To be annoyed partner is still not home?

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So my partner went out to meet his fellow area managers .
They met at 5pm (for apparently a couple of drinks and a meal )
They have met in a city that’s a hour away.
He didn’t take his key because he said he wouldn’t be late.
Hes just text asking for the bus timetable ,I sent it over and he replied saying he’s getting the midnight bus.
So he’s not getting home till after 1am
Hes got no key so I’m gonna have to stay up
He has work at 7am in the morning as well
He asked if I was Annoyed,I just said well you will be tired tomorrow at work (I now work from home and off till Tuesday)
Aibu ? Just take your key but tbh I wouldn’t sleep anyway till I knew he was home.

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I don't take my key either...I have no idea why I don't like doing it, I think because I never take a bag with me (use my phone for everything including apple pay)and a key is just another thing to put in my pocket ...I am a bit odd I guess 😄 and our back door is always unlocked until we go to bed. So on a night out, or during the day if no-one's in and the back door's locked, I do of course take my key! I guess your husband didn't plan on being out so late and that's why he didn't take it

id be pissed about the key - wouldnt care how late he was home in general though or if he couldnt get up for work

Clearly he thinks you are his concierge service.

If his phone had internet he could look up buses. If he’s capable of working as an area manager in the corporate world then he can read a timetable. I expect he wanted you to go and fetch him.

Failing to take keys is fucking ridiculous. Eleven year old children have to learn to manage carrying keys and getting home once they go to high school. Either he takes keys, or he organises a key safe.

So he'll inconvenience you, because he's a grown child who won't carry a key. I can see how attractive that must be.

I hate taking a key. I take my phone and lipgloss on a night out. Can’t explain why. But we live in a really safe area and just leave the door unlocked 😬🙈 (the dog would bark if anyone came in that wasn’t dh or me). I can see why op is irritated though and I’d be annoyed and make him take a key next time or get a key box with a code for outside.

I wonder what time he skulked in

Lipgloss takes up more space than a key though.

And the Rugby WC isn't on either

And I’ve shown where my priorities are 😂.

You can't settle until he's in? That sounds incredibly feeble. You're not his mother.

We also have women’s rugby world cups.

In future, hide the key outside somewhere and take yourself off to bed.
If he’s tired or hungover for work the next morning, that’s his problem.

I literally got the ick after reading it.

I’m just hoping OP meant her teenage DS, else the way he’s acting/she’s treating him is actually gross.

He is a grown man, leave the key somewhere and fgs let him breathe !

As everyone else has said - he can come home when he likes, leave the key out and go to bed.

You’re writing like hes a child. You need to sort your sleep out and let him sort himself out.

I hope you just planked the key and went to bed, mountain/mole hill jeez

first post nails it.....or just lock him out.

Do you lock the front door when you're just pottering in the house - watching TV, having a shower etc? We never do. We only lock the front door if we're all out, or we're all in bed. It hadn't really occurred to me do do anything else 😬

We obviously don't live in a crime free utopia - a small suburb/village on the edge of a city in NE England.

I'm not the poster you're replying to but yes, our door locks automatically when we close it behind us.

I also know of people who have had things stolen while they were at home and their doors were unlocked. My parents had their car taken off the driveway in a similar scenario.

Why not just take his key like an ordinary human being?

The chances of someone trying your door on the off chance that it's unlocked before her husband returns home are very low.
I have left the door unlocked at night before in exactly the same situation with no issues.
We have lights outside the front that light up if anyone approaches or even walks by and houses at both sides have webcams that cover our drive. And I leave lights on in the hallway and landing that are easily visible from outside. She could even leave a light on visible through the front window.
It's just as safe as people's suggestions to leave the key hidden under a pot.

I'd actually much prefer a door like this! Ours expands in the heat and is a pain to close and lock properly in the summer. I do worry about (teen) DC coming and going for this reason!

No one would want to steal our car - it's a right banger 🤣

Yes, of course. Due to the layout of my house someone could come in quietly and steal my car keys without me knowing if I was just watching TV or in the shower.

Unfortunately, there have been chancers in our village trying doors, so not locking your front door is not a good idea. The gate into our garden is always locked so leaving the back door unlocked during the day is much less of an issue.

Locking doors is just common sense.