To be annoyed partner is still not home?

[inkyspells]

So my partner went out to meet his fellow area managers .
They met at 5pm (for apparently a couple of drinks and a meal )
They have met in a city that’s a hour away.
He didn’t take his key because he said he wouldn’t be late.
Hes just text asking for the bus timetable ,I sent it over and he replied saying he’s getting the midnight bus.
So he’s not getting home till after 1am
Hes got no key so I’m gonna have to stay up
He has work at 7am in the morning as well
He asked if I was Annoyed,I just said well you will be tired tomorrow at work (I now work from home and off till Tuesday)
Aibu ? Just take your key but tbh I wouldn’t sleep anyway till I knew he was home.

He needs to take a key, tough if he hates carrying them. Not fair to expect you to stay up. I’d have gone to bed and just woke up to answer the door, or shove the key under the mat.

He's probably enjoying himself... 🙄

He should carry his own keys and look up his own bus times.
You should stop behaving as if you’re his Mummy.

Do men expect it or do they just get used to women who mother them? all kinds of weird going on

Its inconsiderate of him to not take keys but he can stay out as long as he wants, he's an adult - stop acting like his mum

I would also be annoyed at the expectation that I'd just stay up, but would go for the hide a key option.

Did he make it onto the last bus?

You've turned into his mum

Can you not tie them on a bit of string and hang them round his neck?

I wouldn’t risk a key safe. A grown man should be able to carry his own keys.

being out a bit late on rare occasions is fine.
You need to put your foot down though on being his door person. You aren’t his employee.

What would he do if you didn't live together but were in a living apart relationship, come and expect to stay at yours?

I think I’d have ignored his request for the bus timetable. If he was so drunk he couldn’t google, he should probably have stayed at a hotel and not taken a bus. No impetus for him to look after himself when mummy can always be relied upon to step in though!

You are not his mother. He is not a child.

Don't be naive.

Most of us don't live in the kind of Utopian area that you do.

I live in a low crime area, but it isn't a no crime area. No insurance company, loss adjuster or crime prevention officer would give out your ridiculous "advice".

On occasion my dd has forgotten her key. We just hide it somewhere outside if she's going to be late. I don't stay up waiting and worrying about her, I certainly wouldn't re DH.

It wouldn’t bother me but I would go to bed when I wanted (dh would take a key) You can be annoyed he didn’t take a key as understandably you wouldn’t want to go to bed with the door unlocked. But any issues about needing to stay up until he’s home are your issues. Would he be annoyed if the situation was reversed?

What a loser.

I'd suggest changing the locks, but it doesn't sound like you need to!

I didnt realise you were married to a child?

He needs to take his keys out. Or get a key safe.

I find this odd.
DH always has his keys with him, but if he gets home late (he works in different parts of the country so can get home between midnight and 2am) I just go to sleep with the front door unlocked! I don't see it as an issue at all?!

YABU

I might be evil but I’d go to bed when I wanted to and ‘not hear’ the door. After a night in the porch he might learn his lesson…

You don't see leaving the door unlocked as an issue?

Really?

Where is this zero crime rate Utopia that you live in? You are very naive.

The time wouldn't particularly annoy me, but not taking a key, that would! It doesn't matter if your husband 'thought he wouldn't be late', plans can change (which they obviously did!). I'd message him to say the 'key is under the mat' (or wherever else is suitable) and go to bed. If your husband is tired and has to be up early tomorrow, well that's his doing and choice.

Hope you left a key out and went to bed.

Not sure why you’re bothered about him being tired today .. not your problem.

Let it go this time but insist in future he carries his keys at all times. He can find a way to attach them to his wallet or phone if he's really so bad at keeping track of things.

It's absolutely bizarre. I can never wrap my head around it when i see it come up again.