AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

My eldest didn't get a prom unfortunately due to COVID

Then a photo of youngest and you will be a forever reminder of that.

Yet another reason not to do it.

Rude pie.

I would never.

We took some nice photos of DS and his friends. Ditto DD and her friends. That is normal. I don't think we took any photos of DS/DD with me or DH, but I think I probably saw some photos of friends with their DSs (or DDs). That is also normal.

I am pretty sure that I did not see any photos where mum or dad had clearly made a special effort. They were just wearing normal day to day clothes. And I am 100% sure that I did not see photos where mum or dad were obviously matching!! That is definitely not normal and will invite comment from anyone who sees it.

If the photos are 100% just for you and will not be shared then it's fine. But if not, then be wary. People will judge.

That makes no sense, he would just take the jacket off then if it was too hot? Unless you have gotten him one purple suit and one cream linen suit like the man from DelMonte also?

Sorry for joking, but it’s not your night. Definitely do not dress up to match him.

I think having a photo together with parents is pretty normal. Not universal - I don't think DH or I did with either of our kids - but not weird either.

Cringe fest 🙈 god so cringe
thanks op for giving me a good laugh I needed it 😅
please please don't do this

I don’t know if I find this funny or if I’m horrified.

Please please do not do this.

But all dressed up matchy matchy?

A photo with parents is absolutely fine. Buying a brand new, matchy-matchy outfit for said photos is weird.

Rude pie??😄😄😆

I would never either.
My son didn't have a prom (they were not a thing back then) but my grandsons did. The only pics of the adults were tof hem bending down, straightening trousers, adjusting ties etc....and certainly none of us were wearing matching outfits.

OMG no! 😂😂😂 mum of 3 DDs, one prom done and one in 2 weeks. This is sooo weird. It’s his special day, not yours. Are you going to wear a wedding dress to his wedding? It’s along the same lines.

Jesus he's 16 not 21. Why is it seen as unusual for a 16year old lad to not yet be bothered about having a girlfriend? It doesn't mean anything if he doesn't or do you really think that every single teenager defines themselves with a relationship status? I mean that's quite shallow to think that your kids simply must have a partner at 16 and if they don't it simply HAS to be because their parent will fuck it up. I have two adult daughters who have partners and live independently it's not like I lock them up and force them to only love mummy Jesus Christ your comment is ridiculous

This can’t be real. No one does this.

I bloody hope so! If my mum had worn colours to match me at my graduation ceremony - or any other time - I'd have cringed myself inside out! 🤣

Oh gosh no. Coordinated outfits for prom are a couples thing. You will look like you want to be your son's date, and that's putting it politely.
Absolutely get a nice photo with him, you and DH if everyone is up for it. Don't dress up for his night. For the love of Cher don't dress in matching purple outfits for the photo.

too funny...

But anyone else getting the feeling this all must be a wind up? What with the follow ups about needing two suits because one might be too warm, and her son saying it's nice for mum to buy the special matching dress and shoes, and the thing about her son not wanting girlfriends......?

I saw a poster here call someone it and the phrase has stuck with me.

Bad enough having new clothes purchased with probably low use for such an event, you make it even worse.

Hope it is a joke thread.

but you did choose and buy it for matchy photos.....REALLY do not do this.

Beyond creepy. And mortifying for your son. If I was him and you did this there is no way I’d go to my prom.

Sorry but it just screams that mummy is over involved in him dressing up like she is his prom date.

Giving major future mil from hell vibes.

also just seen it looks like he is the youngest is there a bit maybe a smidge of scared to let the last baby my baby boy go.

Fucking prom. I'm sick of it, has turned into some American ridiculous charade. It's a sit down meal and an awkward disco.

It's no more unreasonable than women who dress their daughters like them, so I'm not going with any sexist boymum rants. But no better either.

OP, most teenagers have raging hormones at 16. If he is heterosexual, it's highly unlikely that he isn't yet interested in girls. But of course, he may well choose to keep his interests private from his mother, and that's fine.