Inheritance One

[Chocolatefiregaurd]

I need some impartial opinions.

I will try and keep a very, very long story short.

Grandparent has died. I provided 90% of care prior to their passing. It was hard.

I never expected anything financially as the will was clear and it wasn’t a secret, everything was to be split between their children equally. I provided the care because I wanted too not because I thought I would benefit in some way.

Here is the AIBU.

My parent has received the money from the estate and would like to give myself and my siblings a financial gift.

They would like to give us £2000 each.

I feel really annoyed by this.

Neither of my siblings saw my grandparent for at least four years.

I suppose I feel miffed that I dedicated so much time and effort to providing care when they didn’t and that they will now benefit.

I have tried to work out what I would want to happen and I just don’t think it is fair they benefit.

I probably am being unreasonable as the money is now my parents to do what they want, it just stings I suppose.

I agree with you OP. I’d raise it with your parent and encourage them to withdraw the offer from you grandchildren. Can’t believe your siblings didn’t see their grandparent for 4 years. Wow, how callous!

Do your siblings know about your parents debt?

I think it’s time to have a family meeting.

Hi Op I get what you’re saying but unfortunately your siblings didn’t care about grandparents and you do. So you are grieving and there cheerful about the money. If I was you I would accept the gift put in the bank and in the future if you need something use it then. You can’t control your parents or siblings feelings and some people are just heartless. Op but you can keep your dignity and let the grief process happen. Your parents are just thinking they are being kind giving you all a lump sum. Equally which is fair for their children. Sorry for your loss.