46

Why are mum of boys like this ?

Maddy70 · 13/06/2026 14:46

It's his night. Why are you making it about you ?

MissRaspberryRipples · 13/06/2026 14:47

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I don't really post on social media so it's nothing to do with that. I just thought it would be nice to have a photo for the memories to be honest. My eldest didn't get a prom unfortunately due to COVID

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SwingTheMonkey · 13/06/2026 14:47

Lordy, no. That’s peak ‘boy mum’.

WyrdHag · 13/06/2026 14:47

Is your name Victoria?!

MakeItRain · 13/06/2026 14:47

My 16 year old son would probably never speak to me again if I did this! He's not even sure he wants me to drop him off at his prom, let alone get out the car for a photo op 🤣

youalright · 13/06/2026 14:48

🤣🤣🤣🤣 its not your prom, you're not 16 anymore and he is your son not your date.

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