AIBU to dress up to match my son for his prom?

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Hi there. My son has his high school prom coming up next month as he's 16 and doing his GCSEs at the moment. He's chosen his outfit choices and I've purchased both suits that he liked so he has a choice. He's gone for purple suits which are lovely. I've also purchased myself a lovely purple dress and some nice shoes so that he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night. I showed them to my partner and all he has said is that they're nice and will look great but why am I making such an effort when it's not even my night? He says it's silly and isn't necessary. He thinks I'm overdoing it on the effort for a night that isn't for me. Is it really unreasonable to want to make the effort or is he just being unnecessarily mean

I think I might suggest I do this to my 16 year old, just to see his reaction 😆

Is there a reason that this feels like such a big milestone for you? I know your eldest missed prom, but that's sad for them, not for you. Proms are new to me in the UK, but I know from seeing US ones that it is supposed to be a coming of age type thing, either with a date or with your mates. I've never heard of a parent marking it like this and involving themselves before. You can take a nice picture with him before hand without making it a big thing.

Urgh, no, don't do that. And don't keep saying purchased either. The word you're looking for is bought.

Dd just had her prom and wanted to take a photo with me, which we did but I was in my joggers with hair all over the place. If I’d thought ahead I might have been wearing something different. Probably not matching pink sequins though.

Go for it OP and he can put it on Awkward Family Photos when he’s older.

I enjoyed the look of abject horror on DD’s face when I read this post out to her.

Please update when you do! My kids are only tweens now and even at this age I would be given a dramatic side eye and "yeah...no" 🤣

Mum and son matching outfits, irrespective of the occasion, is odd.
You don’t need to match to take nice photos and to be honest wearing something matching does not say ‘making an effort’,
Sorry but you’re thinking on this is very off.

So out of the whole post you decided it was appropriate to correct the grammar? Although purchased and bought are pretty much the same meaning

Most bizarre!!!! This is definitely NOT about you!!

Totally OTT and unnecessary

Did you go to trouble of matching the purple EXACTLY? Bless your heart ♥️

My youngest had his prom this week, we took pictures of HIM and his friends, not with us. And getting an outfit to match is beyond weird.

Oh god no. Had my son at 25 & have been mistaken for his partner a few times as he’s got older & it’s deathly embarrassing for him. Don’t do it- it’s just weird. I’d say the same with a dad/daughter combo.

Nooooooo! Don't even think of doing this. Leave your DS to have his moment without hijacking it.

How can you be so tone deaf as to not see how inappropriate this would be and how it would make your son a laughing stock?

Your older son clearly dodged a bullet

I’m already feeling sorry for your son’s future spouse. 🫣

"...he can have some lovely mum and son photos taken on his special night..."
Sorry, OP - he's not going to want to have to do this. You are wanting to wriggle into his awareness for some reason - maybe explore why, whilst returning the dress and shoes.

This is a reverse, isn't it? Please tell me it is. Please.

No it's not an EXACT match at all. It's just purple. I own a couple of purple clothes as I like the colour so it's not like I've gone and got a dress just for one photo it's something I'll wear more than once or twice

Very weird and why two suits? He won’t fit into them 18. If you can return one do, and please don’t dress up beyond a nice summer dress that you could be genuinely wearing at 6pm at home.

Whatever you do, don’t post the photos anywhere his Pals might see them.

Placemarking 🤣

No, I also told you not to wear the dress and shoes for the photo. It's not a grammatical point either - I just hate the use of formal, Latinate terms where they don't belong, especially twice in close proximity to each other.

Are you Liz Hurley?

Let us know his level of horror when you do.